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29-Jun-12 9:48 am

 About your gender disappointment? Would you talk to them about it when they are older?

  

I never wanted boys. And now I have 2 of them. I wasn't too upset when I had ds1, cuz I knew I'd have one more chance. But when I found out about ds2, I was devastated. But after he was born, I was just so in love with him and he is kinda my favourite now. lol  I do believe I will talk to him when he gets older about it all, but not in a way to make him feel bad, but to show him how much he is loved. That I didn't know I wanted him until I had him and now I can't imagine my life without him.

 

Will you talk to your kids about it or will you keep that from them?

 

 

 

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29-Jun-12 9:57 am

 

I personally will never share it with ANYONE let alone my sons who I love more then life itself.  I would be to afraid they would not underdstad and take it the wrong way, then I would never be able to take it back.  But you know your own kids and how they will take it, good luck in the future with what ever you decide.

 

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29-Jun-12 10:05 am

My kids do.  My GD isn't too severe but my my 2 older boys were old enough to understand what was going on with the last baby...I was told girl at 18 wks then boy at 22.

I don't see anything wrong with my kids knowing that I want something and don't get it.  Life isn't fair ya know?

But they want a girl just as badly if not more than I do. lol.


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29-Jun-12 10:06 am
Personally, my kids have no idea that I've suffered from GD and never will. I'll never tell my DS#4 that I had hoped he was a girl. And if this one I'm carrying is DS#5, he'll never know either! I think some things are better left unsaid. But like FARMER said, you know your son best of all and know what you share with him!! My boys are all hoping that this one is a girl,,,so they are the ones suffering from GD at the minute, Lol!! But I just tell them that God will give us the right person for our family and that it doesn't matter. So the boys don't think I have a preference AT ALL!!
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29-Jun-12 10:33 am

 My boys know about my GD..  they had it too. They wanted SO bad for DS3 to be a girl.. my oldest was just as upset as I was. They want a little sister SO bad, and that's why this last time.. I was SO praying it was a girl.. not just for me but for THEM!!   Well, it's another boy and they both cried when I told them..  We are all getting a bit better now, but I still cry everyday.   

My oldest was upset that DS3 was a boy.. it took him a long time to get over it. They argued with me for WEEKS that it was a girl..  but I showed them over and over the potty shot, and finally they accepted it. It's the same with this one..  

I keep looking at the u/s photo..  praying it will change. Lol    

But, it never will and OUR dreams of a little sister are over  Sad

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29-Jun-12 11:54 am

 No and they never will. 


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29-Jun-12 1:17 pm

 well see, I never had GD over the boys I have now.  I didn't care what I had for my first two because I always wanted two boys and a girl.  I really want a girl for my third but the boys don't really know.

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29-Jun-12 2:26 pm

Nope my boys never knew and I won't ever tell them. Why would I want them to know I was ever disapointed in them especially over something they can't control? What purpose would that serve? Even as adults I think that would be painful to hear.

During my pregnancy with DS3 I hid my GD very well. They would see me sad sometimes but I never let on the reason for it. In fact I always tell them how lucky they are to have all brothers and how I love having boys (my older 2 are at the "icky girl stage" now so they think it's funny that even their mom likes having all boys). I would never go so far as to say I didn't want girls because even though we are pretty sure we're done with kids there is always a chance we may have another and if we did have a girl I wouldn't want them to think I didn't want her.

So basically the answer is no and I can't see any benefit in ever telling them. The age old saying "what they don't know can't hurt them" is certainly true here.

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29-Jun-12 2:44 pm

I should add that I never once have been sad that I was having a boy, just would like a girl too.  Even after I found out that #4 was a boy after being told a girl I didn't feel sad or tell them that I was sad.  We were all excited to get each boy but still want a girl. Did that make sense?

I have never been dissapointed in a baby's gender.


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29-Jun-12 2:48 pm
I have never shared with them that I have GD, but if for some reason I see when my kids are having kids and they seem to have it, I would share with them that I went through it and they are not alone and how much I loved them when they were here!

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29-Jun-12 3:21 pm
My boys don't know and I will never tell them that I wanted a girl with them. I think all kids are different though and if you're able to lovingly use it to show your boys how much you love them then it probably couldn't hurt.
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29-Jun-12 3:37 pm
I would NEVER in a million years ever discuss such a thing with my boys. I have never let my wish for a girl be known to them, even when I was pg the 3rd time and they both wished for a sister. I don't see how they would ever feel like they are as desperately loved and wanted as they are if they ever knew I had GD.

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29-Jun-12 4:01 pm

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I should add that I never once have been sad that I was having a boy, just would like a girl too.  Even after I found out that #4 was a boy after being told a girl I didn't feel sad or tell them that I was sad.  We were all excited to get each boy but still want a girl. Did that make sense?

I have never been dissapointed in a baby's gender.

 

I also wanted to say exactly this!!  ^^^^^

I am NOT sad it's another boy - it's JUST the fact I won't have a daughter. I am not in ANY way disappointed I have boys, I just wanted a little girl to raise too..  Happy   

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29-Jun-12 4:55 pm
Mine have no idea, and I plan to keep it that way. The only way I could MAYBE see it coming up is if they had similar issues as adults. Even then, I think I would want to stick with something vague enough that it wouldn't be about them personally, just the vision I had for my family. And I would make sure they would know how grateful I am that I didn't get what I thought I wanted.

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29-Jun-12 7:41 pm
my older 3 know but thats only because they asked questions. i remarried so they naturally wanted to know if their sibling was a boy or a girl. they noticed alot of their friends have baby brothers. why don't we have a baby brother? mom don't you want us to have a brother? what they didn't understand was why i couldn't pick the gender they wanted. children get influenced too. have you noticed half the books and cartoons they watch are p.p. families?

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