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I find this and often worry that if I'd had a girl I might be like this [:(] as it is I think I've been blessed with 3 boys first to make sure I know how awesome boys are - for the record I always wanted 2 boys and a girl but I think I had an assumption of what a girl would mean to me if that makes sense, as it is I've learnt that boys can be just as communicative and close as girls and its taught...
18 Jul 2010 9:34 PM
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I have 3 boys and feel sad about it, I wanted 2 boys and a girl, I'm desperate for some pink, I don't have a balanced family imo and it sucks, but if anyone asks me about it I always say I love having my 3 boys, I get all protective about them, (1) they are not stupid, I'm not going to bang on about how much I want a daughter and make them feel I don't value them for who they are (2) I have t...
01 Jun 2010 10:16 PM
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rein&sonshines explained the time out process really well - it works really well for ds1 (3yrs) and ds2 (2yrs) (ds3 is 11 months so not doing it yet [:)]) ds2 took to it fine but ds1 took a long time to 'break', you really have to be persistant and stand your ground.
As for walking with you, with 3 little ones to get to preschool on a busy road for part of it, I have one of these h...
17 May 2010 7:55 PM
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I can't see it either! [:^)]
17 May 2010 7:42 PM
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[quote user="noahsister"]
I have been told that with thier age gap they will fight /have nothing in common and I hate comments like that because we just werent ready to have another earlier on, we wanted to enjoy him and we did, but now we are about to change his whole world, lol.
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I have small age gaps between mine but my friend has 3 boys (13, 9, and 3) and a 10 day old dd - they als...
13 May 2010 11:19 PM
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Your post totally made sense
the saving thing for me is that since I voiced my fears with dh (he's one of two brothers) he has made an amazing effort with his mum - he said it made him realise that he really didn't spend much time with her but not for any reason than it just didn't occur to him and she never said anything, they are quite close but not as close as me and my mum.
My brother is li...
10 May 2010 8:48 PM
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when you post that it all seems so obvious! and a lot of it is what we do now, maybe I shouldn't worry about it so much, it just feels quite isolating being the only girl sometimes...
09 May 2010 10:54 PM
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Mine are still babies really (oldest will be 4yrs next month) but my main fear is that I'll be excluded from their (and dh's) activities being the only girl in the house. I'm not a girlie girl and enjoy biking and sport but also dolls houses and doing my hair [:)] I'm at home with the boys at the moment and I worry that we'll drift apart as they get older and get into boy activities I do...
03 May 2010 10:33 PM
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Well its good to know I'm not alone!
GD is here at the moment because my friend had a little girl last night, she has 3 ds's - I feel so happy she got her little girl but she was such a support about how great 3 boys where, I know she'll have moved on now, that missing piece filled
I'm pretty sure at the moment I don't want another baby, I don't want to be pregnant again. 3 is the perfect number...
01 May 2010 10:11 PM
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mine to an elderly lady at the doctors this Monday when I was there with my 3 ds's...
After cooing and waving to ds3 (10 months) which he was been adorable and laughing and waving, she gets up to go into the nurse and says
'is it a little girl?'
me 'no'
lady 'oh thats such a shame, bad luck to have so many boys'
me 'I don't know if you meant that to sound as rude as it did, but that w...
01 May 2010 9:07 PM
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I'm so glad that you are looking at get help, you deleted your first post so I've gather what you said from the replies and wanted to give you some support too. I've had PND and that is exactly what your post sounds like. I often wanted to leave as I didn't bond with my son and felt that someone could do a better job and love him more than me - it completely warped my perception of everything arou...
01 May 2010 8:53 PM
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when I had none I wanted 2, after ds1 I wanted 3 and never thought about it again, ds3 came along really quickly, I really wasn't ready to have the 3rd, we decided to have a bigger gap but our birth control failed and we made a decision to leave it to chance, it was meant to be - after ds2 we'd agreed to talk about when to have more and how many but never got that far. I've been so busy with the b...
