I wish I felt my family was complete

We just had baby#6, (GBBGBB) and DH is pretty adamant that our family is complete. But I don't feel the same way. I want to wait two years and have baby#7. Am I crazy? Sometimes I wonder where this desire to have another child comes from. DS4 is only 4 weeks old...and I'm hanging onto every newborn moment with him trying to enjoy every possible second. I guess I just needed somewhere to share this...

It seems like the boy names are being kidnapped and morphing...

into girl names! Does anyone else feel like people are taking boy names for their daughters...thus dwindling the boy list? Grr. It just seems like it's a trend to make a boy name a unisex name. What do you think?

Re: I'm back, please be nice I'm really sensative.

Welcome back. I'm not aware of the earlier drama/upset but glad that you are able to come here for needed support. If it helps, my DH isn't excited about my pregnancy either. It adds to my GD a lot because I know that if this baby were a girl, he'd be happier. [:(]

Re: Venting about my GD... What should I do?

Just wanted to send you some love. You've only just found out and you must allow yourself time to cry and heal. As other posters have already said, you will love him as you do your other children and it is the mourning of a dream that breaks your heart. I love this phrase: "it is their souls that matter, not their gender." When I found out I was having a boy (I'm due at the end of May), I felt so,...

Re: If you had to choose one of these two boy names...

[quote user="tambo"] I like Lincoln.    I think Tristan and Carter are okay...equally so.  I'm not much help.  [/quote] No, you're not helping me narrow it down, LOL!! I'm so torn on all three names! Although around here Carter is definitely more popular than Tristan which has me leaning towards Tristan. Ack, it's just so hard! Thanks for the opinions ladies - keep 'em com...

Re: How many is too many.....

[quote user="Jillian"] If you are questioning whether or not to have another child then you're not done. I think most people know when they're done, even if they didn't get their desired gender. I wasn't sure after my second son was born, five years later I had my third son and then I was 100% sure. You'll know and feel confident in your choice when the time is right. Jillian [/quote] Don't...

Re: Ugh, the, "is your family complete" question

[quote user="Hobbermittens"]  I don't feel like my family is complete. If I were having a boy this time, I would feel complete, but because we are having a girl, I don't feel complete. It is so funny that "complete" means something different for every family. [/quote] I feel exactly the same (except the reverse) - if I were having a girl this time, I really feel like I'd be at peace with...

If you had to choose one of these two boy names...

Re: Ugh, the, "is your family complete" question

I have 5 kids and baby6 on the way (have both genders) and I still HATE that question. It's gotten so bad that now I answer it before they even ask it - "we're probably done..." just so I don't have to be asked. But for me, I think it's just hard to agree that yes, the pregnancy/baby stage of my life is ending soon and that's why the question bugs me so much.

Re: How many is too many.....

I'm a mom of 5, expecting #6 (DS4). Most days I find pretty overwhelming but I still would not change a thing. I love having a big family. We make sacrifices though, that I see other families not having to make. I think the wisest thing to do is just see how it goes with your third. Then take it from there. Definitely don't close the door though or you may always wonder if #4 may have been your ...

Re: My GD baby 2 weeks old

  I just had to say that I loved reading this reply - every word of it and especially the last sentence. [HH]

Re: When does the crying stop?? and how to cope at work?

It took me about a month and a half before my tears didn't come any more (I'm expecting a boy and wanted a girl) and the first two weeks were the worst. I'd think I was okay and then some tiny thing would trigger a big bout of tears and sadness. This IS going to get easier and you will feel happy again. At first I couldn't even bear to look at clothing of my desired gender in stores. I...

Re: My GD baby 2 weeks old

Hi there, I just wanted to give you a shout out with some love and hugs. You sound like you are doing really well considering the difficult delivery and your family situation. Ben is absolutely adorable. I can understand your feelings of wanting a girl. I had a beautiful baby boy last year and love him to bits but still sometimes wish I'd had a girl. The GD is separate from the children I have an...

Re: Cute things that your son has said?

I have GBBGB (and B on the way). My DS1 tells me he's never moving out because "I'll miss you too much, Mommy." He also blows me kisses and yells "I love you!" over crowds of kids as he lines up for school every morning. He will follow me around chatting my ear off, always wants me to taste his chocolate/candy so I can enjoy it as much as he does, and insists on two kisses at bedtime every night. ...

Re: For Mums of Oooops babies....boys or girls?

3 out of 6 of my babies were unplanned...3 boys.

Re: Please vote on my boy names

Aaah! This is hard...DH likes Carter. I like Tristan...and now Lincoln (Link nn) is starting to really grow on me. Don't know how to choose.

Re: Give me some old fashioned short names ideas

Anna Leigh is my DD's name - I love it. [HH]

Re: Please vote on my boy names

How much do you worry about mean rhymes? Like "Carter the farter" or "Linc the dink" or "stinkin' Lincoln"? What do you think? Should I worry about it or not?

Re: Please vote on my boy names

Thanks ladies! Keep the votes coming!

Please vote on my boy names

Re: Give me some old fashioned short names ideas

Anna Anne Lucy Kay Jane Jolie Clara Ellie Sadie Nora Helen Mabel I know how you feel - not being 100% sure...DH and I are having the hardest time coming up with our little boy's name. Good luck!

Re: I feel mean...but I can't see her little girl :(

[quote user="blessed2havekids"] it was rough also but I feel they helped my GD...they made me realize they were no more special then my boys and were kids all the same... [/quote] I just love the truth in this comment...that kids are all equally special. Many hugs. I understand how you feel also. My sister had a baby girl early this week. I'm expecting a boy and really, really wanted a girl. ...

Re: struggling

Have you tried talking to DH about it? Maybe if he understood how deeply saddened you are, he'd be willing to keep the door open for the possibility of having another baby? Just wanted to send you some hugs. You have found the right place for support and understanding...xo

Re: Strange kind of satisfaction

What a stupid thing of her to say ("I can't picture you with a boy..."). Honestly! I do try to make a point of 'taking the high road' when it comes to situations like this though, simply because it seems to only make me feel worse/catty to do the opposite. My DH hears out most of my vents and the remarks I'd like to give out but hold back on, lol. But I totally understand your annoyance with her!

Tristan?

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