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Yup, you did the right thing with your text.... but oh, I know exactly how you feel! I think about it every single day and I don't know how to get over it. I too have imagined how I would feel hearing, "It's a girl!". Breaks my heart. I love my boys so much.... but the sadness over not having a daughter (and probably won't ever have one) is sometimes almost too much to bear.
27 May 2010 6:28 PM
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Oh my gosh, I am so so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your family. Try to ignore the unkind comments. I don't know why your mother would act like this, but just remember that you did nothing to bring this on. You were a great wife and you are a great Mom, so never lose sight of that. Your boys need their momma now and you need them, too. I pray that you will find a little more strength ...
27 May 2010 6:25 PM
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I'm so sorry you're going through this! I know how heartbreaking it is to have to think about weaning. I just want to say that even if you have to, you should be really proud of yourself for doing as much as you can to solve the problem, and remember that ANY amount of breastfeeding is a great start for your baby, even if it's not for as long as you had hoped. Also, I agree that you should get...
27 May 2010 3:50 AM
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I'm really confused. With DS1, I had to wean completely to get my AF back, and when she came back, it was like a normal period. This time around, I don't want to have to wean DS2 in order to get AF back, so I went to the naturopath and she gave me a tincture (safe for baby!) to help me ovulate. It's been almost three weeks since I've been taking it, and I've just had about 3-4 days of brown sp...
27 May 2010 3:45 AM
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I'm going to chime in and say that I also think it really is just the luck of the draw. Swaying might help a tiny bit for some people, but in the end I think it's just up to which sperm happens to get to the egg first. WIth my DS1 we had mostly all the boy sway factors going on without knowing it (although I don't know what our ph was), so I wasn't surprised that he was a boy.... with DS2, EVERY...
19 May 2010 6:13 PM
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I've read lots about vitex swaying pink, so yes, I'd add b-complex and maybe see a naturopath about it as well. love-my-kids, how much vitex were you taking when you conceived your DD? Were you BFing at the time?
08 May 2010 10:19 PM
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Last week I went to a naturopath to talk to her about options for getting af back while still breastfeeding. She specializes in women's health, fertility, breastfeeding, and pediatrics. What she gave me was a liquid mixture of vitex, motherwort, angelica, and false unicorn. There is more vitex than false unicorn in it. My worry is that I know false unicorn is on the ttc boy list and if we ttc ...
02 May 2010 6:35 AM
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Hi again.... I just went to the naturopath this week and I asked her about taking vitex to get af back. I'm still nursing my 10 month old and there's no sign of her. What she gave me is a mixture of vitex, motherwort, angelica, and false unicorn. She said that adding in those other three botanicals as well as the vitex should almost for sure bring af back. She specializes in fertility, breastf...
02 May 2010 6:14 AM
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Hi! Check out the thread a few posts up. There are a few supps you can take...
29 Apr 2010 9:11 PM
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B6, B-Complex, Calcium/magnesium/Vitamin D, and cranberry are also safe. I asked my doctor and she said it was okay. Tamara, if you think we still shouldn't take these, please do let us know!!!! I wouldn't want to take anything if it wasn't safe while bfing! Thanks!
29 Apr 2010 9:10 PM
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.... how do you find it? Is it much harder than two? Do they all get along? Is one always left out? We are still thinking about ttc again but one of the things I am worried about is if we have another boy, how they will all interact and if they will get along together...... and if three boys will just be too much for me! .....I am also worried about possible health risks for the baby because ...
23 Apr 2010 10:44 PM
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Yup, and that's an understatement. I almost feel like I am in denial about it. I have thought about it and about "her" for as long as I can remember being alive. It's like I can't really even accept that I am not meant to have a daughter. It's crushing. And I feel so guilty about it because I couldn't love my sons more than I already do and they are my whole life, but I can't help but feel t...
23 Apr 2010 10:31 PM
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Thanks so much for replying. If it turns out to be cm I'm in big trouble.......!
