First off, affairs happen, unplanned pregnancies happen... I think I could get over that (although I would HATE the financial implications). If I still had GD, the DG thing would truly sting! Although I wouldn't see the baby as what should have been "mine"... it would just be the usual DG jealously amped up by the infidelity factor.
Interestingly, in the infertility scenario a PP mentioned... I sort of think I'd be interested in adopting the mistress & DH's baby. Somehow I'd be okay with that! (I know the wife in that situation did not have the option...)
you are a STRONG woman for this.
[/quote] I agree... you are a very strong woman, certainly a rare breed. ;) I'm still not ashamed to say I would be sick with bitterness and jealousy and would never be able to forgive.
yes!! I would be highly upset and wouldn't want to look at him. We would have to set up a middle person to drop the kids off to while he pick them up from them. Sounds extreme but I would be so upset.