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My boy name does that to me too. I was at a party and there was a baby boy with that name and it literally felt like I was punched in the stomache. I spent the rest of the weekend fighting back the tears. Defeat is a really good way to describe it. I hope you can recover quickly!!!All the best, Lisa
26 Apr 2013 3:43 AM
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I feel really terrible for you. I'm glad you opend up on here. But your issues sound much more than gender disappointment. I hope you can get the help you need. By the way, your family make up was my dream family and I obsessed over it for a long time. I didn't get that family but I'm slowly moving on and have accepted with I have.Lisa
11 Apr 2013 8:29 PM
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I feel for you! As much as I love my 3 girls if I were to ever get pregnant again I would be desperate for a boy. You still have hope for a boy! Good luck on Monday! lots of positive thoughts coming your way....Lisa
04 Apr 2013 8:30 PM
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Just wanted to chime in that my DD1 also failed her kindergarten screening test. She's been for tests every 6 months since then and always fails them. We went to a pediatrician and a hearing loss team at our province's assessment centre and basically she just has poor hearing. Like her dad I think. I hope your daughter's issue is something simple and fixable!Lisa
15 Mar 2013 1:01 AM
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I just got caught up on your pregnancy and I'm sorry you've been under so much stress. Congratulations on your newest little girl! You embody all the amazing qualities of a good mom fiercely battling for your child. Good luck and I pray only good things for you and your family in the coming months.Lisap.s. I read a blog of a woman with a little girl with DS. She's an amazing mom just lik...
14 Feb 2013 4:42 PM
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I've been on here a few years and have always followed you newbaby. Your posts have always been an offering of help. They come across as a means of support and never come across as harsh or judging. I sometimes in real life think "what would newbaby say?" when I start to feel sorry for myself. (and it's not even about your tragic losses, you have good advice on all aspects of GD)Lots of love,...
13 Dec 2012 10:24 PM
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Like other people said it's too early to tell gender for sure. It seems you've had lots of negativity with male figures in your life but I don't think that has anything to do with your son or sons. It's up to you and your DH to teach him (or them) all the things that will make them great men one day. I'm sorry your son may be autistic. I can't even pretend to know what that's l...
04 Dec 2012 1:38 AM
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good thoughts and prayers you hear boy! I also have 3 girls but I'm done. I'll be living vicariously through you and I"m going to be checking on here next week!!! I really hope you hear boy.Lisa
16 Nov 2012 10:31 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. You would feel guilty no matter what internet sites you visited. This is such a terrible thing that has happened to your family and there's no making sense of it. Lots of prayers to you and your family.Lisa
09 Nov 2012 5:45 AM
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DMM2012- you're in the right place! I think we tend to get a little defensive on here when mom's concentrate more on the negative aspects of the gender of their children. You're getting a little ahead of yourself both with your little man who's only 9 months and with your second. It's so easy to start looking ahead to what "might be" but that doesn't help you. You may very well be having a girl an...
05 Oct 2012 11:09 PM
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I think the title of the post is what has made people a little defensive. My post was just a general post and I didn't mean to direct it solely at you WantDS. I really really wanted a DS with #3 but got girl #3. I hated how I felt. I haven't had a lot of pity but lots of stupid comments. The most hurtful was before people knew #3 was a girl and I was told it had to be a boy b/c "God wouldn't do th...
21 Sep 2012 4:22 PM
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I have at times felt sorry for myself but it's always bothered me when other people pity me. There is no reason to pity people for their family make up. I do feel bad for women who have GD but that's seperate from feeling sorry for their children. I hope you can come to terms with your own family. Whatever God blesses us with is amazing.Good luck.Lisa
20 Sep 2012 4:16 PM
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Hugs- I know how you feel and it's totally okay and not selfish in a bad way. It's okay to desire a boy while still feeling happy for what you have. I think GD (gender desire not disappointment) creates these feelings that are totally seperate from our love of the babies we get blessed with. I am so jealous of you that you get one more shot at getting your boy. You're in a win-win situation. If yo...
