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I am so sorry for your loss. Words cannot express it :(
18 Jun 2013 9:57 PM
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[quote user="Feeling_blue"]Thanks so much for replying! The plan is for the boys to share a room (DS2 with us at the moment). The apartment is quite small in general so I think we would have to move eventually anyway.
You are saying that there isn't much difference financially between two and three?
I guess it becomes more of an issue when they get older? I just cannot get my head around not h...
18 Jun 2013 3:56 AM
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I am with newbaby, you might be surprised. I was positive DD was DS3. I would have bet money on it. But I was team green and since I was convinced it was a boy I prepared myself and actually came to terms with it. I got to the point where I would have been fine with a third boy. So I would hope for a boy but be prepared for a girl just in case.
18 Jun 2013 3:48 AM
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To answer your questions, yes, we went for a third child despite financial worries. We also are in a tight financial situation and we live in an apartment as well (3 bedroom though) in a pricey area. My husband was dead set against having a third child. I always wanted three though, I wasn't just trying for a girl. But to be honest, we have three now and even though we are ...
16 Jun 2013 8:16 PM
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Congratulations on your baby boy! I feel being team green makes it extra special as you have a wonderful surprise you weren't even expecting.
14 Jun 2013 2:47 AM
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I had a similar situation. I was with my two boys at the pediatrician's office and I was pregnant with #3 but I was team green and thought it was another boy. I ran into a lady who had twin baby girls and said she had two older boys. I felt the same way thinking, "hey, how did she get TWO girls after two boys?" That is, until I heard her ask the front desk about getti...
09 Jun 2013 2:43 AM
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[quote user="Ohmyitstwins"]Mai if I went for reduction I would do Cvs testing first to determine gender. If I am not doing reduction it's better to not know. Trust me. My depression and EGD are that bad. At least when I find out at birth I can immediately go back on medications.
I am team green solely because of my EGD. But again I have a lot of reasons why I believe both are boys. I just dont...
06 Jun 2013 10:59 PM
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I was team green with my last but found out with my first two. I did like being team green because it's exciting in the delivery room and it's nice to say , "I don't know" when you get the obligatory "what are you having?" from EVERYone. However dh really wanted to find out and I feel guilty we didn't. How does your dh feel? Have you two talked about it?
06 Jun 2013 10:54 PM
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I wanted a girl for this one because I had two boys already, but I never wanted JUST girls. I always wanted boys too.
06 Jun 2013 10:52 PM
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First of all, I think it's great that you want to give your son what you felt you didn't have. My husband felt the same way about trying for third. When I was pregnant with #3 and hoping for a girl, he couldn't understand it and told me I should just be happy I have kids. First of all, don't give up hope, your wife may come around and try for #3 in the future...just keep in mind it cou...
30 May 2013 2:33 AM
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Wow, that is harsh! I remember when I had just the two boys, my MIL goes, "Maybe (dh's brother's name) will give me girls." He never did have kids.
29 May 2013 2:56 AM
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You will probably be surprised at the love you will feel for your DS2. I felt the same way, I love my DS1 so much that I felt like I could never love any child as much, boy or girl. But my DS2 is amazing and I couldn't imagine not having him. My ds1 is still very special, he was my first baby. We have a special bond and he is my buddy, but my ds2 is such a sweet, affe...
28 May 2013 4:08 AM
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Why do people think the only reason anyone would have a third is to try for the opposite gender? And yes, if you do have a boy people are going to say "oh good you got your boy." :) I get that all the time! People say, "thank god you got a girl!" As if having a third boy would have been such a bad thing.
26 May 2013 3:04 AM
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This is one of my pet peeves. Why do people say they are "lucky" they got a boy and a girl? They are "lucky" they have two healthy children, not cause of the genders. When I was pregnant with #3, I had people say the same thing. "I'm lucky I have one of each so I didn't have to have any more." Well neither did I! And many people have a third after a boy and a gi...
26 May 2013 2:58 AM
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I love hearing when people actually say nice things or avoid the whole negative gender comment speech. When I was pregnant with my third, I didn't know what I was having, but I was out to dinner with my boys and a lady told me, "If you have a third boy, you'll be blessed." It felt so good to hear that.oh and btw, I got so annoyed by the what are you having, what do you have questions, ...
25 May 2013 3:23 AM
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ugh! Annoying...that's right, you can choose the gender so check the boy box. It is your baby not hers and no need to put pressure on you. You and dh handled it really well though.
25 May 2013 3:19 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss :( I agree, 12 weeks is early to tell gender. I wouldn't bet on anything yet, 20 weeks is much more accurate.
23 May 2013 4:03 AM
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Good luck! I hope you hear pink!
21 May 2013 3:53 AM
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When I was pregnant with my third after two boys (we didn't know the gender) people said stuff like, "I hope it's a girl." I always told them I'd be happy either way. I'd try to smile and say it politely even if I was annoyed.Now I get comments like, "Thank god you got a girl!" which annoys me because would a boy have been such a bad thing? I say something like, "I wo...
21 May 2013 3:44 AM
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I couldn't have said it better myself! So true.
14 May 2013 4:00 AM
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I did NOT know I was having my DG. I didn't find out until birth, and for the whole pregnancy I just "knew" it was a boy! I had boys clothes ready for it and a name picked out. I just had a feeling. But I was wrong and it was a girl after all. Although I knew DS2 was a boy and I was right so I guess you never know.My theory is that no woman truly knows what she ...
14 May 2013 3:57 AM
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We have the same problem with the fighting. My DS1 can be so mean to DS2. He constantly teases and even hits and pushes him. I try to give him another outlet. For awhile he was going through biting and was biting DS2. I had to tell DS2's preschool teacher so they didn't think I was doing it! So I gave him a book or a block to bite instead so he had the outlet but wasn...
14 May 2013 3:53 AM
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So true! And the clothes isn't THAT great a thing. I sometimes dress my daughter up but it's not practical and she ends up spitting up or pooping on the cute dresses and I end up putting her in onesies and sweatpants cause it's easier, lol. And my son likes pink haha. And no you don't need a daughter to be a friend when you grow up-my dh meets his mom all the time dur...
14 May 2013 3:47 AM
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You certainly wouldn't be the first to cry at an ultrasound for that reason. You will love the baby no matter what but don't feel guilty if you are a little disappointed at first if it's not your dg. I hope you get your boy!
11 May 2013 4:08 AM
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Maybe I'm in the minority too but if we were to have a fourth I'd want another boy.
09 May 2013 6:55 PM
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