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I thought this was an interesting article on the power of pink in the life of girls these days, and how powerful a marketing tool it is. Does anyone else with girls find the pink thing unsettling? If so check this out. http://www.guardian.co.uk/theguardian/2009/dec/12/pinkstinks-the-power-of-pink
I personally do not find it cute,...
13 Dec 2009 6:31 PM
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That is never acceptable. I am so sorry you had to be party to that conversation; your outrage is quite right. Congratulations on your pregnancy.
04 Dec 2009 1:41 PM
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Good luck with your US Halcyon440. Two little girls is a lovely image, as is two little boys, but I have to say, I have a younger brother, and we have a fantastic relationship. Our support of each other is rock solid. My parents got so much pleasure from watching the fun we had together as children, and even now, no one makes me laugh like he does. So witnessing a caring sibling relationship...
04 Dec 2009 1:37 PM
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Yes, and I just hate that knowledge that another baby possibility is being squandered - even though at 43 I do not want any more. I wish I didnt have to be reminded that it is in fact possible... every month.
20 Nov 2009 9:14 PM
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I am sorry you did not get what you wanted. I also wanted a boy after having my first girl, and I also had agreed to stop at two. SO I know exactly what you are feeling. Likewise, my dh was disappointed, but he loves his girls so much. Our second is a very different character,adn that has helped enormously because the differentness compensates for the lack of different gender, and gives us a...
20 Nov 2009 12:57 PM
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Only reason - age. I know my tiredness limit, and I am aware that for the child to have such an old mum might be an issue. Although I kniow older mums who are brilliant. Maybe its just me. If I was younger, I certainly wouldn't be done.(age 43) It took a long time for me to get into a strong relationship with a good father, so I started at 38. I am sad about that, but ...
13 Nov 2009 1:30 PM
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I am heading towards 44, and and working through the 'fertile years are over' process. I absolutely loved being pregnant both times. When I see pregnant women I have to stop myself from staring! - and when I chat to pregnant friends I have to stop myself being too intensely interested. I always want to tell them to make the most of it, because it is so special. No pregnant woman is going to ...
13 Nov 2009 1:26 PM
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Yes AprilMay, it's a funny old thing life. I am surprised at the way things have turned out. It just goes to show, how cock-sure we are when we are young, that we will just get what we want.I was supposed to be living quite a glamourous, impressive life by 40, in a beautiful, stylish house. I wish you could see where I am sitting!!lol. I had DD2 at 42, and so I am at the st...
13 Nov 2009 1:17 PM
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I know I have the opposite gender, but I recognise what you describe so well. I feel very sad for you, and was moved to reply, as I can hear how strong the longing is. I am sure that there are MANY women on here who are praying for a miracle. I know that I asked over and over again with my second for a look at the gender, even though it was absolutely clear that I wasn't having a boy.I wish you pe...
13 Nov 2009 12:40 PM
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Thanks to the poster who explained how to quote someone!!That is so spot on. I agree with all of you here. I wish I had a coin for everytime I put my foot in it, pre children. I would have thought nothing of asking if they knew the gender when they were pregnant, (which I never do now), and I would have been so insensitively vocal about wanting boys. I was absolutely shocked in both ut...
13 Nov 2009 12:34 PM
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Hi, I didn't see that, but I have a feeling that there is something political going on in UK at the moment with gender selection. Someone else may be able to enlighten you. I did read an article in one of the colour supplements this week (The Times I think) about a UK news reader who had five girls and has just had his first boy. There was a huge photo of his five lovely girls - and the whol...
17 Sep 2009 2:06 PM
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Hi all, Thank you so much for your messages. They were all helpful. It is so reassuring to hear that others experienced complicated feelings around the birth and lead-up. decemberbaby, I was struck by the parallel with your situation. It made me want to say thank you for telling me that you understand what I was feeling at the time. Very helpful to remember the power o...
06 Aug 2009 8:11 AM
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Hi, I would really appreciate someone's feedback on my story - if anyone can relate to any of it. I opted for an elective caesarian with my second birth, which I now regret. I did this because GD had put me in a kind of trance about the birth of the baby. I couldn't imagine feeling any passion for her, becasue we had both wanted a boy so much. So when they offered to give me another cae...
