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Oh and I do believe God decides. I had such a sad childhood in many ways, and even though I REALLY REALLY wanted a girl at some point, I do think I would have tried to "fix" the things that I went through through her. I go through the "if only's "a lot. If only I had started my family at a younger age, I'd have time for more kids...If only dh or I made more money so one of us cou...
18 Aug 2011 2:00 AM
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I think you get what you get. I still feel really sad from time to time that I'll never have a girl, but I do feel like I got the children I was meant to have. I asked my fertility specialist if most ART babies are boys, since they try to do everything as close to ovulation as possible, and she told me no. I believe her.
18 Aug 2011 1:56 AM
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It's probably wrong to trick him, but I'm sure millions of people across the world have done it, and for much worse reasons than wanting a girl. I'm the opposite of you-- I couldn't get pregnant and spent thousands of dollars getting pg the first 3 times (2 carried to term, 1 miscarriage). I decided I couldnt' bear it anymore and the time it was taking away from the kids, so I stopped ...
17 Aug 2011 6:42 PM
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I am pretty much an only child (i have 2 half brothers but we weren't raised in the same house or really as siblings), and I have 3 boys. I knew nothing about boys, but I've learned. Sometimes I think they want me to assimilate and Become One Of Them, lol, and I have to make sure to take the time to find my inner girl. I'm not too terribly girly, but still...I agree that it ...
17 Aug 2011 6:32 PM
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I have BBB and no I don't. Just a little food for thought--- I felt the way you felt with my second pregnancy, and I didn't have any gender disappointment with him whatsoever, (I felt disappointed while pg with boy 3 realizing I'd never get to have a girl, which is why I'm on here). I felt scared to death that I couldn't handle another child, and I also worried abo...
17 Aug 2011 4:29 AM
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I'm a person who had boy, boy, boy, and found out all 3 times. My kids are 6, 4, and 1.5 now. I really REALLY regret telling people the last time. If I had it to do over again, I would have found out, and then said that the dr "couldn't tell." Part of me thinks I should have waited to find out, but in my heart, I had to know. I do wish I had kept it a secret from ...
17 Aug 2011 4:14 AM
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Me too! I feel your pain! I also don't understand why girl stuff can just be pretty girlish colors, but boy stuff has to have some sort of character on it! You can't make something in red, blue, green, etc?
I laugh because I have a boy in my 4th grade class who has a pink t-shirt that says "Tough Guys Wear Pink."
21 Feb 2011 12:52 AM
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The post was about feeling guilty over getting what you wanted. I took issue with someone saying "no, I didn't feel guilty-- I had 'risen above' it" as though they'd moved past it. No, you didn't "move past" it, you got what you wanted! (I'm not sure who it was, so when I say "you" I mean whomever it was). I think that actually having to deal with the h...
21 Feb 2011 12:17 AM
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First off, I vote for "adopt a girl." It's a sure thing, like your husband says. It's great that he's willing to go that route-- my husband was too, if we had needed to. Even if you went high-tech for a girl, there's no guaranteed baby at the end. With adoption, you will get the baby girl you want SO MUCH.
I have 3 kids. Going from 1-2 is much harder than 2-3. ...
21 Feb 2011 12:03 AM
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No, but I imagine it's a similar feeling to what I went through when I was able to get pregnant and another friend (well, several) couldn't. I was happy for myself, but my heart ached for her, because I knew she was feeling the same way I'd felt 1000 times before when a friend would announce her pregnancy. There is a woman at work who has spent many thousands of dollars trying to get pg...
20 Feb 2011 4:19 AM
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I've seen a lot of ppl ask this just in the short time I've been lurking here...
Here's my take on it.
If I were you, I'd find out. You want to be prepared, and be ready to accept, respond to, live with your disappointment ahead of time. I had Gender Desire, and only realized awhile after my u/s that no girl after 2 boys meant no girl, ever. I am happy I had that ...
20 Feb 2011 2:20 AM
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Haha! Thanks, but we are done now. DHgot the snip. Well, unless we win the lottery, in which case dh promises me we can adopt a girl from China. For us, it's our age (I'm 35, he's 38) and money. I feel like we can still afford to do things if we save up the money carefully, whereas with 1 more the money would probably cover our basic needs and that's it.
I lov...