17 Apr 2010 10:30 PM
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Hi everyone.... I have been meaning to ask this for awhile but I didn't want to bother everyone. I'm really confused about it though. It's TMI, but here goes: whenever DH and I BD, the next day (and sometimes even two days later), I end up with a "glob" (sorry, yuck, I know!) or two of cm that is pretty much like EWCM, except it's usually kind of streaky/creamy looking instead of clear like tr...
17 Apr 2010 10:02 PM
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Hmmm... DH drinks a TON of Coke Zero and we have two DS. When we had his sperm testing done just after we conceived DS2, it came back with slightly high sperm count, normal motility, and slightly low morphology. Interesting. I don't get why we have boys because EVERYTHING seems to point to girls for us, but nope!
06 Apr 2010 10:49 PM
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... is it true then that frequent (daily) BD or release no longer sways girl? (If doing a cut-off or BDing through O). When DH and I conceived our boys, we were doing daily (sometimes twice) BD or release... and I thought for sure we would have girls because DH smokes a lot and was also on anti-depressants, which I know is supposed to sway girl.... but now it seems that if I am reading the new s...
02 Apr 2010 6:49 PM
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I think I have always O'd later too - I o'd on CD25 when we conceived DS1 and CD18 when we conceived DS2. I can't remember with DS1, but with DS2, I had a 10 day luteal phase. I was taking B6 and B Complex to lengthen it, but it stayed at 10 days (maybe it would have been shorter if I hadn't been on the B6?). I think short luteal phases mean low progesterone, and I'm pretty sure low progesteron...
01 Apr 2010 10:52 PM
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Thank you for the replies! It's so hard to decide what to do next, but I appreciate the honesty...
26 Mar 2010 6:55 PM
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I too know how you feel, although I only have two boys. We are trying to decide whether or not to have a third child and I know I would feel just the way you do if we had another boy..... but I also know that I would love him to bits, just like I love my two boys already. You will love this new little fellow, too! I agree with Alaina in that you should go and buy something special just for this...
26 Mar 2010 6:40 PM
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Hmmm, how odd! I'm wondering if maybe cm ph might change after it has been outside the body for a little while? I'm not sure about this. The other thing is, was the consistency of the cm on your underwear the same as the consistency of the cm from your "reach and hook" sample? Was the underwear sample more of an EWCM consistency? Do you have the correct ph strips? I know some of them appare...
26 Mar 2010 4:10 AM
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That's too bad you had a bad experience on here. I'm glad you felt you could come back. I feel for you and I'm sorry you're getting such negative vibes from other people. They can be downright nasty sometimes, full stop. I love the saying, "fake it till you make it". It's really the only thing I can do when people make dumb comments to me about having boys and no girls. Even my SIL says horr...
25 Mar 2010 10:32 PM
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Do you think that if someone has a failed sway (one that they thought was a pretty good attempt and covered pretty much all 7 factors), they are more likely to have another failed sway, and that swaying might just not work for them at all? I am asking for a really honest opinion here! It just seems to me that there are so many ladies on here who have had one or two or three failed sways, and n...
25 Mar 2010 10:26 PM
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Oh, I'm sorry to hear that! I know how you feel. I just want one too! And yes, there are so many changes to make when swaying for a girl, and it seems so stressful! I swayed my heart out and did what I thought was a great sway last time around, but nope, we got our DS2. Sigh. I love him to the moon and back and I wouldn't trade him for anything, but oh, do I ever want pink! The thought of t...
25 Mar 2010 10:19 PM
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I was wondering the same thing. I have googled it and what I have found is, if you type in "Symptoms of high estrogen" (Or testosterone or progesterone or whatever), some sites should come up. It's a bit confusing because some of the symptoms are the same for different hormonal imbalances - for example, I think there are similar symptoms for low progesterone as there are for high progesterone! ...
25 Mar 2010 10:16 PM
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I asked this on the GD board but I don't think I made the question clear enough. I'm wondering if anyone has had a failed sway, and then decided NOT to sway again with the NEXT baby (Or had an oops baby, or whatever), and got their desired gender anyway? I know it has happened to a few people on this board. I also know that there are loads of ladies who have had more than one failed sway. It s...
23 Mar 2010 10:26 PM
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