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I had bad, bad bleeding with 3 pregnancies. It was bad enough that the doctrs at the ER said I would probably lose the baby (it always happens when my midwife isn't available). Those three made it. Turned out all three had sub chorionic hematomas. One made it just fine. The one I lost seemed to be Ok but then suddenly died (a girl).
So there are lots of reasons for bleeding, like 1/3 of early pre...
24 Apr 2012 1:48 PM
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We had to see a geneticist when our fourth son was born with a birth defect, and she mentioned that families with 3 or more of one gender are less likely to have the opposite, that it isn't 50:50 for them. Something about the parents' systems promotes one versus the other. And I have watched and read, and I think overall, swaying does not really guarantee anything, it might change the odds a bit, ...
11 Apr 2012 1:28 PM
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Maybe instead of saying "what did I miss out out and why isn't it my turn?" think instead that you have a chance to raise three good men. The world needs more good men in it. And that is your turn ;) Does that make sense? I get what you are saying....I told sme friends that I wish I had a girl because I have lots to pass on to the next generation of women when I found out #3 and #4 were boys, but ...
03 Apr 2012 2:59 PM
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For me, it was letting go of that thought. "Oh, I must be missing out on X since I don't have a girl." Once in a while something reminds me that I don't have any daughters, but that isn't a part of my life every day. I dont spend time looking at girls and girl things but instead try to let my boys take over. They keep me pretty busy, with our activities and things, so I don't have a lot of time to...
02 Apr 2012 4:05 PM
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I have a friend who had THREE micropreemies, and they are all healthy, happy and developmentally normal today. One has autism...but some babies born full term are autistic too. Hang in there...every day is a victory!
27 Mar 2012 12:26 AM
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I could have written your post at one point in my life. I was sure #4 was a girl. The pregnancy was so, so different than my other boy pregnancies (a girl was in there, but she passed in the second tri). I was certain. Then he was he. And I had planned to be done at four. I'm working on coming to decide if it's a girl I want or another baby. Because if it's a girl I want, then TTC is out of the qu...
20 Mar 2012 7:31 PM
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I have actually been doing a combination of both. I do a lot of things with my boys. They take a lot of my time and energy. But instead of hanging out with girls, I found some women my age to do things with, and that helped me see that maybe its not so much the wanting a daughter but someone to do those things with. While I still see all the little girl clothes and sigh, because I love to sew, bu...
17 Mar 2012 3:39 AM
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YES and YES! I was so upset when we found out baby #4 was a boy too.....until they said he had a birth defect and they couldnt tell me just how bad it would be. We went to specialists and had many, many ultrasounds to try to define the extent of his problem, only to be no farther ahead until his birth. But that knowledge totally overwhelmed and made my desire for a girl seem so very petty. Don't g...
16 Mar 2012 7:34 PM
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I would say don't have another baby or even TTC unless you are fine with the idea of another boy. I swayed to get baby #3 and it failed. Then I was sure baby #4 was a girl because the pregnancy was so different than the others, and it was another boy. And he had a birth defect. That made me realize that it's not about gender, it's about your baby. I'm not saying that GD isn't real and isn't OK to ...
16 Mar 2012 1:56 PM
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I would go on the trip, but I would not attend the shower. I'd go out for that day and have a good time....eat out, movie, shopping, whatever. .... I think every baby deserves a party, and it makes me sad to think about how my second and fourth boys didn't get parties to celebrate their impending arrival. For my third boy, a friend threw us a freezer party, where guests brought food to keep n the ...
14 Mar 2012 1:36 PM
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From what I have seen, for you, even if you do have another boy, the girl will be fine as she is the oldest. Most oldest daughters rule the kids;) A friend of mine has a daughter followed by 4 sons, and she said her daughter was a huge help, by her choice, with the boys and she would often help keep the boys entertained or help prevent arguments. And that is just one example;) I have several frien...