13 Sep 2012 7:52 PM
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Still laughing about jaja's comment! The BD has no idea what he's saying. When he meets his little girl (and you too) you won't care about gender. You'll have this beautiful little creature who will depend upon you both for love and caring. She'll grow and develop her own little personality and you'll feel more and more connected to her. It's hard right now when it's only u/s photos.Don't feel bad...
26 Aug 2012 7:16 PM
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What an awkward stage! I feel for you. You want to fix it all but you can't. My first thought is this is going to be something you'll have to work out over time. I'd continue telling her how pretty she is plus all the other great things you love about her that are not related to looks. That can't hurt! I'm a teacher so I'm always looking for children's books to help with that sort of thing. Maybe ...
10 Aug 2012 7:03 PM
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I can't believe what people have said to you! The whole "boys are stupider/ slower than girls" comment is just plain wrong and ridiculous. What kind of a person says that? I have 3 girls and time has helped me move further away from my desire for a boy. Some ideas to help:-have you gone through your little boys old outfits? the memories from those really helped me look forward to the future-l...
16 Jul 2012 5:31 PM
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I hate to say sorry b/c you're so blessed to be adding another little girl to your family. But I have 3 DD's as well so I can only imagine how you feel. I'm the same with families in public- I'll be doing fine then there's a little family with their 2 DD's and youngest DS. Lots of hugs to you! May your GD be brief and fleeting.Lisa
06 Jul 2012 3:59 PM
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What a classy way to talk about gender desires. She obviously loves all of her boys but somewhere in there wanted a girl. It didn't happen so she's happy with what she has. So many people can totally relate to her.Lisa
22 Jun 2012 6:18 PM
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I totally forgot that video was about a gender reveal! I was just in tears watching your little boys greet their daddy. Congrats on another gorgeous little boy.Lisa
16 Jun 2012 2:00 AM
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I so don't want to say sorry....but I know what it's like to have that dream disappear. I'm sorry you're sad. My stomache dropped for you b/c I have 3 girls and know that being told girl would make me pretty sad. (I know in my heart that the actual girl wouldn't make me sad but it would be those words.....) Lots of hugs and good thoughts your way!Lisa
12 Apr 2012 2:30 AM
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Baby is so little at 13 weeks! You still have a good chance to have a girl. I don't like that comment b/c comparing u/s photos isn't scientific at all. I have 3 girls and their u/s are all different. My DD2 had the cord between her legs and I thought I had ruined my "surprise" and she was a boy. (we found at birth she was a she) Good luck! Your intuition is most likely right!Lisa
02 Mar 2012 7:52 PM
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I have 3 girls here! It has it's advantages. I am also done and slowly, very slowly I'm coming to terms with never having a son. I see you still have a slim chance of hearing boy. I know you don't want to get your hopes up but you just never know. Good luck! Keep us posted.Lisa
17 Jan 2012 5:40 PM
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Yuck, I hate the whole "misery loves company" thing but it's good to know my thoughts and worries are just a normal thing around here. Thanks for sharing with me!Lisa
15 Jan 2012 5:53 AM
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to hear some else's news of baby's gender? I tell myself over and over that what other people have doesn't affect my happiness. But still it feels like a punch in the gut when someone who has 2 girls gets a boy. And it's not like I wish GD on anyone but when others' get their DG it just BEGS the question "why not me?" Ugh....I've been seeing the pictures of Jennifer Garner throughout her pregnancy...
13 Jan 2012 8:12 PM
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I'm not TTC b/c we're done at 3 girls but I still have that longing for a boy. I am hoping with everything that you get a little boy!!! it must be driving you crazy waiting. And it is so irritating when people "know" what you're having based on belly shape. Baby boys and baby girls are shaped the same way!!! Why would a belly be any different??? I had 3 different belly shapes with all 3...
13 Jan 2012 5:38 PM
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