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I don't have any advice to give. Just that I can feel your pain through your post and that I have felt exactly the same at one point and know how it feels. I hope that you are able to bond quickly with your new baby and are able to not focus on gender too much. I am jealous of you because you have such an exciting time ahead of you. I love the first two weeks after having a baby, it is so exc...
19 Jun 2013 1:21 AM
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15 Jun 2013 6:56 PM
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Well I was just trying to share some things which helped me.
I managed to overcome my gender dissapointment (that I'd had for over two decades) before I even had a girl, and have spent many hours on this site trying to give others my tips on how I did it!! I have come to realise ('realize' if you're American) that my help isn't really wanted here. If you don't think my advice w...
07 Jun 2013 8:54 AM
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PTYMSY - I know this isn't the same but can you do some of these things without a daughter? Like collecting dolls and getting a doll house. I ended up having a daughter but even if I hadn't I was already planning a doll house and things before she was conceived, just in case she was a boy then I still could get girl toys. I have a beautiful doll house which isn't really a toy. I bought it more for...
07 Jun 2013 12:42 AM
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I'm hearing you on the shitty family situation! I hate my family and stay away from them as much as possible. They are toxic and it sounds like your family are the same to you. I went to counselling and learnt how to become more assertive. I think you might need to do this as well! Sounds like you are a nice person and people tend to tread on your feelings. It is hard but you need to learn to tell...
06 Jun 2013 4:05 AM
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Well I must be that single person then. I had an abortion when I was a teenager and I felt guilty for a long time, but looking back I am sooooo glad that I did.
I hope the OP doesn't have one though. Have one twin then have 'em both I say!
04 Jun 2013 11:14 AM
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Just like to add that I have had an abortion when I was a teenager and it took me a long time to get over the guilt. I have since forgiven myself but it is not a nice thing to go through!
02 Jun 2013 3:16 AM
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Could you keep both the twins and then try again but go high tech next time?
I understand EGD but I think that if I got rid of a boy so I could have a girl the next time around the guilt of that would make me depressed even more.
You seem so down that I'm not sure that having a girl would magically make you happier. I know that from experience.
02 Jun 2013 3:14 AM
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I am no expert but I would say girl?
01 Jun 2013 3:42 PM
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It'll be a girl by the sounds of it!!! [:D] Don't stress! [H]
31 May 2013 1:48 PM
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You should go for brands like sooki, sprout, purebaby, Oobi e.t.c. I find it's all the cheaper made clothes that have that crap on them.
28 May 2013 7:55 AM
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[quote user="ptymsy"][quote user="Nickajax#3"]
Sometimes life really sucks balls!! Sometimes you get the exact opposite of what you want and it DOES feel like you are being punished by a higher power.
A lot of times though, I think that these things happen to us to make us stronger and teach us lessons we didn't know we needed.
I really hope that you love this baby when he is born and I'm sur...
21 May 2013 11:51 AM
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21 May 2013 2:22 AM
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21 May 2013 2:19 AM
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Sometimes life really sucks balls!! Sometimes you get the exact opposite of what you want and it DOES feel like you are being punished by a higher power.
A lot of times though, I think that these things happen to us to make us stronger and teach us lessons we didn't know we needed.
I really hope that you love this baby when he is born and I'm sure you will. Maybe not straight away, it might tak...
21 May 2013 2:15 AM
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This post got to me because so much of it is similar to how I felt with baby number 3.
This is exactly how I felt during my third pregnancy, right down to the moving house and the gestational diabetes! The only difference was - I knew I was having my desired gender which was a girl. Somehow it made no difference. I was so stressed and felt like no-one cared! I am telling you ...
21 May 2013 2:00 AM
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I would say there is no truth to that! It is amazing how many people in the medical profession can still have so many crazy theories about things. Good Luck, hope you can prove her theory wrong!
17 May 2013 10:22 AM
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I voted for Austin [:-)]
17 May 2013 8:10 AM
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Congratulations!! Little piece of advice - Don't wish away this precious time by wanting a girl. It's not worth it. [hearts]
16 May 2013 3:21 AM
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What a cow! You had a good comeback though.
I don't think being unhappy with your own life gives people an excuse to be mean to other people.
13 May 2013 12:43 PM
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You need a prize for best comeback EVER! [rofl]
13 May 2013 1:27 AM
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Wow! What an awesome post! I regret all the years I wasted pining for a daughter. When I look back it was a complete waste of time. Thank you for writing this for all the women who may never get their desired gender so hopefully they don't waste years of their life for no reason. [Y]
09 May 2013 8:11 AM
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I'm so sorry for how you are feeling. I felt that way too after my two boys and I would see people popping out girls left right and centre who didn't even particularly (imo) deserve them! Life sucks balls sometimes! Big hairy ones!! Hugs to you!
My only advice I can give is concentrate on you as much as possible and do what makes you happy, don't wish your life away on something that c...
08 May 2013 2:25 AM
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What a nice dream. It's always nice to dream of a loved one who has passed, it makes them seem so close again.
My advice would be not to get your hopes up, just assume you are having a boy and IF you DO happen to have a girl in there then it will be a nice surprise!
08 May 2013 2:17 AM
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Somthing is missing from this story. I find it hard to believe this happened unless there is a lot more to it :-/
07 May 2013 4:37 AM
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