14 Mar 2012 1:30 PM
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When this isn't happening. This happened briefly after baby boy #3 for me. And then .... It just went away as i occupied myself as a mother to boys and did a lot of things i had always wanted to do and finally had time.
But some people need counseling to see that ,yes, they just don't have ths sundae they thought they ordered ;) as that is a terrific analogy. But that there isn't anything ...
12 Mar 2012 8:12 PM
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With my first boy, sick as a dog for 20 weeks. Second, not as bad and for only the first 12 weeks. I lost that baby, a girl, during second trimester, and things had gotten much better. Third, sick just like the second, but it was a boy, and I felt terrific after thise first 3 months. Fourth, I was sick and tired and miserable the entire pregnancy; I threw up while waiting on the midwife, just as I...
12 Mar 2012 8:05 PM
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I am so sorry you are going through this. I have two friends who had babies with birth defects in the last year, and both babies died after spending just a few weeks here on earth; one of them best the odds, as she was 'supposed' to die during birth. But she came home and spend several weeks with her family before passing in her sleep next to her mother. My fourth child was born with a birth defec...
09 Mar 2012 5:54 AM
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A good friend of mine had a boy after having 6 daughters, and he is so loved and adored by everyone in his family, and he is the sweetest kid. He will be a special addition to your family. So glad for you!
09 Mar 2012 5:44 AM
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Yes. This. This is great. I love my boys, and most of the time it is just fine that I have this pack of boys, I don't live and breathe TTC girl, kwim. Once in a while, something reminds me of what I don't have, and i get sad about it, but far more often, it's buried under what I do have...a bunch of cute, funny, athletic, intelligent, boys I get to raise to be good men. If I had a daughter, it...
09 Mar 2012 5:40 AM
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I would say...give yourself a bit of time. Enjoy your new baby for who she is. Evaluate your life in a year or so and se how you feel. And be very, very sure you would be Ok with another girl before proceeding...I have a friend with 8 girls because she just kept trying!
08 Mar 2012 12:59 PM
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I'm puzzled as to why the children even play into the whole picture. I didn't have more babies to give my children siblings. I had more babies because *I* wanted them. It's just a bonus to my boys that there is a whole pack of them, lol. They fight more than they play together, but they always stand up for each other.
08 Mar 2012 12:56 PM
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I do think it is funny, as it absolutely applies to my boys, lol.
08 Mar 2012 12:41 PM
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I had it with my third. And it took the pregnancy to go away, and as soon as I held him, I was OK again. Yes, there were and are sme reminders sometimes of what I don't have, but generally, It doesn't dominate my thoughts or make me want to cry to walk through the girl section of the store, for example. I was bitterly disappointed when they told me boy for #4....until we found out about his birth ...
02 Mar 2012 11:01 PM
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DC area
http://www.washingtonfertility.com/pgd.htm
02 Mar 2012 10:46 PM
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[quote user="tadtam21"]Hi I have to say I completely understand what you mean I have five boys yes 5 and each and every time I proudly announced I was having a boy people would always feel sorry for me !!! Sorry for me what???? We've.been givin an amazing gift to bear children and your concerned with me having boys...well I'm 7 weeks along now with baby 6 and I'm scared to death of the reactions i...
02 Mar 2012 10:43 PM
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I have used t for that purpose, not for swaying. I have symptoms of estrogen dominance as my hormones change postpartum, and I did feel like it helped with the headaches and mood swings I was having. I started it right away after DS4 was born to head off PPD (I knew it would be hard with his birth defect) and I didn't have some of the things that happen to me postpartum quite as bad; I think it st...
02 Mar 2012 6:17 PM
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I found the jump from 2to 3 tough. We bought a bigger car when we #4; we got 3 carseats in our old car by buying 3 Radians as they are narrow and fit 2RFing and one FFing.
I spend a lot of time doing laundry. Lots of dishes.
Mine are 26 months apart. I had 4 boys 6 and under when #4 was born.
01 Mar 2012 5:17 AM
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Yep!!
Very true ;)
29 Feb 2012 5:35 AM
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