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Hey new baby....posting really quickly as I'm about to go to bed...haven't been on IG for aggggggges then I see this huge thread! Huge congrats on your pregnancy..I wanted to say that I can empathise with the "what will my special needs child do when I'm gone" comment as I do think this about my ds1 (autism) but I don't think you have anything to worry about, she'll have plenty of doting older sis...
16 Feb 2013 10:43 PM
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Thank you Tiffany :)
It took me a long time to realise why exactly I wanted to daughters and I know what you mean how some people don't want boys because they don't like them as such, which I think is a shame as I do love having boys (my dream was BBG) . Congrats on your sway...I may have to take a look on want you did ;)
15 Nov 2012 9:26 PM
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That's not my reason, for me I want to pass on to another female, my help and advice in being a female....I didn't have a great relationship with my mum, neither do I have a bad one but I would have loved the opportunity to have a "proper" mother/daughter relationship.
I'd love to be able to offer advice to "my" daughter that I longed to hear but was never told, I'd have loved to have shown my da...
15 Nov 2012 9:18 PM
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I've got a similar thread in "rising above it" :( I think we have to grieve the dream of the daughters we'd wished for.
I'd hoped that I'd done that grieving during my pregnancy and I too adore my third son, if you could wave a wand a turn him into a girl there is absolutely NO WAY I would...not a chance! But if I could wave a wand and have a guarantee of a girl next time, I realise, for the firs...
15 Nov 2012 9:03 PM
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Oh honey good luck, your post reminds me of a poster on here who had 2 boys and then triplet girls last year :) I think the chances are REALLY slim that if you have fraternal triplets, they will be the same sex, so, if it is the case you have 3 it's reallllllllly likely you have one boy in there ;)
I had a cyst (well they presume this is what it was) with my last pregnancy and had a little bleed ...
15 Nov 2012 8:51 PM
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Wow, talk about heroic parents, one fighting a war and the other delivering her baby on the bathroom floor, that is an amazing story!
Congratulations on your beautiful boy, I hoe things are less crazy soon x
12 Nov 2012 10:14 PM
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Oh sweetie, how absolutely, sole wrenching, devastating. I can not imagine what you are going through right now and I am so, so sorry for your loss.
I'm sure others have said it but you GD is NOT in any way what so ever to blame for your tragic loss. You are not guilty of anything!
Sending you lots of love x
12 Nov 2012 8:58 PM
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Thank you again gorglittlemen :)
Sorry for my late reply ruby, we have been away then it's taken me ages to be able to get on this site. How utterly horrendous for you :( you have nothing to feel guilty about, I'm so sorry for your loss and glad that you pregnancy this time is going well ((hugs))
I feel like a jealous child today, have just found out my friend who has been trying for such a ...
12 Nov 2012 9:36 AM
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Thank you sweetie, that's a great post and fab to hear it gets better- god I'm so glad for this site and being able to share xx
25 Oct 2012 9:21 PM
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Ahhh twin shock, what a lovely post, thank you :) and just wow that you are now about to have twin girls...fantastic! Like you, it was a bi of a half hearted, attempt at a girl, based on things I had heard over the years but honestly, there was definitely part of me that felt I "deserved" my girl...Ive been good in life, worked hard, been a good friend, been a nice person etc, so surely that would...
24 Oct 2012 9:43 PM
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Also meant to say that I would consider adoption but unfortunately, as well as gender selection being illegal, adoption is such a ridiculous system in the UK, hundreds of children ended up in foster care or childrens homes every year as they make it just ridiculously difficult to adopt, it really is heart breaking.
22 Oct 2012 8:20 PM
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Thank you for your reply :) gosh, I'm not sure I'm strong enough to do the letter just yet, just thinking about the content makes me sad...I feel cross with myself for allowing myself to dream about this little girl but never dreaming her into life...perhaps when I've finished breastfeeding and can have a couple of g&t's whilst I do it, I'll feel a bit braver lol!
