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[quote user="Seb2011"]Hi Pescafish,
Your post sounds like you are suffering from a textbook case if post partum depression. This isn't your fault and you didn't do anything wrong. There are millions of women who feel this way after they have their babies. Do you have a family doctor you can talk with about how you're feeling? They can get you the help you need. I have suffered from several...
22 Nov 2011 5:59 AM
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[quote user="SAHM"]So just an update on my situation......
1. Hubbie and I talked - or more like I had a meltdown...he basically said that I was on my own and he doesn't see anything wrong with his behaviour. He said he doesn't want a divorce but he can't do anymore than he is already doing.
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I dont have the whole story, but I do feel angry at your husband for the way he is...
21 Nov 2011 10:44 PM
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Many of my friends/cousins have a PP and only 2 kids. Definitely some of them would have tried for 1 more if they didnt get their desired gender. As for me, the only reason I am even entertaining the thought of a 3rd kid in my dreams if because I want my gender.
21 Nov 2011 9:12 PM
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There is a major difference between women with GD in this forum and people aborting female fetuses in Asia or elsewhere. Those people we read about in the news do not prefer boys, or any gender for SENTIMENTAL purposes. They want boys for ECONOMIC and sometimes social reasons only, because boys are favoured historically, they used to be considered the preferred "stronger" gender. Whereas people...
03 Nov 2011 11:14 PM
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Do have another scan just to be sure, otherwise you'll be hoping always that the tech is wrong. I spent 4 months of my pregnancy hoping that the u/s was wrong, but they are not usually wrong. Only in rare cases. It is better to start the GD healing process now , rather than after birth.
03 Nov 2011 7:52 PM
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[quote user="SAHM"]; It is really hard - especially when you are out shopping and have towalk by all the beautiful girls clothes and holiday wear and go to the boys section where you are greeted with pants and sweaters. No pretty shoes, jackets, stockings.....
I think next year I am going to dress up as the princess....with all these boys I better be the princess!!! [/quote]
SAHM, th...
03 Nov 2011 6:01 PM
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[quote user="wounded_healer."]"Are you going to try for a boy/girl?"
"how do you do that?"
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Love that comeback !
31 Oct 2011 4:00 AM
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I see a lot of halloween costumes for little girls that are so sweet. Like princesses, fairies, etc. So cute and adorable. Triggers my GD some more when I realize I'll never dress up a kid in a little princess outfit. Last yr, my older son was dressed up as a knight (a very basic costume) and in his daycare was this very cute girl in a cinderella outfit .. They looked adorable together. I thought ...
30 Oct 2011 9:02 PM
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I decided not to log into Facebook anymore, because of pics of other people's happy families. makes my GD worse! that and their posts about their perfect girls in cute outfits ! And some profile pics of the PP families. It is amazing how many of them are there .
30 Oct 2011 4:29 AM
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Money is one think stopping us from having a 3rd child. Also NO one of our friends/family in our circle have more than 2. I am talking about 40-50 couples that we know . No one has 3 kids, its wierd. I never noticed before. So I would need a lot of moral support to go for another one. I want to be able to send them both to college, and I feel we'll be hand to mouth if I get a 3rd kid , since I wou...
29 Oct 2011 8:03 PM
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I feel the same way. I think I can deal with my GD when i stop wishing to turn back the clock and get a chance to conceive again.
29 Oct 2011 7:58 PM
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I was in the same situation. SIL was got a girl after a boy, when I had just one boy. I was envious at the time, but sick with jealousy now after my second boy was born. I think its going to be rough for awhile while you adjust to the situation.
29 Oct 2011 1:24 AM
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I understand your sadness too ! Have 2 boys and not going to have any more children. Never getting to experience the world of girls is a big loss i feel.
29 Oct 2011 1:12 AM
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I 've also wanted 2 pregnancies . Had a son first, and for the second pregnancy, wanted 2 kids - a girl and boy ! how greedy is that :) Anyway, wanted a girl at least - a PP. Turns out I have another boy and now I am stuck. My quota of pregnancies is over. Even if I make a leap of faith and go for a 3rd, it will require a mindshift . Thats a whole new dynamic - having a 3rd opposite gender while ...
22 Oct 2011 11:47 PM
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The opposite gender is always going to be a new experience for you as a mom. Did you want only 2 kids to begin with and now you are considering a 3rd just for the sake of getting a boy ? That could be why you are nervous about trying for a 3rd. Thinking about a third makes me nervous because I never wanted a 3rd.
If you always wanted a third and are nervous just because you are 3 women in the h...
22 Oct 2011 8:55 AM
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Sorry that you feel bad ! I know it hurts extra if a close relative or friend is having the gender we want. Also it will be worse having to see the child often. Not sure what to say. Keep logging into this forum and reading posts about other people's boys. Also vent. Works for me sometimes.
22 Oct 2011 8:46 AM
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I think that might cure my GD a bit - when my baby DS2 grows up enough to play with my DS1. I heard from other boys only moms that it was the best thing about have 2 boys - that they'll play together and have similar interests, and no fighting for the remote to watch different shows.
22 Oct 2011 6:57 AM
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I was watching Oprah's lifeclass and the ego episode and I tried to relate to how our feeling hurt , etc is a result of us letting our ego get the better of us. But her other lifeclass episode on visualisation and total belief in our sucess had me feeling depressed. Because I feel I doubted that I was going to get a girl when I was trying to have a baby. I didnt visualise it a 100%.
21 Oct 2011 4:49 AM
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"Congratuations" is best. Dont even need to ask the Gender. Why do total strangers care if we are having another boy or a girl ? I must admit I have done the same. Ask people about gender, or maybe even reacted to people (at east in my mind) if they had the same gender again . I'll never do that again !
Usually the worst thing people have said to me is " ANOTHER boy " ? or "oh, u r having a boy ...
20 Oct 2011 9:05 PM
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Ya, other people do trigger the GD. If it wasnt so important for others to point out to single gender moms that they dont have the other gender, I think the mom would get over it easily. Now they not only have to get over it in their minds, but have to have enough defenses that if someone makes a stupid comment, they should be strong enough not to relapse.
20 Oct 2011 12:21 AM
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yup, done having kids, which is why its harder.
19 Oct 2011 11:56 PM
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and my GD was under control, I had a conversation with a cousin of mine who has a PP - an older boy and a younger girl, my dream family. And I mentioned that I was hoping for a girl, casually. I didnt want her to know how desperately I wanted one. Anyway, she said yes, there is a "Special joy in having a girl and that it is a must for everyone". And went on and on about her girl. She is a very pro...
19 Oct 2011 7:46 AM
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Definitely ! I do get jealous when I see the little pink icons on ppl at in-gender. Especially those who have one of both.
17 Oct 2011 5:30 AM
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[quote user="SAHM"]Dear lasttime: The only thing useful that you said was that she should seek help. Everything else WAS NOT HELPFUL!!!! Your post makes me angry. I suffered from major PPD and you are basically in a fog.....telling her that you feel sorry for her sons and that after having a baby it is no longer about her and saying that she should spend her time elsewhere ...
13 Oct 2011 4:50 AM
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Sorry about ur day at the mall. It probably wont go away as soon as the baby is born. I am still struggling after 2 months. I think we have to work at it intensely to make the GD disappear.
13 Oct 2011 4:45 AM
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