My situation isnt exactly the same as I already have a daughter (so I guess am being a little greedy by wanting another girl) but im currently 29 weeks pregnant with a boy - a gender that definatly wasnt planned. My ideal family was 2 little girls and I have struggled with the fact that im not getting that.
What I can say tho, is that each day it gets better. For the first few weeks after I found out he was a he I didnt want to have anything to do with the pregnancy. I had little fantasies about the baby really being a girl and it all being a big mistake at the ultrasound. I really detached myself. But with each passing day im getting a little more used to the idea. Dont get me wrong - it still really hurts - but I know when I see him for the first time and I know he is ok, I will be ok. How could I not love something that my husband and I created.
It hurts seeing little baby girl clothes in the stores, but I force myself NOT to look at them, and I force myself to buy cute little boy clothes. I steer clear of newborn baby girls, and force myself to take peeks at newborn little boys, and think about what it will be like when my little boy is cuddled up to me.
In the end. Its not his fault that I feel this way and its not his fault he isnt/wasnt the desired gender. This little boy wants me for his mumma. How can I not eventually love that?