22 Oct 2012 8:18 PM
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Ahh newbaby, your post made me cry, you have been through so much, I'm so glad you can enjoy your that complete feeling now.
Actually what you say is very similar to what other friends have said to me, about the child just being another child and feeling different because of their personality not their sex. I think I just crave to make up for the fact I've never had a close mother/daughter bond a...
21 Oct 2012 10:06 PM
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Hi guys...haven't been here for ages, had my 3rd little boy a few months ago now and I utterly, utterly adore him! He really is just gorgeous and seriously melts my heart....wouldn't be without him!
I have always, always wanted 3 children, financially so much changes in our life style with 4 plus in the UK, not many people actually have 4, it's a bit strange if you do. Im doing everything I can d...
21 Oct 2012 7:59 PM
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Thank you for your replies :) just loving getting to know him...I've been pleasantly surprised that no one has given any negative comments so far and I'm just looking forward to getting to know his little personality.
06 Aug 2012 9:50 PM
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Good luck pstar :)
Here are a couple of pics of my gorgeous man.. Will prob only keep them up for a couple of days...
And one of the most important 4 guys in my life
31 Jul 2012 5:49 PM
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My little man arrived just a couple of days ago and I am head over heals, utterly in love with him.
I have a photo of me and my 3 boys and it makes me burst with pride, I can't put into words how happy I am (and obviously hormonal haha!)
I juts keeping thinking how strange it is that I thought I wanted a girl when he is so utterly perfect and can not for a second imagine that him being a girl co...
29 Jul 2012 9:36 PM
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It's for medical reasons based on my husbands side...I don't know the medical term for it but all the men from the last 3 generations of his family have needed it done by around that age. Because of this is did ask about getting it done at birth - I do get the point about it being easier done then, than in later life and that was my reason but I was told that unless it needed to medically be done ...
05 Jul 2012 10:12 PM
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I wonder what people actually think uncircumcised men look like??? They'll all look the same in the locker room. It actually shocks me that just because it is common you don't understand it is unnecessary, you are mutilising your child for cosmetic reasons only...maybe if you have a heavy child at birth you could book in a tummy tuck...you realise that's effectively what you're doing - unnecessary...
05 Jul 2012 12:29 PM
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Alyx same here..I hear on the radio the other day that they are looking at making circumcision for reasons other than medical necessity, illegal in the UK on the grounds of grievous bodily harm..
I don't think it's possible to actually do a thread like this and not get people's opinions. Especially those of us that have grown up in countries that view it as barbaric as female circumcision i...
04 Jul 2012 5:48 AM
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I'm kinda the same as the above poster.
I have let go of my girl dream...it is important to have other dreams and as I have said all along having an infinite number of kids until I get my girl would get on the way of almost all of my other dreams.
I get the impression that it is a lot more common in the US than it is in the UK to have large families any way...cost of living over here is outrageo...
03 Jul 2012 9:37 PM
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Yes most definitely.
I wanted a girl as some one to pass on my female wisdom to, some one who I could kinda know what they were going through at certain stages in life and I could pass on my knowledge like dating, starting your periods, getting married, having babies etc. all the things where I feel I didn't really get it from my mum as our relationship was so strange.
I wanted to give a daughte...
26 Jun 2012 12:31 PM
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Ah thank you...I've heard this a few times now and I'm always really surprised to hear women not bothered about having girls. Can I ask why? My friends has 1 son at the moment and is pg and terrified she won't get a boy again but can't really explain why she doesn't want a girl.
It's strange, I've always just presumed girls would want at least one girl...my ideal was BBG
24 Jun 2012 8:36 AM
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Fantastic news photogal, I am so happy for you! I now can't wait for the arrival of my third little boy. I definitely feel this is my last and there's nothing that could persuade me to have a 4th so I think give yourself time and reassess if you def want another child or not.
Enjoy your little man and just remember how much boys love their mummas :) bet his big brother loves him too!
23 Jun 2012 8:58 PM
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Lol! Same!
18 Jun 2012 10:33 PM
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