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I completely agree with everything you said. I think the preference for multiple girls definitely ties in with consumerism and our materialistic culture. The girl stuff is so in your face. The pink, the princesses, the frilly tutus, the sparkly shoes! You can't get away from it so how could you not desire it. How many times on here have people expressed the disappointment in having to shop ...
02 May 2013 5:14 PM
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Geez where do I start! There are so many boy stereotypes that drive
me bonkers.These things have all been said or implied to me over the
years. Boys are developmentally slower, (potty train slower, learn slower, can't sit still etc)Boys are harder than girls when their small. They are wild, dirty, noisy, too rough, too loud.They will never sit quietly and if there is a kid behaving badly it is...
25 Mar 2013 3:19 PM
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I hate hate hate this saying, if someone says it to me I want to punch them in the face. I find it so rude, especially when said to parents of only boys. Its like saying that boys don't love or value their parents, its hurtful and complete bullshit. I know plenty of boys that are close to their parents, and a few girls who aren't. I am sure this saying alone is responsible for a huge percent of th...
21 Mar 2013 4:24 PM
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Yes, I wanted to experience both genders.
21 Mar 2013 3:55 PM
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You can do those things with sons too you know. Kids get wisdom and knowledge from both their parents not just the same sex one. i have 3 wonderful boys and I do all sorts of things with them, crafts, reading, cooking, gardening, the list is endless. You say you never connected with boys, what about your partner/husband, i assume you connected enough with him to have a child? Also, this child is ...
25 Feb 2013 3:50 PM
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[quote user="babyonboard1"]
@yzma you don’t have to agree on what I think/see from
boys. This are the boys I see around here. Not every kid is the same, just like
not every boy plays with cars n girls with dolls.. but… most of them!
Boys and girl are not only different in sex but also
DIFFERENT in behaviour. AND OFCOURSE BETWEEN BOYS THERE ARE ALSO DIFFERENCES.
Don’t take everything s...
11 Jan 2013 8:05 PM
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To the original poster, the only reason i wanted a girl is because I had a boy already. I wanted both genders equally. Bundle-belly, i don't know what to say, just wow. Your posts are out of this world ridiculous. If someone had that much hate towards women or another culture or race we would be outraged. Either your posts are fake or you are seriously messed up. You say you have a part...
11 Jan 2013 5:34 PM
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Yep, that first pg excitment was the best. I always wanted both genders
and I didn't care what combo. My first was a boy and I was beyond
thrilled. Everyone had lovely things to say, no one said anything nasty
or negative about my little boy(and if they did I didn't notice), it was
a wonderful time. Once I was pg with my 2nd the pressure to produce a
girl sucked. It is also when a...
02 Jan 2013 10:25 PM
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I agree with this 100%.
23 Nov 2012 3:25 PM
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Well its good that the visit made you feel better about your GD. Really though most people prefer their own kids, especially if someone elses kid is taking their turn at being naughty . However, the girl is 3 and she has a new sibling. Has no ones three year old acted like a complete jerk before? My kids have more times than I care to count and I always hope other moms have compassion ...
02 Oct 2012 10:06 PM
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Totally agree with this. Have some faith in your sons, we are much to quick (especially on this board) to dismiss our sons love for us. We assume that a mother would only be important to a daughter, why? because we can go shopping or have a spa day day together. Its kind of sexist really and just not true. Of course everyone has a different story about this but I honestly d...
24 Sep 2012 3:03 AM
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Articles like this always depress me. I have no problem with someone wanting a particular gender I just wish as many people wanted boys as they seem to want girls. As a mom of 3 wonderful sons the preference for girls stings like hell sometimes.
17 Sep 2012 8:54 PM
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Ugh, I can relate.Jealousy is the worst. I wish there was an anti-jealously pill I could pop because I can't seem to think my way out of it. Its a terrible emotion that just makes me feel guilty and ashamed. I have this one distant friend who is about to have her third kid any day now (she has 2 boys). I just know it will be a girl and i am going to be consumed with jealously. Its so stupid ...
