Count me to the list of people that didn't feel in love immediately either, and I had my desired gender with my first! I had a horrible labor and the pain was really intense. Honestly, the amount of pain my va-jay-jay was in after birth was horrendous. I kept begging them for something stronger that ibuphofen because that just wansn't cutting it. Not to mention, because she had swallowed fluid, I didn't get to see her until 7am that morning and I had her at 1 minute after midnight.
It took months and months to bond, and I had PPD. The pain vanishing and falling in love instantly was a bunch of BS for me.
Just know, you are not alone.