People say "don't ruin the rest of your pregnancy," but I would SOOOOOOO much rather work through those awful feelings pre-baby. For me figuring out an awesome name has always helped,\
This pretty much sums it up for me.
I would much rather work through emotions while pregnant than risk depression post baby. Also, I would rather sacrfice enjoying my pregnancy for enjoying my newborn. I realize that most people say that once the baby is born, you won't care if he's a boy or a girl and I know that has been true for me 100%, but I have always had 4 - 5 months to get excited for a specific gender rather than holding out hope for a specific gender, so I don't know how that would work out, but I wouldn't want to risk it.
I plan to stay team green next time around because I have come to a place where I truly would be just as happy with a boy as a girl even though this will likely be my last.
I think the best time for a delivery room surprise is when you are completely neutral on desired gender.