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Oh I feel the same as you!! I get comments all the time: "Are you going to try for a boy" "Imagine having 4 girls - how awful, still even if you had a boy he would be like a girl with all those sisters"
I think whatever I had I would get the horrible comments - people can be so nasty. Even tho I really am ready for another baby and would ideally like 4 children regardless I'm really an...
28 Jul 2010 8:16 AM
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To the original poster - that remark is the most riduculous thing I've ever heard. Yes, I'm sad I don't have a son, as many mothers whom have only one gender - I would like to experience both. However I will survive - a far greater sadness is not to have any children at all. These comments we get about needing boys or girls are just rude and I'm getting so sick of it the next person is prob going ...
26 Jul 2010 11:38 AM
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I have a friend I met when we were both preg with our first. Both had girls, she is super competitive, wants her DD to be the best etc and constantly compared our kids. Found out we were both expecting our second child a month apart. She didn't find out gender - I did (knew it was a girl but kept it quite) well yep, she had the boy and gloat gloat gloat. Always goes on about how 'lucky' she is and...
26 Jul 2010 11:29 AM
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I think it goes both ways, I do get people with pp telling me boys are harder etc and I'm lucky to have girls, but they say it in a patronizing, smug way which makes me feel bad because they then will procede to go on and on about how wonderful their sons are.
Just a note, have noticed two posts even on this thread where Mum's have openly said they prefer their...
19 Jul 2010 3:27 AM
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I'm sorry you are feeling this way, like many pp have said sometimes life can be sad and hard and we just have to live with our sadness. Think of people who have lost children or partners, people whom have had crimes against them, accidents leaving them disabled etc. I realise these are all very terrible things and GD does not quite compare but they too must live with the constant sadness of what ...
19 Jul 2010 3:17 AM
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Thanks, I thought those lines were the nub.[:$]
17 Jul 2010 10:18 PM
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12 weeks. Sorry, if I make pic bigger it becomes too blurry. Thanks for your guess :)
17 Jul 2010 8:39 AM
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Hi, this is not my baby but a friends. Could you please let me know if you see a nub and what gender it is?
Thanks
17 Jul 2010 7:12 AM
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You were just protecting yourself (and your boys) from the 'usual' comments you get when you have 3-of-a-kind.
My eldest two DD's were away at my Mum and Dad's last week and so my DH and I did a few things with DD3. I must admit I noticed the lack of people staring at our family KWIM. Then, once we had collected them from the airport - we got the looks again - maybe it's the loud noise's an...
15 Jul 2010 9:56 AM
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Was the message to you or to someone else? If it's too someone else I wouldn't be too bothered by it but maybe she should have made a private message.
My friends with boys are always telling me boys are harder than girls but with my friends its like a competition as to what parent has it harder - they all 'want' to be the busiest mother etc. If I'm having a hard day with the girls I get com...
15 Jul 2010 2:59 AM
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Its up to you, but what if you had baby in a dress, he went to sleep and then you got an unexpected visitor or something! That would make things awkward and you feeling embarrased.
My friend has 3 boys and just loves girly things etc. Whenever I go to her place I leave my youngest DD's hair a mess saying I was in a rush etc, she does her hair for her and puts in it pigtails or whatever. Have you ...
13 Jul 2010 2:27 AM
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I'm so sorry. I have been reading your posts and just don't know what to say to you as its just so unfair what you are going thru. Dont be hard on yourself, you are going thru enough so please don't add feeling guilty about your feelings over your baby to the list [hearts]. It's natural to feel this way at this terribly sad time as you haven't met your baby yet so she is not 'real' to you yet...
12 Jul 2010 11:47 AM
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Congratulations on your little girl! So very happy for you and your family xx
10 Jul 2010 11:49 PM
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My DH's name is Daniel so I like that, also I think Alex goes nicely with your sons names. With our third (GD DD) we sort-of said names we liked around the girls and they decided on Emily and it just stuck. It was nice that the whole family chose the name and she felt like part of the family well before birth.
