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I think the majority of people have some preference. For some it "oh darn, I really wanted a girl. Oh well!" for others it's crying at the ultrasound and feeling sad the rest of their pregancy and then getting over it and for others it becomes an obsession where they're willing to pay tens of thousands of dollars for high tech, or have as many kids as it takes even though they don't want more, or ...
01 Sep 2010 6:01 PM
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I also want to add that if things like this set you off then you should avoid looking at them. Every once in a while I'll see an article about boys or girls or parenting that I know I'm better off not reading so I'll skip it. I personally didn't find the quotes that bad at all. There were many loving ones in the boy section like Maya Angelou's. The negative ones were meant in a jokey manner which ...
01 Sep 2010 3:06 PM
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[quote user="JJ89"]Don't look at the quotes seperating and stereotyping boys and girls..you look at your children and admire them for who they are..don't bother what other people say because more than 50% of the people in this world can easily be nominated for the title of "stupidity".
Lewis Carroll"I am fond of children... except boys." [/quote]
Many believe he was a pedophile. Him liking lit...
01 Sep 2010 2:32 PM
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Just out of curiosity if someone was doing IVF how far in advance would it make sense to start the special supplements and fertility diet?
27 Aug 2010 6:56 PM
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If you find another family for your child how is that different from adoption? I don't know anywhere you could find parents other than advertising privately or through an adoption agency and legally it would be the same as adoption since the child would not be genetically related to the parents.
27 Aug 2010 6:43 PM
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Or maybe they had an opposite because even if swaying works at all it doesn't work 100% of the time. Plus no one has a perfect sway. Some are closer to perfect than others, but even Tamara admits her sway wasn't flawless. If you go into it thinking the only way you are likely to end up with an opposite is if you mess up you should rethink things.
I wholeheartedly second what Stellaluna said...
26 Aug 2010 7:06 PM
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I think it is pretty much all 50/50 or close so I would guess about half of those who start with BBG and have a fourth child have BBGG and half have BBGB
26 Aug 2010 6:51 PM
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I understand what you're saying but at the same time there are some posters who have been so sad for so long you want to help them. I know too well there is no quick fix to GD. I also know the OP was considering high tech for a while so I wasn't just pulling that out of my butt. I have been where she is and while I don't regret my child I recognize that I should have made a different decision so I...
12 Aug 2010 9:41 PM
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Would your DH go to counseling to talk about it? It seems like you are not that open to another boy and you only have 1 child now so it seems high tech would be more within reach for you then for those with many children already. I wish I had been more forceful and honest with my husband about my GD and desire to go high tech for #2. He also said no but I think when he saw my reaction to boy #2 he...
12 Aug 2010 9:07 PM
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I know how you feel. I wish I could do that in my life but at the same time I have realized a lot of that stuff is superficial. What matters most to me about having a girl is the adult mother/daughter relationship but it is far from guaranteed that it will be a good one. Also I don't think you need to give up on having a daughter in the future. Why not make up your mind to go high tech and stop wo...
12 Aug 2010 8:48 PM
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Hi Tech x a million. I do not regret my second son at all and I'm over my GD but going through that pregnancy was awful for me. Do you really want a third baby or do you want a boy? If you want a boy then go high tech. If we have a third it will be PGD or nothing.
12 Aug 2010 8:34 PM
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Yeah it feels complete. If I imagine us with the 2 boys and a newborn girl it doesn't seem right. Maybe one day it will, but I don't feel a strong drive for more kids right now.
30 Jul 2010 10:10 PM
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This a great thread. Given me a lot of perspective. I agree a lot of the things I feel I'm missing out on are superficial like dresses and ballet class and bows and the like. If I could remove the more fun shopping/dressing angle that would take away a good portion of my GD. It was hard to admit to myself how shallow I am about the whole thing. It makes me think am I really willing to spend the mo...
30 Jul 2010 8:40 PM
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[quote user="punkin"]
[quote user="Smommy"]
Ok, I think that if you are to have a 3rd you should definitely sway and sway hard. If you end up with a boy you will have peace of mind knowing that you tried your best and that the boy was meant to be. If you don't sway, you will be like me. I got pg unexpectedly because I hadn't been ovulating. I took metformin for 2-3 day and ovulated and g...
20 Jul 2010 5:17 PM
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[quote user="punkin"]
[quote user="Smommy"]
Ok, I think that if you are to have a 3rd you should definitely sway and sway hard. If you end up with a boy you will have peace of mind knowing that you tried your best and that the boy was meant to be. If you don't sway, you will be like me. I got pg unexpectedly because I hadn't been ovulating. I took metformin for 2-3 day and ovulated and g...
20 Jul 2010 5:17 PM
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I was shocked at the level of GD I experienced. I thought I would be ok with boy #2 but I absolutely wasn't. People say if you do a hardcore sway you'll at least have peace of mind that you did all you could, but no sway is 100% perfect and when you spend soooooo much time and effort on something it hits you really hard when it doesn't work. You go into it thinking your chances will be better than...
19 Jul 2010 2:17 PM
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congratulations!
11 Jul 2010 2:07 AM
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This will probably seem trite to you, but I wanted to share an essay with you. It was written by a parent of a special needs child but I think it's applicable to GD as well and sums up what I've decided to do about my GD. http://www.specialkidstoday.com/articles/essays/welcome-to-holland-4719/
11 Jul 2010 1:54 AM
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Lissa has said before she has personal reasons for not choosing adoption. Wanted to clarify that was why I only mentioned high tech in my post since I think adoption is a great option for those who feel called to it. I wish you luck in your journey [love]
11 Jul 2010 1:15 AM
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Why not save up for high tech then? If you will be depressed the rest of your life without a dd then move heaven and earth to get one. Even if you have to go into debt and/or hire a surrogate I would do it if I felt it was my only shot at happiness. And it wasn't a matter of snapping my fingers and getting over it. It took me over a year to get here. I still have moments of GD and p...
11 Jul 2010 12:10 AM
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Find fulfillment in other ways. Life is full of disappointments. You have to move on. I am strong and I'm not going to let the gender of my children ruin my happiness. I have more to offer the world than the ability to produce a girl.
10 Jul 2010 5:13 PM
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Glad to hear you are feeling better. My ds2 is almost the same age and I could have written this post myself. The things that caused me so much pain during pregnancy and the early days now seem very trivial. I have an adorable, healthy, wonderful son. I couldn't ask for more!
07 Jul 2010 5:15 AM
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I know I have posted similar things. I just keep waffling back and forth. It's not a choice between ttc naturally and HT as I will never ttc naturally again it is a choice between moving on with my 2 boys or going HT for a girl. Our finances are good in terms of we would be able to pay for the HT out of savings and still have plenty left over. I am more worried about the long-term costs of a...
27 Jun 2010 8:07 PM
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Does anyone know if you are allowed to do a SET by choice with the partial refund program? Also does anyone know the approximate costs there? I did a search but didn't come up with much.
25 Jun 2010 9:31 PM
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[quote user="xoxomytwo"]SeekingContentment.....I didn't feel I was attacking. My thoughts are very rational TO ME (and I'm sure to many others). I'm just trying to get the OP to think of this whole situation from a LONG TERM perspective. BTW, still questioning if this poster is actually being honest or not....
ETA: Take it as "attacking" or not.....but adoption bc of wrong gender?? Seriously...
21 Jun 2010 8:54 PM
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