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[quote user="goodthings"]Saliero,
Thanks so much. You definitely made me feel better. I agree -- I think the bios, moon signs, etc do make us feel like we are in control, and I also think that it can be a tool to deal with not getting our desired gender. For instance, if someone doesn't get their desired gender, well then, maybe the moon sign changed at 11:23 am and the person didn't know ...
05 Sep 2012 10:00 AM
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Very interesting, it's something I have noticed and it makes me really mad, my boys are just as good as my daughter and I want them to grow up to be confident and assured about their place in the world. Girls do seem to get preferential treatment and its something that I will try and balance as my boys get older. Already I let them buy their own things in shops, give their names to recep...
04 Sep 2012 10:12 AM
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I didn't dream about the baby at all during my first pregnancy. I dreamt the baby was a boy throughout my second and he was.I dreamt the baby was a girl throughout my third pregnancy and she was.This pregnancy I began to dream the baby was a boy which completely convinced me it was a boy based on my two previous pregnancies, but according to two separate scans with a very experienced sonograp...
04 Sep 2012 10:02 AM
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I don't think that the moon and critical days etc make one jot of difference myself - they help us feel in control of the TTc process and swaying inparticular but at the end of day we do the best we can and its still roughly 50-50 what we get. If it's making you feel stressed it isn't worth doing, a sway shouldn't make you feel ill, physically or mentally!!
02 Sep 2012 9:20 PM
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[quote user="goodthings"]Saliero, did you pay attention to biorhythms, critical days, moon signs, or moon phase when you conceived your girls?
Thanks![/quote] No, I didn't do any of that, I definitely think trying to lower the sperm count has the greatest impact and so really I looked at ways to do that (which was hard with a reluctant DH!), I also tried to lower my Ph around BD time with...
30 Aug 2012 1:01 PM
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Would you be able to move the bedrooms around a little? I assume you are in the largest room but could you move into the boys room and the children move into yours? Then you could probably fit 2 bunkbeds in there which means fitting 4 children in comfortably. I too agree they don't need their own room, we have the 2 boys in one room and soon to be 2 girls in another. I think if your heart des...
26 Aug 2012 8:49 AM
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Hello again [:-)]The waiting is the worst part, by far. In the weeks running up to my gender scans I spend hours and hours on sites like this and looking up statistics and nub pictures and just generally obsessing and thinking about it ALL the time. All the 'what-ifs' floating around and also the fear that the hope that is still there could be snatched away. Not a fun time, for me anyway!I was too...
22 Jul 2012 10:51 AM
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I'm not sure what people are seeing because I can't see anything! I think you're still in the running for girl :-)
16 Jul 2012 9:53 PM
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I too bought into the whole 'son is son until he gets a wife...' stuff but then I began to analyse the relationship of the adults to their mothers around me and a lot of my female friends have moved away from home or don't bother much with their mothers while their husbands do and it comes down to the relationship they had with their mother growing up. If it was close then it will remain close, no...
16 Jul 2012 11:03 AM
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You're right, gender stereotypes are soooooooo silly! I think a lot of women on here have very young children who have yet to develop interests and hobbies of their own and so they assume that their child will like trucks/pink etc when it is not the case at all!!My children like a mix of everything, my son can be cooking on the pretend kitchen while my daughter plays with cars. As long as you...
16 Jul 2012 10:48 AM
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I totally understand your reasoning. I too lost my mum to cancer 4 years ago when my second boy was 7 weeks old. I remember wishing and wishing at the time that I had been pregnant with a girl so I could have named her after my mum and had them meet each other. I too was very very close to my mum and wanted to replicate that relationship we had with a daughter of my own. I would say it was probabl...
16 Jul 2012 10:45 AM
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I think it can seem this way because this board can appear to be slanted in preference to girls, there are plenty of women wanting sons and brothers for thier sons but I think a lot of women would like to experience raising a girl due to familiarity/reliving old hobbies/seeing themselves in their daughter/more choice in clothes/relive good mother/daughter relationship etc and i...
16 Jul 2012 10:26 AM
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I was one of the ones who looked forward to dressing up my little girl, and I still love how cute she looks when I've finished but oh my goodness what a pain it is to get to that point! I'm not very good with matching clothes/colours etc, I don't have much interest in clothes myself and pretty much put on the first thing I see when I open the wardrobe, my boys are very easy to dress and very easy ...
