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Picture looks very girly to me as well. When we went for our scan with this baby I knew the minute I saw it that she was a girl, before the tech even told us. After 2 little girls, it's hard not to spot it so quick. I'm sorry it wasn't what you were hoping to hear. I held on to hope with my 2nd that every tech we saw was wrong because I felt deep down that she was a boy (she's all girl lol)....
07 Mar 2013 10:20 PM
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I swayed with this baby and (like some of you) although I knew deep down that the chances were still 50/50 and really it was out of my hands, I felt like I needed to do it just so, in the end, I could feel like I tried everything in my power so as to not be left with any "what ifs?". I didn't know about diets with either of my girls but when I read about the "girly" diet I thought "OMG, that...
07 Mar 2013 10:11 PM
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DH and I always wanted more than 2 kids, we said 4 would be an ideal number for us, so when we started TTC#3, we did it in hopes that it would be a boy, but really just wanting to give our girls another sibling. I won't lie though, I honestly thought we had a good chance of conceiving a boy too because it felt like everyone I knew that had 2 kids of the same gender conceived different gender...
07 Mar 2013 9:56 PM
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I don't know....My DH's grandfather had 2 boys and 1 girl, of these two boys, DH's uncle had one son and my FIL had 2 boys (their one miscarriage was a girl)....DH's aunt had one girl and one boy. DH's brother doesn't have kids yet and well we have 3 girls.
07 Mar 2013 9:31 PM
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This touched me deeply as well. Thank you for sharing your story!
06 Mar 2013 10:31 PM
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I'm exactly the same way right now. Everything makes me sick, including my cravings, which has made it soooo difficult and annoying to find something to eat every single day. I feel like I'm always hungry AND nauseous, not a good combination! And my heartburn is starting to kick in so it's been fuuuuun [:(] It wasn't like this at all with my first, and with my 2nd the MS was extre...
06 Mar 2013 10:08 PM
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DD1: sweets, all sweets, which was weird for me since I don't really eat sweets and I hate chocolate (which I really wanted with her).DD2: spicy, anything spicy...the spicier, the better!DD3: sour, mexican food, coke, and salty chips...oh and ketchup with everything! It's funny how they have all been so different!
06 Mar 2013 10:04 PM
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I felt the same way after finding out our baby was another little girl. We found out at 12 weeks though (DNA test through my Dr's office) and so we were able to put off telling people because they thought we wouldn't find out until 20 weeks. It gave me 8 weeks to deal with my emotions at my own pace, but it was still hard hearing friends and family say "Oh for sure this one's going to be you...
06 Mar 2013 10:00 PM
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I agree with this too,Tclaritar. I've read some of your posts and I think that your reaction to your DD3's gender was a wonderful thing. I think everyone handles (and overcomes) GD differently, some better and faster than others, and stories like yours give me the hope that, if there is a 4th and it's another girl, I'll be able to handle it and react the same way you did.
06 Mar 2013 9:39 PM
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Ladybug, that's so cute about your DD painting your DH's nails. That's one of the things, I think, about having little girls: they have a way of softening our men. At least that's been the case for us, and I have seen it's also been for some of you. My DH is a man's man but when it comes to his girls, he's a very different person. I never thought I'd see him dressing up, having tea, and play...
06 Mar 2013 6:09 PM
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Congrats!!!!! Everyone I know due in July is having a girl, seems like it's a pretty girly month (for those of you trying for a girl [;)] ). Very happy for you!
02 Mar 2013 6:17 PM
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I've had and still sometimes have those "Why them and not me?" feelings. I hear people say all the time that they prayed for what they wanted and got exactly that and I think "I prayed too, why couldn't I get it?" My faith has always been strong so feeling this way and having these thoughts hasn't been easy. I also believe that God gives us exactly what we need and I know my girls were meant...
01 Mar 2013 10:00 PM
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Thank you ladies. My GD is still there and I'm not anywhere close to
getting completely
over it, but I feel like in the last 8 weeks I've made some progress and
having that conversation yesterday just made me realize it can get
easier. I heard it all when I was pregnant with DD2 and I let it
get to me to
the point that I started to feel like maybe something was wrong with me
and that...
