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Hello,
I am so confused and feel tormented by what I am going through right now. My story is that I have three wonderful daughters. We wanted to try for a fourth (well, I wanted to try for a fourth and I convinced my husband). To make a LONG story short, I lost the baby, a girl, last year when I was 16 weeks due to a severe chromosomal disorder. It was hell what I went through. Then I had troub...
28 Feb 2011 2:19 PM
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For the sake of accuracy, she made a statement today where she said that contrary to popular belief, she does NOT know the gender of her baby. (Saw it on msn.com.) She said a boy would be nice b/c they already know boys and know what to do with them, plus her boys want another brother to play soccer with, and then she said if it were a girl, they would also be "over the moon". She said she just f...
14 Feb 2011 3:19 AM
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Unfortunately, I am in the same wait and see situation. Either wait for a miscarriage or opt for a D&C. I REALLY did not want to get a D&C. We lost a baby last year at 16 weeks and I had to have a D&E, and two months later, a D&C to remove placenta that was inadvertently left in the uterus. Anyway, my OBGYN said it was OK to wait about two weeks after it is confirmed that the pregnancy is non-viab...
19 Jan 2011 12:04 AM
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Things NOT to do: Don't tell her she will get over it and have a healthy baby. Don't say that at least she wasn't very far along. Don't say there was something wrong and this God's way of taking care of it. Just call her up and listen to her. Ask her how she is doing. Tell her that you care about her and love her. This is the best you can do for her right now.
17 Jan 2011 10:38 PM
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THere never seems to be good news where I am concerned. The doctor was not able to entirely rule out an ectopic pregnancy yesterday with the US, but he saw blood in the uterine cavity and my HCG barely rose at all. He is sure this is a non-viable pregnancy. At this point, I am praying to miscarry naturally or I will have to go in for yet another D&C. I have to go back Monday for another US. I am s...
15 Jan 2011 1:18 PM
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I got the phone call tonight that the levels only rose by 200 when it should have been closer to 600. The doctor feels that something is definitely wrong - either an ectopic or an impending miscarriage. I have to go tomorrow for an ultrasound so he can check my tubes. I am not sure what will happen from there. Saying I am devastated is an understatement. It's like I'm reliving the horror of losing...
13 Jan 2011 11:40 PM
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Yes, I had them. They are very tiny bumps that look like rash. They are EXTREMELY itchy. My doctor gave me cream, which basically did nothing. I was about 32 weeks when I got them, and he told me they would go away when I delivered! I thought i would lose my mind. Thankfully, they lasted for about 3 weeks and then disappeared. Good luck - I know it's very annoying!!!
13 Jan 2011 5:11 PM
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Hello,
After losing a baby last year and trying for almost a year to get pregnant, I finally got a BFP on New Year's Day. When I got the BFP, I ended up going to the fertility doctor I have been seeing b/c he likes to monitor everything closely. They did my first HCG, which was 50. 2 days later it was 114, which was fine. Two days after that it was 195. It didn't double, and I was nervous, but...
13 Jan 2011 5:08 PM
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Hello,
After losing a baby last year and trying for almost a year to get pregnant, I finally got a BFP on New Year's Day. I think I am due in September, but since the September 2011 forum isn't open yet, I am hoping someone due in August can help me. When I got the BFP, I ended up going to the fertility doctor I have been seeing b/c he likes to monitor everything closely. They did my first HCG,...
13 Jan 2011 5:05 PM
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While you may have hoped for a boy, you must remember that you are bringing a new life into this world. A baby is a baby, regardless of gender, and a healthy child is always worth celebrating. Of course people are going to congratulate you because it is a wonderful thing to be having a baby. Most people would not automatically assume that you would be disappointed because of the gender of your bab...
05 Jan 2011 3:03 PM
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I do not think that "Swaying" had any effect on gender at all. I have three girls, and for the fourth, did everything possible to "sway" for a boy, and we ended up pregnant with a baby girl. (Unfortunately, we lost the baby, but next time around, as long as he/she is healthy, I couldn't care less about gender, to be honest.) I also have a cousin who had three girls and then a boy and she did nothi...