09 Jul 2012 10:01 AM
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I swayed for both my girls x
07 Jul 2012 9:03 AM
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[quote user="DreamingofXX"]
This is one of the reasons I am so sad that I am having another boy. I wanted a daughter to do 4-H and to do horse shows and trail rides, plus I just really wanted someone to ride with, and getting our toes done together like me and my mom have done.. But, now it will never happen so hopefully one of my boys will love horses as much as I do, and will ride with me.. bu...
27 Jun 2012 11:23 AM
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My DDs pregnancy was very different, I had morning sickness which I'd never had before, different cravings, I looked terrible whereas I'd 'bloomed' with the boys and of course I was having girl dreams. Despite all this I was scared of hearing boy at the scan and so went team green, I TOTALLY convinced myself it was another boy as a form of self protection and so it was a shock when she c...
26 Jun 2012 3:56 PM
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[quote user="mrspopo"]
Such thoughtful and insightful comments. I guess deep down the longing for your DG is hard to describe and put into words.
I'm probably just really sensitive to it because of my own upbringing (my parents were born in the 40s and very much a product of their generation), but I certainly pick up on a lot of the comments about wanting frilly clothes and a...
26 Jun 2012 10:28 AM
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I have a friend whose 'feeling' has been right with all my children, we used to laugh about it. My pregnancy dreams have also been correct for the last 2 babies (didn't dream about the first one). For this pregnancy my dreams have been of a boy and my friend's 'feeling' was boy too. I thought that was it, definitely a boy, it seemed so conclusive to me but my scan revealed a girl!! I was comp...
26 Jun 2012 10:12 AM
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[quote user="abcd12"][quote user="saliero"]
I found this site when I started to research swaying for my third pregnancy. I got my DD and once she was born I left the board. When I started TTC my fourth I came back, she's another girl, so another success for IG but I'm still pregnant, so I'm still here. Once she arrives I imagine I will stop visiting and posting.
I also remember the sick feeling...
23 Jun 2012 8:57 AM
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I found this site when I started to research swaying for my third pregnancy. I got my DD and once she was born I left the board. When I started TTC my fourth I came back, she's another girl, so another success for IG but I'm still pregnant, so I'm still here. Once she arrives I imagine I will stop visiting and posting.
I also remember the sick feeling in my stomach at the thought of never having ...
20 Jun 2012 10:22 AM
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When my first son was 18 months old I bought him a little blue buggy and a blue doll, DH was NOT happy and grumbled for days and days about how 'boys don't push buggies' but HE does! He pushes a buggy every time we go out together and DS sees lots of other men pushing buggies too so what is the difference? Both my sons LOVED that buggy and we'd often go out together with him pushing it, I'd someti...
18 Jun 2012 10:06 AM
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I totally agree with everyone else, adding a third was far easier than adding a 2nd. You've already learned to divide your time and the older children have each other to play with, whereas my DS1 was 22 months when DS2 was born and so wanted my attention ALL the time, it was very trying. Also, because they're older they can amuse themselves more, I save things up for when its time to feed the baby...
04 Jun 2012 8:56 AM
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[quote user="DreamingofXX"]
Also, it could be because of our fears of not getting a girl. The "finding out it's a boy and then being devastated" part.. It's our worst fear!
But, I am hoping it's because we got our "opposites" in there!!
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With DS2 and DD I dreamed the correct gender for them both (had no gender dreams with my first). When I fell pre...
30 May 2012 9:52 AM
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I always knew I wanted four and I've always felt there was someone missing, not until I fell pregnant this time did I feel complete and yet I still had that sickening uncertainty of falling pregnant again and changing the family dynamics.
I found going from 0 children to 1 very difficult, when I became pg with DS2 I worried how I would cope and how the 2 brothers would bond and regard each other....
29 May 2012 6:05 PM
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People still make stupid comments about gender even if you have both, as I've found out. I feel very defensive towards my boys as they seem to be looked on as not as valuable as girls. Yes, I did sway for my girls but had I had them first I would have swayed for boys too, I always wanted to raise both, yet they are seen as some kind of consolation prize, that I had to have them to get to my girl w...
29 May 2012 10:23 AM
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