01 Mar 2013 9:41 PM
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First of, hugs! I went through all of those emotions with this pregnancy and I know it's not easy. Having experienced horrible GD with DD2 I did not want to find myself right back at that place if this baby turned out to be another girl. I did the DNA gender test through my dr's office at 12 weeks because I really wanted to "get it over with" and although I tried not to get my hopes up, I di...
01 Mar 2013 9:16 PM
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I agree with Tclaritar, I made the "mistake" of letting my hopes get
high with this pregnancy, knowing full well how that had worked out for
us the last time, and it crushed me when we heard it was another girl. I
think I had a worse reaction this time around than I did last time with
DD2 (at least with DD2 I held it together at the dr's, I was a sobbing
mess this time) but I have ...
01 Mar 2013 9:03 PM
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It is hard, but, like others said, just think: this is her first and only, she doesn't know any different. I know this girl that only ever wanted boys, her first two were just that and her 3rd a girl. When she was pregnant with her daughter she hid the gender from everyone, it was almost like she was embarassed by the fact that she was having a girl and would only ever talk about her sons an...
01 Mar 2013 8:23 PM
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Yesterday while waiting for DD1 at her dance class one of the moms came up to me to congratulate me on the pregnancy. Her DH knows my DH so I figured she had heard from him we were expecting since I'm just barely starting to show but not enough for people to notice. Anyway, she asked if we knew what we were having yet, I smiled and said "Yup, a baby girl" She looked at me like I had just tol...
01 Mar 2013 8:07 PM
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As everyone else already said, it's very normal...and healthy! Keeping those feelings bottled up doesn't do any good and venting about it, especially to people who have been there and understand is sometimes the only way we can start to process our emotions and thoughts. I had a horrible time after finding out DD2 was a girl, I kept a lot of it bottled up, only DH knew about it, and the few ...
01 Mar 2013 7:52 PM
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I've been in your shoes as well, and I too thought for sure we'd have a boy this time around. I always pictured myself having a son and everyone I knew that had the same gender for their first two babies got the opposite for their third so it was hard not to think the same would be the case for us. To hear that baby was all girl was hard, harder than it was hearing it with DD2, but I have fo...
27 Feb 2013 8:50 PM
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Best of luck, sweetie! If it makes you feel any better, everyone I know due in July is having a girl, so you never know!! ;) But I do know how you feel, I felt the exact same way with this baby. The pregnancy has taken a huge toll on me physically, I've been sick from the start and all I could think of was "Oh I hope it's our boy because I don't think I can go through this again!" It was har...
27 Feb 2013 8:30 PM
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I think having hope is good, so long as we're well aware that things can also go the other way. With DD2, I did the whole "Maybe the u/s tech was wrong" and obsessed with the u/s pictures trying my hardest to find something, anything, that would prove it wasn't a girl. I think I held on to that hope until the moment the Dr took her out and said "It's a girl!". This time around, we did the DN...
27 Feb 2013 8:13 PM
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I didn't have a shower for my 2nd and don't plan to have one for this baby since we don't really need anything (everything's still in great condition and we just went ahead and got what we needed) but our friends and family still got us baby clothes and diapers for our 2nd and plan to do the same for this baby because they want to. I think to each their own and I would never make a comment l...
27 Feb 2013 8:02 PM
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We are having our 3rd girl this July, and at the moment I'm not exactly thinking of going for a 4th, but who knows? I may change my mind later! lol DH and I always said we wanted to have a big family, 4 being ideal, but this pregnancy has been so tough on me physically and my GD started crawling back after finding out we were having another girl, I just don't think I can go through it again ...
26 Feb 2013 7:37 PM
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I'm pretty much the same as you, I'll say I would have liked a boy, but I wouldn't trade my girls for anything in the world. It's the truth, I just won't share the details because I know most people won't understand it (unless they've lived it), and it's just easier to keep the explanation as simple as possible or else I get emotional LOL Also, I hate to sound ungrateful because I truly I am...
24 Feb 2013 8:55 PM
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He's adorable!! I felt that way after DD2, I was head over heels in love with her from the second I saw her but my heart still ached for a little boy. Hope those feelings start to fade with time, hugs!!
24 Feb 2013 8:48 PM
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