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Oh wow i haven't been on this site for almost 9 months but just wanted to check in on an old cyber friend who is due to have her baby soon, this was the first post i saw. I have four boys between 13 and 5yrs. It does get better, in fact i have nothing but pure joy in my boys and my family now, don't know when or how the desire for a girl went away, just time i guess and having such awesome boys...
22 Dec 2012 3:27 AM
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good on you!! Bet you were laughing all the way home!!
21 Sep 2010 10:21 PM
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For me being pregnant was always when i had the worst GD, with #3  i was blessed to fall in love the instant i held them. I did however struggle with bonding with my #2, i hadn't found out gender before birth and now wonder if it was GD or if it was just that i had trouble adjusting to having 2 children, anyway it took me about 6 months to really really feel that i loved him as much a...
02 Jul 2010 6:25 AM
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I would be much, much happier although i would still like a girl - i think. Or maybe i am just so used to being told i NEED one that i have come to believe it myself.
02 Jul 2010 12:52 AM
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Very happy to hear your little boy is here, healthy and beautiful. Glad you are feeling so good about him, there is nothing like those first few days with your newborn. Congratulations.
02 Jul 2010 12:43 AM
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First babies are always more celebrated, more hospital visitors, more pressies, more photos - i have found this with all my friends regardless of the gender makeup of their families. The more children you have less fanfare people tend to make about it.
Only you can know if those close to you would be reacting this way based on gender, and if so then they aren't worth wasting time worrying a...
01 Jul 2010 12:08 AM
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I have been in your position and know it sucks! I know how you feel but i can say that 3 yrs later those feelings of total desperation have gone and i honestly feel blessed to be one of the lucky few who will ever know the true joy that can come from having 4 boys, i am sure who will understand what i mean one day. The desire for a dd is still there but the sadness at having lots of boy...
30 Jun 2010 10:54 PM
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This is the one and only reason i will not do HT, it is based on my religion, and beleive me there are times when i wish with all my heart i could go against my beleifs and just do it, but deep down i know i couldn't live with myself if i did.
28 Jun 2010 11:00 PM
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Your brothers are beautiful, i hope i do as good a job of raising my boys as your parents have done with your brothers!
28 Jun 2010 10:53 AM
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In a word NO! My DH doesn't understand my desire for a daughter at all, he always wanted boys and now he has a houseful of them. He tells me to be grateful just like your DH which infuriates me as well, because like you i already know how blessed i am, i don't need him to remind me. I just want him to sympathise with me, even if he doesn't mean it. While i was ttc we used to fight alot about...
26 Jun 2010 7:52 AM
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For me it hasn't gone away entirely but it has definetly eased, i still think it would have been great to have a DD but i can now seperate that disappointment from the total joy i feel in having 4 boys.
My Gd has never been related to having young boys but more to the fear of our relationship weakening as they get older, so i guess my Gd is based on fear and won't ever go away fully until my boys...
24 Jun 2010 1:12 AM
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I think it could be severely damaging to children. I hate it when someone comments on me needing a girl when my boys are around and i always defend them, saying something simple, like My boys are awsome, i love my family just the way it is.
Sometimes i think i go overboard in making sure my boys know i am not disappointed in having all boys (even though i really am). I always tell them how cool b...
24 Jun 2010 1:01 AM
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Sounds like a really rough situation, being a mum is so hard sometimes.
Has there been a change in his life recently? Children often act out in times of stress. Are you able to discuss his behavior/feelings with him when you are both calm - i know this is hard as often children can't fully verbalise their feelings often.
Another thing to be aware of is allergies and food intolerances, sometimes ...
22 Jun 2010 12:47 AM
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I suffered really badly with GD through pregnancy with both #3 and #4 but found that GD after birth was much worse with #3, after #4 i feel alot more satisfied with having all boys.
21 Jun 2010 11:15 PM
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LIke others have said i LOVE the time to myself when they are doing stuff with their dad.
I am not very girly and love to play soccer, wrestling, races all that physical play that boys often love to do so i never feel left out.
The only time i get annoyed is when they are watching sports on TV because that is deathly boring to me, but i solved that by getting a TV in my bedroom and now i use tha...
20 Jun 2010 9:26 AM
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My thoughts and prayers are with you, hope you hear PINK.
17 Jun 2010 11:14 PM
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Before kids i wanted[XY] [XY] [XX][XX].
Now that i have 4 boys my dream is [XY][XY][XY][XY][XX][XX][XY], really would love to get the chance to experience a baby boy without any GD.
17 Jun 2010 11:12 PM
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I don't have baths/showers with my boys because i love that time to myself, but they see me naked all the time, they constantly come into the bathroom when i'm showering or on the loo, it doesn't bother me or them at all. When they start becoming more modest about themselves then i will take that as my cue to be more discreet also. I'm guessing it will be when they hit puberty.
Your ...
14 Jun 2010 5:11 AM
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I'm sorry that you are so upset. I think pg hormones alway make things harder to handle as well.
I must admit to be a little bit excited for you, i am certain that if this is a boy, you will be consumed with love for him, just like with your girls and you will experience the joy of both genders.
I really feel that it will be a good thing for your girls to have a brother so that boy...
09 Jun 2010 3:21 AM
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Blessedwithlove - that is a great username, wish i had thought of it for myself. I know exactly how blessed you feel.
How rude and unneccessary for anyone to comment on your name - they must have very little else in their lives. There is one poster on here now that i refuse to respond and i am guessing she may be the one to have pm you.
You are a lucky women with very lucky sons
09 Jun 2010 12:02 AM
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I would get them to write it down also, then you can open it when and where you are ready, although i know if it was me i would have it ripped open well before i got home - i have no willpower!
I really think that you have made a wise choice to find out. Lots of PINK wishes.
02 Jun 2010 10:47 PM
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Love2run, great post, always inspired to hear happy stories of people finding joy and acceptance of their families. I am so thankful for the love i feel for my children and really think i am a better parent, partner, friend for having dealt with GD.
I agree that their is a special bond between brothers (and i am sure sisters) that is just a delight to watch grow.
Thanks
01 Jun 2010 4:49 AM
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Congratulations, so happy that little Oliver is here with you and healthy. Seriously 3 boys is truely beautiful, hope you enjoy all your sons.
01 Jun 2010 4:42 AM
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I would imagine that most people who want large one gender families do so purely out of fear either from past experiences or gender stereotypes. Having so little exposure to males in your family must make them feel very foreign to you. The best way to get over your fear is to face it.
Whilst i know i am supposed to say i hope you get a girl, i can't help but think having a boy would be...
01 Jun 2010 4:31 AM
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I know exactly how you feel. Not wanting 5 boys in no way diminishes the love you have for your other boys, but 5 kids of any gender has got to be tough then add in GD and it is pretty scary.
Like all pp i am certain your heart will melt when you have this baby, boy or girl, and the love will be the same as with your other kids.
I honestly think that you would do better to...
01 Jun 2010 4:19 AM
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