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Couldn't have said it better 'dreamingofXX'. As hard as it is you will love bub to death even if he is a boy. Hope you get your special dream come true xx
06 May 2012 7:13 AM
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I feel your pain and could have written this post myself however I am the opposite with all boys. It hurts when hubby doesn't care what he gets and doesn't get what your going through. It also hurts when an end is put on your dreams by them having the snip. Hang in there as it does get a little easier as time goes on but a bit of resentment may always remain which is natural. I wish we could b...
06 May 2012 7:09 AM
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Thanks for all your posts everyone. It has helped me hearing I am not alone feeling like this. I visited my friend today that got her pp recently. It was lovely to see her and her family and was easier than I thought now that I have got over the initial announcement. I am trying to maintain these friendships but it is hard whilst being so jealous at the same time. Hugs to all you lovely, supp...
05 May 2012 7:10 AM
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Yeah we all get what your saying proudpapa that we should be grateful and we are but also want what we haven't got too. Just out of interest how many kids do you have? By your post it sounds like you haven't entered a stage of not getting a mixed family yet? And if this is the case it would be hard to judge others on how they should feel. We all know it is the logical thing to do to be grateful...
05 May 2012 7:03 AM
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I don't think you girls are taking over the post at all. It's great to hear from people of both sides. I don't think there is anything much you can say to make her feel better other than saying that you love seeing the bond her two boys have and think yours may not be as close and have less in common. I know this is not always the case as many boy/ girl combos get on great but it may help her a...
30 Apr 2012 4:44 AM
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Hi wildwood days, classic I do the same. Thinking how good my hubby is with the kids and how useless theirs are with helping round the house etc. So jealous but it sometimes works a little lol.
30 Apr 2012 4:37 AM
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I have 4 boys and dreamt of a girl for so long. I feel so jealous of friends with a mixed family and try to loose or distance myself from anyone with a mixed family. I know this is immature but I can't help it. I know it's not their fault they get a mixture but I can't stand to be around them listening to their stories of happiness etc. My husband thinks I am so selfish and should be happy for...
27 Apr 2012 4:43 PM
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Well I was told girl with my second and out popped a boy. I have heard of a lot of people this has happened to and sadly 1 of those happened to be me as I was desperate for a girl. Wishing for you that the tech was wrong
23 May 2010 2:03 PM
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Well said[HL]. A lady the other day commented that we had opposite families as she had the 3 girls and I had the 3 boys. She said aren't we clever as it's quite hard to get 3 of the same sex. I laughed and replyed with I've actually got 1 more than you. She said well done you are even more clever than me. I had never heard such a great comeback to say to others. ...
18 Apr 2010 1:53 PM
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I hear ya
09 Mar 2010 5:16 AM
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I feel for you and know how hard this is. I have been on Zoloft throughout my 4th pregnancy and think it was a huge help with the depression I have been going through with my 4th boy. Good luck
09 Mar 2010 5:14 AM
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I know what you mean. I am alright for awhile then another friend gets a mixture and I get so down again wondering why me? Why can't I have that too? Life doesn't seem fair sometimes. My husband suggested that I should start up a playgroup for mums in my area that are done having children and have families with all same sex children then we can support each other and have a...
05 Mar 2010 2:17 PM
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Oh I feel your pain. I could have written this post myself word for word. It sucks big time I know.
04 Mar 2010 8:18 AM
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I have just deleted my facebook page today as a mum of 4 boys I can't cope with status updates like this. Every day I try to move on and comments like this hurt me so much. I get so upset as they have what I always wanted a mixed family and it hurts, sooo much. Jealousy is hard
04 Mar 2010 6:33 AM
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Thanks for all your opinions Ladies. They helped a lot. [:)]
03 Jan 2010 6:04 AM
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Hi everyone,
It's been awhile since I've been on here. I'm still sad I'm having another boy but have come to terms that he is coming and of course needs a name! My boys all have simple 1 syllable strong names.
With 4 weeks to go we are tossing up between Trent or Caleb for our last.
What's everyone's preference between the two? Is Caleb strong enough for an ...
01 Jan 2010 10:02 AM
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It does happen a lot more often than you think. I was told I was having a daughter at 19 weeks but a son arrived in the delivery room. I think it depends on the ultrasound person's experience. When in hospital I met two others that delivered within days of me that also had boys but were told at ultrasound they were girls too.
24 Nov 2009 3:24 AM
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I am expecting my 4th boy and know exactly what you mean about feeling incomplete. I never imagined my family like this and as much as I love them all, regret having more than 2 kids as I too feel worse after having 4 boys than if I had never had any children. Life seems unfair to some. I think the sadness will come in waves forever with all us same sex families but I guess the s...
14 Nov 2009 10:01 AM
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I lie to people and it seems to shut them up straight away. I say things like we don't really care as long as bubs is healthy, after 3 boys I don't think a girl would have fitted in, if I had of had a girl I would have been sad she would never get a sister and we don't really think of our kids as a gender but rather a little individual person. No I don't believe any of these comments t...
30 Oct 2009 1:51 PM
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Hang in there. I too am expecting my 4th boy and desperately wanted a girl. It is unfair we didn't get to experience what we wanted but hopefully when we have the little ones we'll fall in love with them. It's soooo hard I know.
29 Oct 2009 12:31 PM
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I feel for you and know exactly what your going through. I feel the same and now have to say goodbye to my dream and move on. Easier said than done.
28 Oct 2009 2:52 PM
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I totally understand where you are coming from. I thought about it with this pregnancy as I'm pregnant with my 4th boy. After putting a lot of thought into it I decided against it as the guilt you would feel down the track wouldn't be worth it. Guilt is an aweful thing that you will carry forever. Personally I'd rather have my 4 boys than carry that around on my shoulders f...
25 Oct 2009 2:49 AM
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I can relate to you as I'm pregnant with my 4th son and a friend has 3 boys and is expecting a girl. It hurts a lot to see someone get what you wanted so badly. I'm trying to look at it in a possitive light and think aren't my boys so lucky to all have each other and no one will be left out. I know it's different with your friend as they will have two boys but if you had 1 b...
12 Oct 2009 7:35 AM
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I too have just been diagnosed with depression that I believe is a result of GD. I envy you for stopping at 2 as I am pregnant with my 4th boy! All I ever wanted was 1 girl and now I am living my nightmare.
My SIL just had a girl with their 1st and I know exactly what you mean by it seeming unfair as they also didn't care what gender they had. We are not having anymore and I don...
09 Oct 2009 2:31 PM
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I agree. When I wrote on facebook I was expecting my 4th child ( with 3 boys already) Nearly every comment was 'hope you get your girl', or 'hoping you hear pink'. It was so sad as if I already had a mixture everyone would have just said congrats. Well even with all the pressure I didn't deliver and am having my 4th boy!
28 Sep 2009 2:17 AM
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