17 Feb 2011 11:54 AM
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Have you ever run into anyone IRL who was openly jealous or wishfully thinking that your family make up was their family make up??? How did you take it?
I know people talk a lot on here about the totally STUPID things people say, but there have been many times when people have said how "cool" it must be to have all boys, and so close together. I ran into a guy from high school ...
17 Feb 2011 2:37 AM
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What bothers me is that it seems like now not only is Gymboree taking up more and more of the boy's section with girl clothes, but there are so many cute girl clothes in pale blue and brown! I mean COME ON you are stealing our trademark colors too????
I'm all about women's liberation and all, but now you're wearing the boy clothes in addition to the super cute way better than b...
16 Feb 2011 2:15 AM
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Putting it the way you did was the only thing that made dh really understand. I said "Imagine if you had to play barbies day in and day out. Imagine if you had nobody to share your love of tractors, trucks, playing in the dirt, etc, with." A few months ago, he tried his old cub scout uniform on my son. I cried. I said, "see, those are memories I'll never have with a daughte...
15 Feb 2011 2:38 AM
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I am so sorry... [:(]
I am a teacher, and I get like that when I see these girls coming into school and nobody has done anything with their hair. Here I am, willing and able, and have no girls. The bows and pretties get me all the time.
15 Feb 2011 2:33 AM
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For me it was just about having both boys and girls. Growing up, I always saw myself as a mom of girls. However, once I got pregnant I wanted a boy and knew it was a boy right off (so sometimes I wonder if I wanted a boy because intuitively, I knew that's what he was). On boy #2, I truly didnt care about the sex but since they were close together in age, I thought another boy wou...
15 Feb 2011 2:25 AM
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There's another really, really cute one (our favorite) called Olive this World. We are going to get some of the accessories from it because our 4 year old won't give to hoots that they don't match exactly. It was pricier and on backorder for a few days, but I thought it was really cute.
15 Feb 2011 2:04 AM
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Ok, first off, the silly (but true) ones: No periods! No weddings to pay for! They don't need as many clothes or as many pairs of shoes! They pretty much wear what you set out for them to for the first 5 years and are thrilled to do so! You don't have to worry about wiping from front to back during diaper changes!
For real... I have 3 boys, ages 5, 4, and 1.&n...
14 Feb 2011 2:34 AM
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Thanks! Actually, I ended up getting some bedding at Target. I had my eye on it, but it was in limited supply. I got the last one, plus a lamp to go with it. There was no drapery, rug, or anything else, so i am thinking of going online and just ordering something from a more expensive set. I didn't want to go with character bedding. I let the kids have character...
14 Feb 2011 1:58 AM
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Ok, why is it sooooo hard to go to the store and get some cute bedding for my son??? I swear, we went into 10 different stores, and they had 10-15 choices for the girl bedding, and for the boys, there was a trucks theme, and a sports theme. Oh and then, of course your Toy Story and your Cars. There were SO many choices and really CUTE choices for the girls. My kid wants out...
13 Feb 2011 3:09 AM
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Oh, and my family does not know about it, because they are disappointed too. I have to be the one who says "THREE BOYS IS AN AWESOME FAMILY,' to make them think it's "ok" with me. They aren't disappointed in a mean way, just in the same way I am/was.
12 Feb 2011 5:03 PM
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I only have 1 friend in real life who knows about it, and then one online friend who knows about it.
My real-life friend doesn't have any kids at all, nor does she want them, but she is very understanding. We've been friends since 1st grade, so I think she understands why I wanted a girl at some point, and also realizes that I am, in no way taking away from my thankfulness for a happ...
12 Feb 2011 4:53 PM
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I totally get what you're saying, and yes, the "ugly" side of my gender desire comes out particularly with this one friend.
She's one of those people who it seems life works out perfectly for, and she feels the need to say at least 2-3 times each time we're together (she has a PP) "Well, yes, I think we're done since I have one of each, you know." But then she's always SOOO QUICK to ...
30 Jan 2011 9:35 PM
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We found out with all 3 but I had a gut feeling with each.
With my first, I thought boy, and it was a boy.
With my second, I thought boy, and it was a boy.
WIth my third, I really thought it was a girl up until a couple nights before the u/s. I had been nauseated, and definitely was not "glowing"like I did with the first 2 kids. I looked rough, lol! Plus, with my second...
22 Jan 2011 1:50 AM
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