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Reading all this has helped me as I too found out that I am having my second boy on September 30. I was crushed at first, completely depressed and in despair. I have always dreamt of having a girl and I know that I was meant to be a girl's mom. I never expected to fall so madly in love with my first son. I love him to bits; he is my life, my angel, my everything. I never thought I could love a boy...
16 Oct 2008 3:01 AM
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Thanks Jodie and Alyssa!
Things are much much better. I'm finally starting to smile, laugh and feel like myself again. I've started going out for dinner with friends again too and its been very good for me. Yesterday, my husband and I celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary and I had a glass of wine (at the suggestion of my OBGYN, believe it or not), and i really enjoyed it! I did not drink at a...
12 Oct 2008 12:05 AM
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Thanks for thinking of me Mel. I'm slowly starting to feel better. my husband and i were in Boston this past weekend for a wedding and i think it did me some good. the mornings are still the hardest for me and i do still think about it a lot during the day. but at least i am finally able to sleep and eat again so that's a definite improvement!
xoxo
06 Oct 2008 9:18 PM
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Thanks so much everyone. you are all amazing people and i cannot begin to tell you how much your support has helped me and is continuing to help me. In fact, you guys are helping me more than anyone right now, because you feel empathy for me from your own experiences, something that no one in my family or my friends here can do. My mom is even more disappointed than me ; she always wanted a daught...
02 Oct 2008 2:06 AM
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Hi Everyone,
Sorry I've been MIA. I just cried to my husband for an hour and a half straight. I don't think I've ever cried so hard before. I am so down and disappointed. I am so ashamed of how I feel- like I don't even want this child at all. I know that there are people out there who can't even have children. So I feel so selfish and awful to be reacting like this but that is why you women ha...
01 Oct 2008 3:27 AM
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Thanks for your words of support. So you have two boys too, huh? I hope it does get better. Do you think you will have another? I am just in such shock right now. I really really wanted a girl. My husband has two boys nows, two friends for life, two buddies and two men to carry on his legacy. And I have nothing. When the boys are older they will gravitate toward their father and I will be all alon...
30 Sep 2008 11:55 PM
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Country Belle- Hot Mama and Alyssa are right. Don't do the TMPOB. it's just not worth it. it messes with your head either way because you don't know what to believe because they have given several people (like Alyssa) the wrong results. and then you'll just sit there, wondering for weeks, like me, and be anxious. i know i've had terrible trouble sleeping over the last 3 weeks. wait for the scan. t...
30 Sep 2008 11:48 PM
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Sorry it's taken so long.... I had the scan at 12:30 and then went straight to my therapist at 2:00 pm. I could not bear to come home. I had been crying for almost two hours straight. It is a boy. I just came home now in time to feed my son, give him his bath and put him to bed. I am so devastated right now. have hardly eaten all day. a granola bar and a clementine for lunch.... at least the baby ...
30 Sep 2008 11:34 PM
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All these messages by everyone are very uplifting, thank you. I already have a 22 month old boy and I am 18 weeks pregnant. I have a scan tomorrow and will find out if the second one is a boy again. I have been wishing, praying and wanting a girl so badly but I know it's a boy. I did the Tell Me Pink Or Blue DNA test at 14 weeks and it said boy so I am pretty sure it is a boy. Many people seem to ...
29 Sep 2008 7:04 PM
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Thanks so much for remembering Alyssa. And thank you for your wishes. Yes, it IS tomorrow, 12:30 NYC time. I will definitely let you know. I am trying to prepare myself all day to hear boy tomorrow. Of course, small part of me still daydreams about hearing girl. But, I am pretty sure the TMPOB was right. I mean, if it was wrong for everyone, wouldn't they go out of business? I am nervous about to...
29 Sep 2008 6:47 PM
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Thanks Shellyanne!
i feel the same way! with all the cakes and sweets and food i am eating i keep thinking it's got to be a girl! i really was not into sweets at all with my son and generally, i wasn't more hungry than normal. i only gained 15 pounds with my son! i know, it's crazy but i swear i was eating really well. it's just that i wasn't starving or pigging out (which i am this time). and,...
23 Sep 2008 6:31 PM
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i totally don't get why PGD only exists in the US right now.... i guess maybe because it is still so new. i'm sure eventually it will go everywhere.
i will let you know what i find out next tuesday. hopefully they can see it! imagine if the baby's legs are crossed! i swear if that happens, i am going for a private scan a week later!!