PS: Tho Edward is a nice name, maybe with the Twilight series there could be an e...
09 Jul 2010 12:06 PM
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Thanks for the replies, it's nice to know I'm not alone and it's hard to share these feelings with real life friends as I don't want them to feel bad about or sorry for my DH. He does love his girls and I am probably quite sensitve at times because I do feel guilty about not having a son for him and sometimes his normal parent frustrations come across to me as GD when maybe that was not the intent...
09 Jul 2010 12:00 PM
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I thought I would share whats going on in my life at the mo just to give you another perspective of GD. I don't really have any GD anymore, more like annoyance about the comments I get about having three girls. I am really happy with my girls and feel in a good place about having my 3 of a kind, except when my DH gets into one of his 'feeling sorry for himself' moods.
My girls are pret...
08 Jul 2010 12:33 AM
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Facebook is hard for mums of only girls too. I see comments about 'son week' and 'boy week' etc. All of those (boy and girl) are so cheesey, I don't get why all these 'friends' post them.
I have a 'friend' who has a son after two girls...she continually writes about him, has a special nickname for him etc. Also when other friends have had son's after dd's they get the 'perfect family' 'balanced f...
07 Jul 2010 11:39 AM
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When I had two girls, I really wanted my third to be a boy......she wasn't. I was pretty disappointed but bonded with her at birth and felt extra protective of her with all the 'are you going to try for a boy' comments. Before having my 3rd DD I would never have believed anyone would be happy with 3, 4, 5 of the same gender and thought they would be just trying for the different sex. Not anymore! ...
02 Jun 2010 8:42 AM
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No, I feel guilty that we don't have a son. I am willing to try and sway etc but he says he doesn't care. Tho sometimes he uses the 'poor me, the only man in the house' line. Thats usually when he wants to go motorbike riding etc. He knows it makes me feel bad and he just says it to make me feel guilty and let him do what he likes.....hmm what a jerk really, why do I feel bad lol.
07 May 2010 10:23 AM
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DH's can be like that, when the baby is little they say "no more" they miss the sex, dealing with sleepless nights etc. Your DH may still change his mind if you maybe don't bring it up for a few months. I'm sorry he upset you, it can be easier for GD if in the back of your mind you know you have 'one more chance'.
I get the hair comments alot, my girls hair takes ages to grow and is really fine a...
07 May 2010 10:16 AM
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Hi there
I'm mostly over it, but it comes and goes. When friends or even just other kindy mums are preg with boys I get that pang. My DH has two brothers and a sister and when they have kids I'm sure I will get slight GD if they have sons.
I think it weakens over time but if we don't get our DG then it probably stays there (even a little) for good and we have to learn to live with it. Wha...
04 May 2010 10:44 AM
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Hi
I'm from New Zealand and am getting used to the MOM instead of MUM on the posts lol.
04 May 2010 10:30 AM
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SevenfromHeaven, I didn't explain too well lol. I moved them to separate rooms because they kept talking but DD2 kept sneaking in and now I just let them sleep together. I haven't fully moved them together as DD2's drawers are still in the other room but yes they are basically together.
LOL it does sound pretty sad me just worrying about mess ha ha. If you saw my house you would see it's no...
01 May 2010 10:15 PM
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ME TOO. However not one of my friends believed me and that was before they new I was having another girl. Everyone around me is like oh you will so have another one. I was like 'whatever' for so long and thought ha ha they don't even know me. Looks like they know me better than I know myself lol
01 May 2010 9:52 PM
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I am exactly and I mean EXACTLY the same spot as you. I couldn't believe reading your post going "me to" "me to" the whole way thru. I so get the balancing thing and I also don't mind another girl. This is me to, what if I 'think' its because I want another baby, it turns out a girl and I get terrible GD! I don't want that at all, I think I'm ok with 4 girls as I love my 3. Its the comments that ...
01 May 2010 9:49 PM
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