18 Jul 2012 9:16 PM
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Totally, if girls are rowdy and noisy its just that they are "spirited" and "can hold their own among the boys" the whole girl power thing that was mentioned earlier. If boys are rowdy it is disruptive and annoying. As for the orignal post I cannot believe those mommies would cut down their own children like that. It is so disrespectful and boys are going to start to notice this. I wou...
16 Jul 2012 5:20 PM
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[quote user="JJ89"] It's such a piss off isn't it? I can understand some reasoning to why a few posters here would like to give their a DD a sister if it's like there are so many boys and their DD is the only girl or something..ok that's ok then, but I came across many in the past and right now in the library where people have multiple girls (2+) and still want another girl because of the sil...
16 Jul 2012 4:57 PM
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I don't think anyone is begrudging the woman her happiness. She is happy she is having a girl after infertility, yay, good for her. However, i do think that she is perhaps being insensitive to her friend (knowing her history) and a little obnoxious. Would you over the top gush to someone about being pg to someone who had infertility, I know I wouldn't, no matter how happy I was.
12 Jul 2012 11:57 PM
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Ugh, she annoys me and i don't even know her. I would be quite offended by her comments, she really should know her audience,she seems a little clueless. However, she will probably be insufferable either way. If she gets a girl she will be so in your face gushing about it and if it is boy she will be all sad and vent to you about how unfair it all is. I don't really know what you can do abou...
10 Jul 2012 7:57 PM
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This! Someone having a girl after one or more boys gets me everytime. I feel I have totally risen above my gender desire but for some reason that situation makes me completely insanely jealous. I hate that I feel that way and i can hardly wait until everyone i know is done having kids and I don't have to hear the anouncements anymore. I have a distant friend who is due with her t...
03 Jul 2012 6:33 PM
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Boys don't have a monopoly on bad behavior. All kids regardless of gender can behave poorly. i have three sons and they are all different. Yes, they can be loud, crazy and rough but that doesn't define them, they are so much more than that. I get the impression a lot on this board that the only kind of boy that is worth having is one who is quiet, sweet, sensitive, basically one ...
15 Jun 2012 4:43 PM
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Totally agree with this. You never know whats going on. I remember when i had my second DS, a friend of mine also had her second child, a girl after a boy. Of course I was totally jealous and thought well I guess "she just has everything and her life must be perfect". Well I Iater found out that she had horrible post partum depression. It was so bad she had suicidal thoughts. So the whole fi...
13 Jun 2012 3:47 PM
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Well just remember that yes she has a girl but its not your baby girl KWIM? I find that if i hear of someone getting a girl after a boy I will get insanly jealous but when I actually see the child meh...I don't feel envy at all. I mean yes babies are cute and all but its not my baby, it doesn't look like me and I happen to find my boys cuter than any kid out there Ha! Plus I am always ...
13 Jun 2012 3:28 PM
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Yes, it has for me. My baby is now 2 and I think about it so much less. Also, we have decided that we are done having kids, so I can't obsess anymore "will my next one be a girl" etc etc. Its done, its over, I will never have a girl child. I have accepted that and I feel pretty darn good about it too. My kids are 5, 3 and 2 and I am starting to really enjoy them and their funny personalities. ...
01 Jun 2012 7:21 PM
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Breathe, you will be just fine. It will be amazing once you have your little man in your arms. The disapointment may not disappear right away, it will take time, but you will be happy again. I was very disappointed when I was pg with DS # 3 but he was so beautiful when he came out, I adored him right away. Its totally normal to feel a little panicky, your going to have a newborn in a few wee...
22 May 2012 7:56 PM
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SMOGs! Ha Ha (i haven't heard that one before). Yep totally agree with this. Like some of the above posters have said people who openly show distain for boys give me the rage!
04 May 2012 1:39 AM
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I totally agree with JJ89! You are stereotyping and your seeing only what you want to see. That just not true. Boys are just as creative as girls. Sure they might play more physically at times but there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. All the gun and battle play which seems so distastful to people around here is not always about violence or destruction. Its usually a...
02 May 2012 8:05 PM
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