23 Sep 2008 6:15 PM
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i have my 18 week scan next tuesday and i plan to drink lots of orange juice before. i've heard that makes them open their legs.
23 Sep 2008 2:45 AM
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wow, you're really lucky and, an exception i think! too think that TMPOB and fortune baby and intelligender all got it wrong! you really were meant to have your girl Alyssa!
ideally, we just wanted a boy and a girl and if this was a girl we were going to stop at two... but now i just don't know. i feel like i won't be totally happy until i get my little girl. so we're seriously considering PGD ...
23 Sep 2008 2:00 AM
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it is a boy, unfortunately. i've checked everything by now. fortune.baby says boy, 50% of the chinese calendars say boy, pink or blue said boy and i just know deep inside that it is a boy. you'll see... i will let you know after m ultrasound. of course when i see it for myself and get the confirmation i am sure i will flip out and be so disappointed again as it will be so final....
you're so lu...
22 Sep 2008 2:43 PM
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Hey Alyssa, i never asked you, do you have two girls? the picture you've posted is so cute but b/c they are both in green i can't tell what they are... my hunch is that they are girls but it's hard to tell...
21 Sep 2008 1:22 AM
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yes i will know soon. before you know it, i will definitely have the confirmation that it is a boy.... that last glimmer of hope will extinguish but in a way, i will be at peace because the guessing game will be over and the acceptance phase can begin... it's so weird because i have looked at the chinese calendar and it's totally 50/50 for my age and month of conception. i don't get it. i have che...
21 Sep 2008 1:19 AM
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Hi lola,
just saw this. no, i did not any private message from you. i went to the top of the screen and clicked on "private messages" but did not see anything.. where did you send it?
Tatiana
20 Sep 2008 7:39 PM
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Hi sparkle 2,
i must have been reading an old post. just saw that you've already had your u/s that confirmed boy. I am sorry you did not get your little girl you've dreamed about. I will be in the same boat as you in 10 days :( I am sure of it. And I know I will be gutted too. But deep down, I am sure that when we meet our baby we will fall in love with him again. And I say we go for a third us...
20 Sep 2008 4:05 PM
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Hi! Yes I am in exactly the same boat as you! I too am 16 weeks and my husband and I are desperate for a baby girl as we already have an adorable baby boy. I am having an u/s at 18 weeks on sept 30 (so it's a little later than yours). I have also felt like complete s.. since I got the results (have not been sleeping and have been crying a lot)? I really regret having taken the test too because it ...
20 Sep 2008 3:49 PM
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Hi Alyssa,
You think their customer service was great? I found them to be awkward and inconsistent in what they said. And, bear in mind that many people on this forum who got the wrong result have yet to receive their refund!
My anatomy scan is at 18 weeks, on September 30. I should found out then, unless the baby is in a really bad position. My hospital does a 4D scan at the anatomy one so ...
20 Sep 2008 3:08 AM
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Dear Alyssa (or Chloe)?
Thanks for your sweet e-mail. It not only was uplifting but it actually made me laugh! it's really interesting to hear what your OB-GYN said. Mine also appeared suspicious of it and told me that he does not know if it's reliable because he has no idea what methods they use. But yours seems to have looked into the matter even further. I am so angry that I took the test, b...
19 Sep 2008 8:01 PM
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Dear Kizmot,
I really feel your pain, I do. I'm not sure if you read my initial post but I too recently found out that I'm having a second boy and I am overwhelmed with grief and disappointment. I was sure I was having a girl and also did the stupid Chinese calendar thing which we now both know does not work. I cried so much when I found out and did not sleep at all for 2 nights that I ended up...
19 Sep 2008 7:46 PM
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Dear Iola 1979!
Reading your message almost made me cry because so much of what you wrote resonates with me! I feel EXACTLY the same way. I also keep asking my husband why it is that I am not allowed to have a girl when that is what I most want in this world! When we found out that our first was a boy, even though I wanted a girl, I was actually happy because a) it was my first; b) I found it k...
17 Sep 2008 8:34 PM
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Hi Chloe,
so you took the first test at 10 weeks and then the second test at 30 weeks? i took the TMPOB test at 13 and a half weeks and they said boy. In fact, they told me that they ran my sample twice. But that was the second time I called (once I received their e-mail). The first time I called was because they were late with my result and their excuse was that one of the tests they run was not...
17 Sep 2008 4:12 AM
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