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The more I think about it, I kind of understand why most people don't get GD and say things that we think are "insensitive" or "intentionally hurtful." I'm not saying there aren't nasty folks out there but I'll bet most people don't think they are saying anything even remotely bothersome.
Think about it this way (this is just a generalization and not statistically exact): Ha...
21 Jul 2010 2:12 AM
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Thank you, everyone!
17 Jul 2010 4:26 PM
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Most of the couples had PPs. There were only two couples with two boys and yes, both of those moms appeared to be jealous of me. In fact, one of them complained to me about how difficult her boys were - though they were nothing but adorable angels that day.
The thing is that all of the comments that saddened me and the decision to take a father-son photo came from the men. ...
17 Jul 2010 4:16 PM
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Nope. Just father-son. We took plenty of pictures of the girls playing together but none with the girls and their parents.
17 Jul 2010 4:12 PM
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Not sure. I am really being optimistic more than anything else. DH is against HT but I could convince him with time, I think. Then again, I have some ethical concerns about HT and I am not entirely comfortable with it myself but I desperately want a boy and we could afford it. We also discuss adoption. When we first started dating, I really wanted to adopt.&nbs...
17 Jul 2010 4:09 PM
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Sounds good to me!
17 Jul 2010 7:28 AM
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We live in a different state than most of DH's childhood friends but we visited them last week. DH's childhood friends are a close bunch and a great group of people. Before we all had children, I LOVED visiting them. But every single one of them now has either two boys or a PP. We are the only couple with two girls, which makes me feel very self-conscious.&nb...
16 Jul 2010 6:37 PM
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Well said, everybody above.
27 Apr 2010 12:36 AM
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Honestly, if I have a third girl, I will feel the same way. I'm sorry.
22 Apr 2010 1:09 AM
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This is purely hypothetical because this did not happen to me but:
I wanted two boys. If I had had two boys and happened to go for a third (which I probably wouldn't have done intentionally), then I think I would have preferred a girl just for variety. So, in that situation, I think I might have had mild GD for a girl. Just might.
Even then, I think the GD would have been ...
16 Apr 2010 8:24 PM
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Obviously, I can't speak for the other all-girl moms here but I definitely feel this way. It's just that my own pain is greater so I focus on that.
15 Apr 2010 10:41 PM
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I'm so sorry for those of you who have had rough relationships with your mothers. I'm sure you'll all break that cycle with your own children.
To answer the OP's question, I don't resent my mother - but I think alot of you on this forum would! I'm definitely jealous of her. She was the epitome of the smug PP mom. She bragged about getting a PP quite a bit. In fact, s...
15 Apr 2010 9:59 PM
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Ain't that the truth? I wish I could just rationalize it away!
15 Apr 2010 9:06 PM
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I also wanted boys but I don't really understand your view here. I was a very easy teenager and so were all of my female and male friends. I'm not as sensitive to these kinds of generalizations as other posters on this forum but I would encourage you to reconsider this stereotype. I understand that you work in probation but your daughter will be yours and not one of your wards.
15 Apr 2010 8:47 PM
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Yeah, I totally get that. Tone is everything.
I have a dear friend who will be completing her PP this summer but is a genuinely sweet and non-judgmental person. She has a blog in which is glows about everything from her socks to her cooking to her impending PP. Something about her is just so non-offensive to me because I know her. But a stranger, well, that's different.&...
14 Apr 2010 5:02 PM
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I have a totally different answer. Yes, I would still have three children (all girls despite desperately wanting a boy). However, I would have had them later in life. I am a pretty vain person about my looks (despite my efforts not to be) and I love living in urban centers and visiting museums and living the classic single life and engaging in adventure travel. Quite obviou...
14 Apr 2010 4:55 PM
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I understand that this can be annoying but do you think it's mean-spirited? As an all-girl mom who desperately wanted boys, I've asked this question of all-boy moms out of sheer admiration and envy and I can't believe that I'm the only one that's done this. I guess the response to your answer that it's "fun" would tell you whether or not the person admires you or is horrified by you....
14 Apr 2010 3:53 PM
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Wow, IG ladies. I just don't see what the fuss is all about. I only clicked on this post because I saw four pages of responses! I think this is a classic example of reading something that is most likely not there. GD is tough enough - we don't need to add any more reasons to get upset. Assuming that this woman discriminates against her sons because she says something ...
04 Mar 2010 10:29 AM
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I will take him.
02 Mar 2010 9:03 AM
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I totally get this! I have not had the misfortune of miscarriage but it still bothers me that people are announcing their pregnancies so early these days because it just means that I have more time to wonder and torture myself with jealousy. I've also seen a huge increase in the number of PPs around me. Before I had DD2, I didn't know any PPs. Since I wanted a boy first, I'...
26 Feb 2010 6:46 PM
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Two nights ago, DH learned that our neighbors are expecting their second child. Their first is a DD. I just knew that the baby is a DS and since we will be moving in a few months, I was hoping to not get confirmation of this before moving. Their DD was a delivery surprise so I figured I had a few months before confronting the pain and jealousy of their good fortune. Well, l...
26 Feb 2010 6:26 PM
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I have never heard boy bashing IRL. The closest thing to it was DH and I talking just between ourselves about how we prefer girls. This, of course, was before I acknowledged my GD because I actually never wanted girls and was just trying to convince myself that I had actually won the lottery. While pregnant with DD2, I must have talked to him every day about how I think it would ...
19 Feb 2010 6:37 PM
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No offense but I don't really get this obsession with colors. I can't really imagine having a strong feeling one way or the other about a color, especially because colors have nothing to do with what it actually means to have a boy or a girl. Your DD is going to be who she is going to be and her sex is only one of many factors that will influence that. I'm not trying to attack yo...
19 Feb 2010 9:36 AM
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This is awesome! May I borrow it?
18 Feb 2010 6:15 AM
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I just had an interesting interaction that I think demonstrates how we let our GD slant our perceptions about what other people prefer.
I was chatting with my co-worker about work when she abruptly asked how my DDs are doing. I immediately showed her a recent photograph of the two and I beamed with pride because they are just so gorgeous. She looked at the photograph, s...
08 Feb 2010 11:08 PM
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