22 Dec 2010 2:41 PM
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If this wive's tale was true, I would definitely have three sons instead of three daughters! LOL
09 Dec 2010 12:41 AM
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Hi, I have been trying to get pregnant for 9 month after losing a baby last year at 16 weeks. So far I have gone through 4 unsucessful rounds of IUI. My doctor recommended trying royal jelly and pollen. I just bought a box that says Beijing Royal Jelly and Pollen - it's directly from China. It says there are bottles and to drink 2 a day. Is this what I am supposed to buy? I figured someone on here...
07 Dec 2010 7:01 PM
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My mom did. And my couin has three girls and then a boy. I honestly believe that waying doesn't change anything - you have a 50/50 shot each time. Good luck!
06 Dec 2010 4:09 AM
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I have three girls, and honestly, I don't feel at all like I have failed in any way. I think this is probably due in great part to the fact that my husband really, really wanted a daughter. He always says that if he knew he wouldn't get a mixed gender family, he would have hoped for girls. (This is because he comes from a family of only boys and his dad is kind of a jerk. They do not have a great ...
30 Nov 2010 8:32 PM
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Trust me, my husband is all man - there's nothing femine about him - and we have three daughters. On the other hand, I have a cousin who has three sons, and if he weren't married, I would swear he was gay (which would be fine with me too!) so it is quite possible that your friend could have a boy, despite a feminine husband.
27 Nov 2010 10:12 PM
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My husband is one of four boys, and I have three girls. My husband's brother also has three girls. My sister's husband is one of three boys, and she has three girls. I was convinced I would never have a girl, as was my sister. I think that the study is a bunch of BS, to be honest.
23 Nov 2010 2:26 AM
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I guess I kind of did. I always had an overwhelming desire to have a daughter. Before I had kids, I actually said that if I didn't get a mixed gender family, I would wish for all girls, just so I could be sure to have at leats one. But to be honest, I always thought I would have some sort of mix, and I would have been thrilled with that makeup. Three girls later, I absolutely adore them, although ...
20 Nov 2010 2:19 AM
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Hi there, I can't say I can relate to you because for my entire life I knew I wanted a daughter (and now I have three!), but my best friend felt exactly as you did. Her mother is mentally ill and for my friend's entire life, her mother has caused only grief and pain. She was never able to support my friend or help her as she was growing up. She also does not have a good relationsh...
19 Nov 2010 2:22 PM
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There are so many wonderful things about having two girls. First of all - SISTERS. I have three girls, and watching the bond between them is truly amazing. Even though your first daughter is a little older, once they are grown, your girls are going to thank you for giving each other a sister. I am one of three children - my sister and I fought all the time when we were younger but now, I talk to h...
13 Nov 2010 9:06 PM
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There are so many wonderful things about having two girls. First of all - SISTERS. I have three girls, and watching the bond between them is truly amazing. Even though your first daughter is a little older, once they are grown, your girls are going to thank you for giving each other a sister. I am one of three children - my sister and I fought all the time when we were younger but now, I tal...
13 Nov 2010 9:05 PM
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It is comments such as these: "you will probably have a stronger bond w/ your son b/c sons look up to
their mothers as if they are some goddess & have such a strong love
you can't resist, times your dd would rather have her dad, friends, etc.
you ds will be there for you & make sure you are taken care of." that really aggravate me and make me feel as if I need to address the fa...
13 Nov 2010 8:00 PM
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I just want to say that I have three girls, and each one has her very distinct personality. From the start, my oldest daughter was just so easy, and my middle daughter has always requried a lot more energy and attention to get through the day. My little one kind of bounces around and is happy and easygoing. This has nothing to do with gender - just the kind of child he or she happens to be. You c...
13 Nov 2010 3:37 PM
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Honestly, he sounds like a bit of a weirdo. I wouldn't leave him with my children if I coud help it. Who says his grandaughter will be a slut? Very odd. If it makes you feel any better, my father-in-law has said (many times) that a man isn't a real grandfather until he has a grandson. He has 6 grandaughters. But he is also a jerk. MY father, on the other hand, also has six grandaughters, and he ca...
12 Nov 2010 3:18 AM
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I agree that this is an uplifting post for the OP, and that's great, but as a few other people mentioned, if this post asked for people to say nice things about girls, it would have been immediately removed. In fact, there recently was a post asking for people to say great things about having a daughter, and people were up in arms that this was hurting all of the mothers wishing for a girl, so it ...
11 Nov 2010 5:12 PM
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