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Wishing you the best. Good luck!
30 Jun 2010 3:07 AM
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After I heard boy the second time, the only thing that could console me was the thought of doing HT. I wasn't sure I was serious about it or just clinging to the idea to help me through my grief. But my son is now three months old, and while having two kids is definitely harder than one, I'm sort of thinking that I would like to have another one. Just because our family bei...
28 Jun 2010 8:53 PM
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I totally second this. Swaying is presented, at least on the IG website, as a near guarantee or a fact. (I wish I'd read the forums more before I tried.) So it really got my hopes up, and when I was told boy again, the crash and depression seemed to be worse. I thought that if I swayed as well as I could, I would get what I wanted. There was definitely a feeling...
20 Jun 2010 4:43 PM
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Congratulations!I had completely different cravings and eating habits with my second pregnancy, so I thought it was going to be my girl. It wasn't. Like they say, every pregnancy is different.
15 May 2010 6:50 PM
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I've always has low blood sugar problems, but they sure seem to be worse with this baby. One thing I found is that Target's Archer Farms brand has these fruit bars, kind of like thick fruit roll-ups, and eating half of one of those with a handful of almonds really stabilizes my blood sugar levels. If you can find those, or something like that with no added sugar, you'll have an easy sn...
03 Apr 2010 9:33 PM
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I'd have to argue with that! I live in Florida, and both my children are boys. One was conceived in September (still hot!) and this last one was conceived in July with an attempted girl sway. I wouldn't trust swaying if you want a particular gender for the next child.
14 Mar 2010 9:51 PM
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This forum is not for debate and discussion. It is for support for women (and men) who are suffering from gender disappointment. I've noticed in previous posts that your definition of supportive is not what other people consider supportive, and you've been called on it a number of times. If the posts in this forum upset you, stop reading them, or at least, please stop responding...
25 Feb 2010 11:22 PM
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I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. GD makes us feel so out of control, because we couldn't influence the gender of our child. And now, the one thing you felt like you could control is turning out not to be that way. It sounds like your first c-section was miserable. I just wanted to pop in and say that I had one with DS1, and while it wasn't great and wasn't the bir...
25 Feb 2010 1:42 AM
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What a difficult situation for you! I'm so sorry that you found yourself in that position and I hope that you can find some peace and healing.Hugs to you and your DH!
22 Feb 2010 6:50 PM
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I don't think I would love a DD any more than I do my son, but I think I would definitely appreciate her more. Like I have trouble seeing my son's good qualities sometimes because all I see when I look at him is "BOY." So I've been feeling like I don't appreciate his individual personality as much as I could be.That being said, I still love him to bits and am a good, devoted mom to him...
18 Feb 2010 10:32 PM
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This is so true for me. It was the hope that killed me this time around.Currently what's making the GD better is taking care of myself. Making sure I eat regularly and get plenty of sleep. Basic stuff, but easy to ignore.
18 Feb 2010 10:27 PM
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That is a really good point! I will keep that in mind for our next talk about it. He's pretty much accepted that it's going to happen, but I know he'll have questions and reservations!
13 Feb 2010 1:52 AM
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We cut off 3 days before and we're having a boy. So it could happen to you, too.
13 Feb 2010 12:11 AM
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This is another vote for the wait until later. For my husband, having DS turn three and become a little buddy for him has really changed his perspective. He is the one saying it would be great to have three kids, even before we found out our second is also a boy. So for your DH, having that connection with his son might soften him up for going HT to get a girl "for you."
11 Feb 2010 11:09 PM
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My husband was against doing Microsort for our current baby. I think most of his distaste was because he didn't understand the procedure and it seemed bizarre to him. So I sort of fault myself for not looking into it more and explaining it so he wouldn't be so intimidated.Since this one is a boy and I'm heartbroken, DH has agreed to save up for HT for the next one. He was w...
11 Feb 2010 6:40 PM
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For me it's not a cultural thing, it's personal. I have never related to boys, ever. Since grade school they have been mysteries to me. (And not the interesting kind, either. More the eyebrow raising, confusing kind.) I understand girls much better and relate to them better too. So I always wanted girls for children.And now I have one boy and another on the way....
09 Feb 2010 7:04 PM
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Oh, my son wanted a sister, too! I never said anything to him about it; he just came up with his own preference. I thought he was dealing with it, but yesterday he said to me, "Mommy, two brothers [himself and the baby] is too many. One brother and one sister is just right."You're right, it was like a knife in the heart. GD does suck.
09 Feb 2010 6:52 PM
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[quote user="FinalScore3boys1girl"][quote user="claireb1y"]
I'm worried about something like this, too. What if I have a daughter, and all she wants to do is follow her older brothers around and do what they do? [/quote]
So? Would your DD be forbidden to play and associate with her brothers???? [/quote] Goodness, not at all!I just wonder what kind of girl I wo...
08 Feb 2010 7:12 PM
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I'm worried about something like this, too. What if I have a daughter, and all she wants to do is follow her older brothers around and do what they do? My son is not interested in all the things my husband thinks he should be, but that doesn't stop him from following his father around in the yard, watching motorcycles and monster trucks, and playing like crazy. I think if you ha...
08 Feb 2010 3:08 PM
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Boy bashing doesn't usually bother me. But, then, I'm sort of a boy basher myself. I don't like to play in the dirt, don't like trucks, don't like hitting things, etc..., all of which my boy really loves. So I see all the traits in him that people dislike as being stereotypical boy, and I understand where the bashers are coming from. But that's all just my opinion, because I personally...
08 Feb 2010 2:59 PM
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It's completely understandable that you would have second thoughts about it. It's such a permanent solution, even if you don't plan to have more children. Psychologically, it's very different than just using birth control. It takes away all possibility. Even if you know you're not really going to have another baby, the fact that it's still physically possible for you might ...
05 Feb 2010 7:24 PM
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I know just how you feel. It's unkind of her to continue to make remarks after you've told her you're upset about not getting a girl. And hoping she gets a boy doesn't make you a horrible person; it makes you human. It's natural to want others to share in your unhappiness. I haven't reached the point of hoping other people get what they want, and I'm not sure I ever w...
27 Jan 2010 3:50 PM
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What I've found with my son is that, since I'm his main caregiver, he's not excited to be around me like he is with his dad or his grandparents. It's just a matter of overexposure: he gets tired of me, especially since I have to do all the hard routine discipline. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you -- it means he takes you for granted.That's been my experience, anyway. I ge...
24 Jan 2010 10:16 PM
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I had an emergency c-section with my first child, more than three years ago. I'm now 28 weeks pregnant with our second. I haven't had any troubles with my c-section scars up to this point. I just now started retaining some fluid and I noticed a little extra fluid build up in the skin above my scar. I asked my OB about it, and he said it was normal, but he was leaving to do ...
19 Jan 2010 10:30 PM
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I told the technician at my blood draw, and she said that she'd had two boys, too, and had always wanted a girl. But they decided they couldn't afford another child. And now her boys are grown, and the younger just had twin boys with his wife!It felt really good to be frank about it with someone (and not someone close enough to me that I would let myself cry) in a calm, neutral setting...
19 Jan 2010 10:15 PM
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