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I'm pregnant with DD #2 and am already having these comments from both sides of my family....I feel like I have to be a recluse away from them because I just don't want to hear it....so I definitely feel your pain.
10 Apr 2012 9:01 PM
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I found out last Friday that this is girl #2 for me....my husband is still in shock (yesterday he said to one of his friends he is going to "sew up her vagina because he doesn't want to deal with the issues that come with girls again), barely speaking to me (like this is all my fault) and all day on Easter I have to hear my entire family talking about "ANOTHER girl...goodness, we are NEVER g...
10 Apr 2012 8:37 PM
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Hi EveryoneI have my elective gender scan at 10am tomorrow, they guessed girl at my 12 week NT scan, I am so so so scared that tomorrow I will hear this again, I will probably break down crying on the table.....I just feel really lost about my feelings right now....I prayed for this to be a boy, and it's hard to stay faithful with all this doubt.....I feel like I am betraying God by having a...
05 Apr 2012 8:58 PM
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Seeing little boys love on their moms....*insert shattering heart sound*
05 Apr 2012 8:40 PM
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I didn't just have a baby (DD is 10)- but I have the exact same feelings as you do- with the exception that I will not be having more than two children (naturally at least). My 12 week scan guess was "girl"...and I let out a big "oh really?" and a small tear on the us table because I was/am SO convinced this is not a girl. If this is DD2, then I will adopt my DS in 2 years, after I can save ...
02 Apr 2012 8:42 PM
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I somewhat agree with the PP's- while I totally sympathize with you about wanting this last one to be a DD for family balance, etc. you do have the chance to parent both sexes....I'd trade families with you in a heartbeat. I'm facing parenting two DD's and won't have a chance to parent a DS because this is my last baby.....*hugs* to you OP either way.....I hope you feel better
02 Apr 2012 8:12 PM
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Exactly...I've said to myself...after this, if it does turn out to be a boy on 4/6 how can I ever really feel about my MIL/ grandmother IL knowing that is how they feel? But seriously....there are all kinds of levels of crazy out there....so don't feel singled out for having boys, because if you were in my family, you'd be the Queen of everything!
28 Mar 2012 6:59 PM
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And I see the opposite....that girls are undervalued and overlooked- at least from my families...... my MIL isn't really speaking to me b/c my 12 week scan pointed to a girl, and my DH's grandmother basically has said I am worthless because I can't "Make boys"
28 Mar 2012 6:47 PM
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I know this probably won't make you feel too much better- but girls do the same things!! It's not 100% of the time sugar, spice, and everything nice with a side of ribbons and frills! I'm sure other girl mom's can tell ya- it's no walk in the park! Hope things get better!
28 Mar 2012 6:41 PM
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I don't blame you for being upset, Stacey. However, even though I'm suffering GD as well over a potential second girl, I have faith that it will get better once they actually arrive, as the ladies on here say. (This is my last baby also- my career and patience cannot take another child)...Big Hugs to you....and hopefully things will improve as time goes on....
28 Mar 2012 6:38 PM
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These are from my 12 week scan....not sure if they're the right angle for the skull theory, but hey, worth a try, right? :) thanks for any feedback! Gender scan is April 6th
27 Mar 2012 11:21 PM
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Girls reeeeeeeeeeeally are not always what they are cracked up to be....my mother and I have an AWFUL relationship (probably why I do NOT want girl children), and my DD can really be beyond a handful......
27 Mar 2012 6:19 PM
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Prayers that God will lay hands upon you and your precious little boy at this time....to stop your labor and to comfort you all, to put power into the medications, and knowledge into the hands of the medical team. My heart is with you!
27 Mar 2012 6:13 PM
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I'm so sorry, but the ladies here, (as do I) understand what you are going through.....I am pregnant with #2 (and most definite final)...and so far as of 12 weeks, its another girl, so I will never have my son. I feel the same way as you, except about boys....everyone has one, everyone is having one, except ME. Different dads, and still all I can have is girls.....its OK to cry, its OK to be...
23 Mar 2012 7:28 PM
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It definitely could be that she is either genuinely happy for 2 DD's or she was doing that to deflect comments (smart woman if so). I generally find people are FAR less accepting of girl after girl then of boys...."Doesn't Daddy want a son to carry on his name", "Doesn't daddy want someone to take to ball games, etc. etc. etc." I could go ON and ON......
23 Mar 2012 7:23 PM
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It depends on how bad you want that daughter.....I personally think HT is ethical....but DH and NO ONE in my family does- even called me crazy for describing it to them...its a very personal decision to make. It will, however, guarantee you a girl, but not necessarily on the first, second, or third try. If this baby I'm carrying now is not a DS, I'm contemplating adopting one in about 3 year...
21 Mar 2012 9:00 PM
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I think it's different when its a wife talking about a husband with GD- somehow it is more socially acceptable for men to have GD over girls....I doubt if it was her with the GD, she would have been as open to talking about it.....
21 Mar 2012 7:58 PM
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Do you believe in swaying? Or Shettles?
21 Mar 2012 7:54 PM
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Yup...my MIL is a great lady in general, but is a huge control freak. I think that my FIL is upset b/c he wants his son to be able to have the same father/son bond that they have...I feel sad for him, but for my MIL it is completely a control issue and therefore wouldn't be the way she thinks is "right"
20 Mar 2012 7:21 PM
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Good luck- thinking of you and praying that you hear girl at your US! I know you have about another hour to go, but please keep us updated as you can.....know that we are here to hear you out no matter what you hear today.
20 Mar 2012 7:18 PM
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The only place I've been able to share mine is with a therapist and here on the boards....DH wouldn't understand, and my in-laws are already outwardly showing their GD if this turns out to be a girl, and I have no real relationship with my own mother to even fathom talking to her about this....and my friends would think I was crazy.
20 Mar 2012 7:15 PM
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I'm glad to see I'm not alone....my MIL has the "you need to have a boy first, then a girl" theory blazoned in her mind (it happened for her mom, her, her MIL (DH's other grandmother) so she can't see that you know, sometimes it just doesn't work like that.....smh.....and if this is my DS at this scan on 4/6 I'm not sure how I will be able to continue to react to her now that I've seen how s...
20 Mar 2012 6:40 PM
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Anyone else have in-laws with GD? Mine have been treating me differently ever since we told them that the 12 week scan guess was a girl. My MIL is barely speaking to me, and neither is my FIL. Just very curt and cool- not their usual AT ALL. I know they are devastated too, so I'm trying to be understanding. I know that is playing into my GD to an extent (although I would have had it either way as ...
19 Mar 2012 10:15 PM
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I totally understand how you feel- *hugs*- hopefully you hear pink on Wednesday- I myself am facing a life full of girls (when all I wanted was boys) and can't even function in life right now I'm so disappointed- so know that you are not alone, and there is support!
19 Mar 2012 9:29 PM
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I'm hoping we are in the same boat- that the NT scan was just a guess and isn't correct- mine was "guessed" girl, and I'm about to cry tears right now typing this <sigh>....Good luck and keep us updated once you have your anatomy scan!
19 Mar 2012 7:25 PM
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