21 Apr 2010 10:38 PM
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exactly but how the hell do you seperate the two? lingering GD or general broodiness?
one answer is to give it time but I guess my rambling post is that I don't want, what I would class, as a big age gap (if I could help it - obviously these things might not go as planned)
21 Apr 2010 10:21 PM
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I have 3 ds's and I've dealt with my GD, I've found it so much easier as they turn into real people, I can't fathom looking at any of them and imagining them as girls, they really are meant to be who they are meant to be. I also feel more at peace about not having a girl and part of me feels ready to move on and get on with enjoying them rather than decending into the pregnant and newborn phase ag...
21 Apr 2010 10:14 PM
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how many of you swayed? I have 3 boys and am thinking of number 4
10 Feb 2010 10:38 PM
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This would be my worst present to have, part of getting over my GD is accepting I have 3 boys and trying to find a place where I can embrace it - thats why I've suggested baby presents as I don't think you should do anything too different from the other baby showers
The bottom line is you know your friend and what she needs at this time, there are loads of good items x
14 Oct 2009 11:43 PM
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Hello, I had ds3 16 wks ago, I didn't find out he was ds till he was born but what I struggled with was that people said oh you have everything you need so we won't get anything or you don't need anymore blue stuff (which made me want to scream you're right I want pink!)
So it is lovely to have something new and blue for the new baby - they shouldn't have to just have hand me downs (plenty of tim...
14 Oct 2009 11:39 PM
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my ds3 is 7 wks and I felt just like you when he was born, it gets easier, mostly because the comments stop, I found peoples reaction the hardest, no gifts as 'you have everything you need' made my new baby seem less special
but my family doesn't feel complete, I wouldn't swap any of my ds's for the world but I am starting to wonder if there is room in our family for dc4
for now I'm just enjoyin...
05 Aug 2009 10:57 PM
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I have [XY] [XY] [XY] and wanted [XY] [XY] [XX] although any combination of three with a [XY] and [XX] in there would have been good - now I want to try for another, even numbers would be lovely, I think at the moment even if it was another boy that would be great but I think I tried convincing myself of that when I was preg with ds3 (I didn't find out the gender till birth) not sure how I'll know...
04 Aug 2009 8:26 PM
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[quote user="elm81"]
I know I always said as long as he is "healthy" ...but until you are in the situation I don't think you really understand what it is like not to have a healthy baby.
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I think you summed it up for me which is why I felt I had to post as when people say 'oh I bet you wanted a girl' I've always said 'no as long as they're healthy' but I don't think I'v...
19 Jul 2009 9:06 PM
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I had ds3 4 weeks ago and we've just come out of hospital today after a week of tests for infections as he's been very ill but turned a corner last night and the last lot of blood cultures came back clear this am so we came home.
I've posted on here and read obsessively for the past few months about how disappointed I am with ds3 and I can now honestly say I couldn't give a rats ass what gender h...
17 Jul 2009 8:50 PM
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I worry about being a MIL, I have a fantastic relationship with my mum - I'm never going to have that with a daughter [:(] my MIL is great but she's just not the same as my mum, I'll never have an overly close relationship with her, she's done nothing wrong but she'll never be the first person I call - I hate the fact I will be MIL, it just adds to my GD
08 Jul 2009 1:49 PM
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decemberbaby - I guess I don't think they are that encouraging as although you are only slightly less likely to have a girl the trend is that you are more unlikely, the odds were better from 2-3! ds3 was a pink sway - I thought it was a pretty rubbish attempt but have been looking at my charts, did 3 day cut off, and all the other suppliments we did, dh in tigh pants etc and I know peopl...
08 Jul 2009 1:20 PM
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I've just had ds3 and I have bonded really well with him - much to my suprise after my gd reaction for the first couple of weeks but I do find myself trying to work out if, practilically, we could have dc4. I'm half telling myself that even numbers are best but I know deep down I want to try for a dd again - dh always only wanted 2 dc's and was happy with ds's but agreed to dc3 as he knew how much...
06 Jul 2009 10:11 PM
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great [:(] guess I just hope I learn to deal with it better - what do you say when people say that?
22 Jun 2009 8:40 PM
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