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Ya, I do remember telling people was the hardest...almost like I had "failed"....but it's not about them...it's about you, and your dear little family, and their precious souls, boy or girl....
23 Jul 2008 9:23 PM
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Another thing to consider in terms of a "cure" for GD (although I totally agree with all these posts! So true--personality and how you raise them makes a HUGE diff) is to make sure you are nourishing yourself, esp if you are preggers. I noticed a big diff when I started taking naps everyday, taking a food-based iron supplement, and increased my fish oil capsules. That and therapy have helped...
23 Jul 2008 9:20 PM
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noboys, it would be really great for all us moms wanting DD's if you made a list of your reasons for wanting a son. It might be good for us to hear!! :)
23 Jul 2008 9:12 PM
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I have had similar thoughts. I suffered a great deal from being very involved with ballet as a teen (and was not particularly thin--more muscular). I truly hated myself because I did not look like the thin, waif-like girls who were the ideal both in the ballet world and in magazines, videos, at school, etc.
One good thing about boys is that they don't seem to fall prey to that as easily or often...
10 Jul 2008 8:10 PM
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Babygirl dreams---great thoughts, and so true. I think it's all a matter of perception and also of age. I also think it has something to do with what you're used to from growing up...if you had a sister, you might want two girls...if you didn't have a sister, you might long for one....if you were one of a "pigeon pair" maybe you might hope for that....since it's the pattern you're used to...
&nbs...
10 Jul 2008 8:01 PM
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Buttercup I just wanted to say that I can relate...I too have a two year old boy who is so sweet and wonderful, and am pregnant with another. Who knows...this second boy of ours might be just as sweet or sweeter! I can't wait to see what he looks like, what his personality is like...and furthermore, I think SO much of how little boys are is in how you raise them and what the other boys they hang a...
10 Jul 2008 7:54 PM
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Dear Nic
Thanks so much for showing me how to set up my icons, etc.
I think your advice is true...I do remember with my son that the GD got better and better, and when he was born I couldn't even remember what GD felt like (we bonded strongly and immediately--breastfeeding really helped, I think?)...I remember thinking "It just doesn't matter"....but then I have it again now that I found out bab...
26 Jun 2008 8:25 PM
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I totally agree with you all...but just to play devil's advocate...
What DOES happen to boys and girls when socialization takes place? I mean, I have been a teacher for 10 years, both at the high school and college level. Whatever the boys are like around your son, or the girls around your daughter, will greatly influence what kind of a teenager and adult they turn out to be (in most cases....
26 Jun 2008 8:05 PM
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noboys, I can relate
I feel as though my luck just sucks, too. And ALL around me I see moms with a boy and a girl, or even better (in my mind) two or more girls...and it just makes me feel so sad.
I feel like maybe I'm just not feminine enough to have girls...that God or whoever said, ugh, no girls for that woman, god forbid they end up looking/being like her...let's give her boys...and I f...
26 Jun 2008 7:49 PM
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Yes...I can relate so well to everyone's posts. I am starting counseling next week...I think I have deep-seated gender-based issues from my--not childhood, but from puberty-on. I also think I am a bit of a CONTROL freak [:P] and need to just eat this slice of humble pie and accept that my life is going to take a different path than what I had envisioned. Yes, it might suck really...
26 Jun 2008 7:38 PM
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That was very shallow and thoughtless on their part...and sad to think what kind of boy the one mother must have raised with those beliefs underlying everything she does!!
I think the world needs moms who love their boys with all their might and believe in them, that they are fully human human beings and have great capacity for being loving and calm and kind, the way you do.
I, t...
24 Jun 2008 7:33 PM
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Hi ariel3..I too have been thinking quite a bit about this. I hope to find a great psychologist and work on these issues, because I DO think they, along with hormonal imbalances, are playing a major role in my GD.
I know for myself my relationship with my dad was close, fun, lovely and wonderful until I hit pre-puberty and puberty. Then he withdrew most/all love and affection and I became moody a...
24 Jun 2008 11:35 AM
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Thank you so much for all the kind words and advice. You really do make me feel better [HH]
24 Jun 2008 11:23 AM
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My SIL had a boy, then a girl, while i am having two boys. I can relate. It just makes you sick! Like...how do some people get so lucky...while others get stuck with bad luck...?
I realize that "things happen for a reason" (if you believe that)...but it makes me sick that my mom will now get to spoil this sweet neice of mine with shopping trips, lunches out, etc etc...and I will never have ...
24 Jun 2008 5:48 AM
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Thanks for your honest and kind words and story. I do like that image of being surrounded by three grown men who adore me...that's a good one...thanks! And I hope that my DS and baby boy on the way DO end up playing...smiling...laughing...
I guess they'll be into the same things. I plan on getting more and more gender-neutral toys (play kitchen, baby boy dolls/accessories, engineering-build...
24 Jun 2008 5:41 AM
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So funny--as a mom of one (soon to be 2) boys, I am sick to death of cars and trucks and the "vrroooom" sound. Need to get some new toys..will look for gender neutral ones.
24 Jun 2008 5:12 AM
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OMG, I know! I am glad someone else noticed this. After my disappointing U/S today (another little boy) I felt like EVERYwhere I looked (magazines, real life) there were beautiful children---One boy, one girl....or two beautiful little girls in bows and supercute outfits...sigh....
I know my boys will be beautiful, too...but I'll never get to braid their hair...etc etc...as all the magazine...
24 Jun 2008 5:11 AM
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There is just no good way to prepare for the U/S, huh?! I thought I was prepared, but no...
Just hoping for good news, the news you want, and wishing you comfort if your heart gets "broken"...we all know what it's like.
24 Jun 2008 5:06 AM
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I am new to the forum. I just found out this afternoon (at my 20 week US) that I am having another boy. I have a 22 month old boy now--he is precious, loves me to pieces, I love him to pieces, yet I can't stop crying about my dream of having a girl being lost forever. Due to me being 38 and our not-so-great financial situation, this is, I'm afraid, our last child. Two boys. Ugggh.
I went th...
24 Jun 2008 5:02 AM
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Well it's nearly midnight, and I am so relieved to have found this outlet! I just had my 20 week us today and found out it's another boy. Thought I'd be OK with it but am clearly not. Have been crying/trying to hide it all day long. DH was very sweet and helped so much with DS#1 (almost 2yrs old) as I was so busy crying and being overcome with utter sadness and hopelessness.
Two yrs ago, I...
24 Jun 2008 4:48 AM
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