04 Aug 2009 2:19 PM
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Don't worry - it will not affect your baby in that direct way. I had all those feelings with my second, and it astonished me that she didn't come out looking completely miserable. On the contrary, she came out with a peaceful and straight-forward demeanour. I think it is already determined in their DNA, and their emotional level is entirely their own.so relax and feel whatever you feel - All...
27 Jul 2009 4:19 PM
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Just want to wish you good luck with US. Your posts were really poignant; and you expressed your feelings so clearly. I truly hope you see a girl tomorrow. Could you just ask to have a look but no 'diagnosis' so that they are not committing to either gender, and it is your opinion only? will get what you want.Good luck with the party too - I agree with previous post, a pre...
27 Jul 2009 4:12 PM
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That IS your GD talking - you're right!!! All the women wanting boys are thinking the exact opposite, and noticing all the evidence to back that up. It seems to me that people all want baby boys more than girls. Know that it does funny things to our perception. I had to read your post because I couldn't believe you would think baby girls are more cute. I have the opposite GD to yo...
25 Jul 2009 7:57 PM
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YES YES YES!!! It is so fantastic to hear someone else post something that is SO relevent to me. We are done having kids as well (two girls - and I am too old to have any more..42). When I was first pregnant with my first my husband told me he had the fantasy of twin boys! I found it very upsetting when we found out the gender and he was clearly disappointed. First time around, he...
12 Jul 2009 12:38 PM
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Hi Cecily-parsley, It is wonderful to hear people talking on here about GD in terms of its wider and deeper causes. An article on this subject is a very good idea. Just a quick thought for your article. You may want to talk to an untrasound technician, as they are the people who deliver the news of gender. I often think they may have an interesting perspective on how women or men may re...
11 Jul 2009 2:27 PM
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Great question, I knew I was done when my second and last daughter was born, because I was 42! which is certainly beyond the age I think I personally should continue. Inside I am not done, and wish so much that I had started having children much much earlier. I am blessed with two healthy children for which I am very grateful, but having them has opened me out so much that it is excruc...
03 Jul 2009 9:23 PM
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Hi,I had mine age 38 and 42... so well over 35! I had two OSCAR 'neucal fold' scans at 12 weeks. The chances of the abnormalites they tested for were 1:712 (age 38) and 1: 1008 (age 42), so I decided to play the odds and take the risk that they would be ok. ie. no amnios. Both times I felt that the doctors were reassuring me that it seemed good. I was fortunate that both ba...
03 Jul 2009 4:40 PM
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Yes, the second time for sure!! I remember vividly people giving me 'oh dear' looks - but I think that is a general response to getting two of the same gender (boy or girl), as very few people don't want a Pigeon pair. I think if I had been absolutely fine about second girl, I would not have experienced negative feedback, because people would have sensed I was happy and responded accordingly. ...
01 Jul 2009 4:05 PM
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I sometimes wonder though whether I might have found something else to obsess about or be disatisfied with.... I know I have said this before, and Blue Sky you didn't think you would. But Would our lives be that perfect?
23 Jun 2009 1:11 PM
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Don't worry it won't always feel like this. It is quite normal to feel this upset though, and dealing with it is hard sometimes. A lot of what you are feeling is projecting forward to after the birth and imagining you won't like her. But oh boy you will!! She will probably be the cutest thing you have ever met. It will all feel slightly different from how you expect it to feel when she comes...
23 Jun 2009 1:06 PM
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Yes I know what you mean. It can be a downer. I also feel relieved when someone has a girl, and really really relieved when they look thrilled.
23 Jun 2009 12:53 PM
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That's awfully hard. I bet you did feel stunned. It is such a shame that they couldn't be bigger about their envy, and use their friendship with you to help them work through it. GD won't go away by punishing everyone who has what they want! More fool them. Sometimes it is hard getting what someone else really wants isn't it. My best friend and jobshare colleague has been u...
23 Jun 2009 12:50 PM
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