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I didn't tell my parents I was pregnant with DD until I was 16 weeks and going for the gender scan that week. They were annoyed with me as the thought 3 kids were too many and they REALLY didn't want another grandson. Keep in mind they live in Canada and I'm in England and they might see their grandkids once a year, but both my parents said that they hoped I wasn't going to ask them to look ...
16 Jun 2013 8:15 PM
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Congrats so much to you on your lovely boy- he will bring you joy that you never imagined possible. Best wishes from my family to yours.
13 Jun 2013 7:40 PM
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I can honestly say that before I had my sons, I didn't want a boy. I wanted a family of only girls. A lot of that came from my own family, my parents are totally pro-girl and made comments throughout my childhood about how girls are better. One comment they made constantly was about my uncle and aunt- they had 2 girls first (like my parents) and then some time later had a boy. My parents would say...
11 Jun 2013 9:55 PM
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I so agree. I have a close relative that had an abortion once, her circumstances were very difficult (the potential father was abusive, she wasn't working and had no money etc) and even though the logical side of her brain said that this was the 'right' thing to do, she still regrets it nearly 20 years on. OP- you are in my thoughts.
04 Jun 2013 7:40 AM
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I do remember you- because you have the most gorgeous kids.I'm so sorry to hear about your partner, it's such a tragedy when someone dies young. I hope that things are getting better for you.
03 Jun 2013 7:48 AM
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Oh, I feel your pain. The last month of being pregnant is hideous- you are uncomfortable, hormonal and desperate to meet your baby.Best of luck to you- I hope your delivery goes smoothly and you are soon cuddling your little baby!
02 Jun 2013 8:56 PM
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Absolutely! I know just how you are feeling. I had at least 3 scans with DD and with each one I was worried they would say she was a boy. And when I went to the hospital to have her I only brought gender neutral clothing with me because there was a part of me that was still not quite convinced that she was going to be a girl.I'm sure your scan tomorrow will say girl. It's hard to believe, I ...
12 May 2013 9:53 PM
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Sorry to harp on this- but can you provide links to this diet? I've did a lot of research for the sway I attempted with DS2 and even the most optimistic figures for swaying of any type seemed to say that you might get a 60-70% odds of your DG. And as you can see my hardcore sway failed.... (for which I am now very glad). Swaying does not work. Plain and simple. There is no scientific ev...
09 May 2013 9:43 PM
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And I personally think even that is up for debate. I don't believe in swaying, and I hate seeing ladies beating themselves up when a sway 'fails'. It just adds a layer of guilt/upset when they find out they are not getting their DG.OP- big hugs to you- I'm so sorry you are sad now.
08 May 2013 9:25 PM
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I can remember someone posting a link to a blog of a family that had 16-17 children, all but one were boys. And the little girl was one of the youngest ones, so this family probably had 12-14 boys in a row. They did seem like a lovely family, based on their blog.
04 May 2013 9:14 AM
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In my case, my third was a girl. As well, in my group of friends, those that had 2 boys and decided to have a third child, 50% had a girl and 50% had a boy. I know how you are feeling- I was certain that my third was going to be a boy, but she wasn't. I hope you and your husband get your DG.
27 Apr 2013 7:35 PM
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I can't really see either way from the pics but I will say that 12.5 weeks is very early to give an accurate gender prediction. The tech would be looking for a nub- both sexes have this nub around this time and it all has to do with the 'angle of the nub'. I have seen lots of people here on this site post pics of their 13 week scan and have people guess both boy and girl. It is just so hard ...
20 Apr 2013 10:17 PM
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I will say in my case, I did not fall instantly in love with DS2. It took me a good 6 months to properly bond with him- not something I'm proud of, but I decided to 'fake it until I make it'. I love him so much now, but I do understand what previous posters have said- not everyone falls deeply in love with their new born. It can take time.I will say that if it had gone on much longer for me ...
17 Apr 2013 5:14 PM
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Lovely news! Congrats on your little girl!
11 Apr 2013 10:10 PM
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My Dad has softened a bit towards boys in general, because of his 3 grandkids, but he still would have preferred only granddaughters. We only see him once a year though, I can't put my boys through too much of his nonsense, my children are all equal and I don't want the boys to feel second best to their sister.I was nervous about having my first son- all the usual first time mother nerves, p...
10 Apr 2013 10:57 PM
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I think family is a huge cause for a lot of people's GD. I know it is for me.My parents are totally pro girl. They both only wanted daughters, and throughout my childhood disparaging comments about boys were the norm. My parents were both disappointed that my first child was a boy, and then when my sister also had a boy they ramped it up a notch. Constant comments about how glad they both were to ...
10 Apr 2013 8:58 PM
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I'm not sure if this helps, but you are not alone in feeling this way. I look at DS2 and regret the way I felt when I was pregnant with him. He is such a darling child and I can't believe now that I ever regretted him.Just continue to love your children, be the best dad you can and try not to beat yourself up.
03 Apr 2013 7:18 AM
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My friend went through this with her son- he was desperate for a sister, and would talk about this all the time. In fact he talked about his 'sister' so much at school that his teacher was really surprised to hear that he didn't at that time have any siblings.My friend ended up having a little boy when she eventually did get pregnant for a second time. And her son was fine with that. He ador...
25 Mar 2013 6:24 PM
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Yep- I did this. Before I had my DD I had a box of baby girl clothes- and this was before I was even pregnant with her. I used to occasionally look through it and hope I might have a daughter someday. I see no problem with this- there are so many worse things you can spend your money on and if it makes you smile then why not?
22 Mar 2013 8:59 AM
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DS1 is pretty accurate- he has been right with most of my friends, and was right about his brother and his sister. DS2 is oblivious to pregnancy and babies.[:P]
21 Mar 2013 9:53 PM
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YES YES YES!!! Part of the reason this saying came about was that years ago daughters were expected to look after their parents when they grew up. They didn't have careers. They weren't encouraged to go to school beyond basic education (no university etc) and the hope was they would marry a local boy, settle down near their parents and raise a family. I know that there are exceptions t...
21 Mar 2013 5:26 PM
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I know how you feel. When I was pregnant with DS2, just seeing girl's clothes and toys would be enough to depress me. It was like a reminder AGAIN that I was not having a DD, I was having a boy.My advice is, at this point, to try your hardest to avoid these triggers. I swear by internet shopping- you can go to sites that allow you to sort by sex, so you'll only get to see boys clothes or toy...
19 Mar 2013 9:17 PM
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Totally agree. Take a moment (or 10!) to freak out and then sit down and think practically as the above poster mentioned. Your youngest won't be walking well when this one is born so you'll be able to put both of them in a double pram and off you go. I know it will be hard work but you can do it (just keep telling yourself that- it's true!). Keep us posted hon, and we're here for you if you ...
19 Mar 2013 11:50 AM
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I'll tell you a story-My sister got pregnant after I had DS1. She had tried for years to get pregnant so her pregnancy was a blessed event for her and our family as well. I can remember hoping so much that she would have a boy. She had a slight preference for a girl but I wanted to have the first grandaughter. I obsessed over this, and I'm not proud of it now. They didn't find out what they were h...
13 Mar 2013 10:38 PM
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I did a massive sway with DS2- 99% of what is recommended on this site as well as other swaying sites.Obviously it failed, and that made my GD so much worse- I had gotten my hopes up, had thought I actually could control something that is uncontrollable (outside of PGD of course). I'm so glad today for my DS2 though, so I'm glad my sway failed.With DD we did nothing different, no swaying at all.
11 Mar 2013 9:13 AM
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