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AGAIN I was not comparing it to a terminal disease!!! Geez, people! Learn to friggin READ! I was comparing the inappropriate STUPID COMMENTS people make to people! You know, I used to recommend this forum to the many people IRL I have met who have experienced GD but I have actually had to go back and warn them off. What a shame!
15 Jun 2012 4:01 AM
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Grief does awful things to a person. Hang in there, okay?
23 May 2012 10:54 PM
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Haven't been on in awhile, but WOW. I absolutlely was not comparing having a child with illness. If your reading comprehension was up to par, you would have realized I was comparing the unwanted comments from others. Geez. If you are tired of people with GD then get the heck out of Dodge and don't let the door hit ya on the way out.
And as for suggesting I don't love my sons? That doesn't even...
23 May 2012 10:44 PM
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It's one thing to express your own feelings - and quite another to have someone else assume what they might be. So yes, the person experiencing the pain can "complain" - but it's not cool for someone else to complain on their behalf. It would be like someone sitting beside a person ill and in the hospital talking about how AWFUL it must feel to be in SUCH TERRIBLE PAIN. Not helpful, not necessary,...
11 May 2012 8:57 PM
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I am way off in left field perhaps, but sounds like she has some ISSUES from her own past with boys. Maybe her husband beats her or maybe a boy put her pigtails in glue in the second grade - but gee whiz! Telling you about a 9 mo old who was making some kind of scary face? Probably just trying to poop! She sounds NUTTY. Maybe SHE needs to poop? Oh, wait - girls don't poop. That's a nasty boy thing...
30 Apr 2012 11:19 PM
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Hey, I get it. I never wanted boys - and now, that's all I'm ever getting. It is hard sometimes, but better now. I had to confront my own stereotypes, work through some issues of disappointment with my relationships with my own parents, and honestly, face a scare that something was wrong with DS2 to reach a peace with it. It is hard when reality doesn't match our dreams. Anyone who says differentl...
30 Apr 2012 11:08 PM
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We had a scare and lived with the possibility our son has Down syndrome for awhile. I do NOT wish that agony on anyone, but it really got me out of my funk and I am thrilled to report I will almost certainly have a chromosomally normal second BOY. I'm sure there will be times in my life when GD rears its ugly head again - but I will just remind myself of how very fortunate I am for what I have. I ...
27 Apr 2012 9:21 PM
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I get it. Had GD with DS1, but love him to death now. Bit when I found out we were having DS2, I had very similar feelings. It has passed mostly. Until he does stuff like poke his wang out the front of his underwear and dribble pee on the sofa. ;) (He's 3 and potty training.)
24 Apr 2012 11:49 AM
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I did. Tons of milk, cheese and yogurt, some ice cream - plus calcium/magnesium supplements. I'm having my second boy.
21 Apr 2012 12:54 AM
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I didn't want meds either but my psych said that they would help me out of the feelings so I could better deal with the issues. He was right and they did. Once I felt a bit better, I could deal with the other things.
19 Apr 2012 10:46 PM
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Just saw my OB today for the first time since my scan. She was proud I went early because she knows I had bad GD with DS1. I told her that I know some people fall instantly in love at birth even if it's not the desired gender and she said that she had actually had MANY people who did NOT and then felt really terrible about it. And its hard to hide because that moment is so intense anyway and then ...
17 Apr 2012 11:05 PM
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Similar boat and heartbroken. Personally, I don't think everyyhibg happens for a reason - which actually makes this bout of GD not quite as bad as last time for me. I didn't do anything or not do something I should have and it's not a reflection on my character that I wound up with the opposite of my dream family. It just happened. I am also on my last pregnancy and knowing I will never have a gir...
16 Apr 2012 7:08 PM
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I find myself keeping score every day - how many have all boys, and how many have mixed and how many have my dream family of all girls. So far, the "winners" (all girls and some of each) FAR outweigh the "losers" like me. I know this a) sounds awful and b) is far from scientific, but it is hard to take. It seems like almost everyone has at least one girl - except me... I'm just glad at least one o...
16 Apr 2012 12:29 AM
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I completely agree with Lebula and GlutenFreeMama. I hate how stereotypical my son's gifts from others tend to be and I could go on and on about the clothes. Girls' clothes say nice things - boys clothes usually insult the wearer.
And I too think about the long-term things - and how left-out I will likely feel at all major adult milestones, and if not left-out, like I'm there on probation.
15 Apr 2012 12:27 PM
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Um, yeah. Big old weenis and balls. Plus, it took forever because he could barely keep his hands away. All boy. :( My family doesn't know. Husband is wry supportive. :)
14 Apr 2012 2:47 PM
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Another boy. 15+2 elective ultrasound. No doubt. No hope. No happy. Thanks for checking on me. I'll be okay eventually.
14 Apr 2012 12:43 PM
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Another boy. 15+2 elective ultrasound. No doubt. No hope. No happy.
14 Apr 2012 12:39 PM
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Hi, I don't belong on this forum. I am nowhere near rising above my GD - unless you count today being the first day I didn't wake up crying since my scan Wednesday. Since I'm tearing up now and I've only been up 45 minutes, I'm not sure it counts. I am looking for sites with parenting tips, forums, links to vendors of
unique boy clothes, etc. I'd really love to find sites that are not religious....
14 Apr 2012 12:16 PM
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The signatures with all pink and the posts complaining about multiple girls are getting to me. I have to get off of here for awhile. I never know what I'm going to see when I get to this forum and I don't think it's good that I'm actually contemplating PMing some of those people and suggesting we trade... [rofl]
14 Apr 2012 12:11 PM
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I'm sorry. :( about all of it. The no girl part and the ugliness with your family. :(
14 Apr 2012 11:50 AM
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I am expecting son #2 as well. Just found out Wednesday. This is also my last so I hear you. I'm struggling and have nothing wise to say except you are not alone. This sucks. I didn't want one boy - certainly not two. I feel cheated.
13 Apr 2012 8:05 PM
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So sorry Julianna. I cannot imagine the pain you are experiencing. I feel so gypped - and I've only done this twice. We are done, too. That I do understand. Devastating. Wish I'd started earlier - but silly me! Wanted to be married first. WTH?!?
12 Apr 2012 3:53 AM
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Thanks. I know I will love him but I HATE that I now have two of what I never wanted in the first place.
12 Apr 2012 3:16 AM
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I'm so sorry that you didn't hear girl today. It must be really frightening to think you might experience what sounds like a terrible birth and postpartum period again. :( But it also sounds like you are doing what you can right now to get to a better place for yourself. I can relate to being afraid of repeating the past - that's really why I'm on here, too. When I found out about DS, I was ...
10 Apr 2012 11:35 PM
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How many weeks/days? And I'm not a tech, but that potty shot sure looks like a twig and giggleberries to me!
10 Apr 2012 11:27 PM
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