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HUGS!I've been away for a few weeks but read this and had to write. I stopped going on FB a couple of months ago and it was cleansing for my soul. It really makes me be much less affected when I'm not on all the time. I recently got back from a trip, and the most gorgeous photo was taken of my dh and 3 boys, of them on the beach all in white. I decided to go on FB and post it and it got soooo many...
07 Aug 2012 2:18 PM
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Just wanted to send you some BIG HUGS!!!!!!!!! My DS2 has autism as well, I know how challenging it can be but how sweet and amazing ASD kiddos can be as well. I do worry about having another SN kids just b/c of all the therapies and energy etc that it takes, my other 2 boys are neurotypical.I'm so sorry about your failed HT attempts, that must have been devastating. :(( A gentle congrats on...
22 Jul 2012 3:36 AM
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This is very true! Right now I have 3 and while I have grown to really love my 3 boy family, when I think of bbg fams IRL that I know I get angry thinking about how they look at me and are prob glad they "didn't end up like me" as well- esp since one of my kids is special needs.
21 Jul 2012 4:30 PM
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Sassy, I'm sorry hon!! Did you go see your sister? How did it go? I hope you get your pink bfp this month!!
21 Jul 2012 4:27 PM
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I'm so sorry lillithrivan, that is so messed up you never got a shower for your 1st! [grouchy] Sorry about your losses too... Idk about you but I think while I would never ever wish a loss on anyone, somewhere deep inside I still feel bitter I went through so many and some of my closest friends have never had to go through anything like that. Why would your mil take your dh's ex's side with the na...
21 Jul 2012 4:25 PM
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BIG HUGS lillithrivan!! I hope and pray your sis has a boy. I also think it sounds like your dh may be willing to try once more! Congrats on your new sweet little one, I'm sorry you didn't hear pink though hon.... I think that's crappy of your sister to ask if she could use your name. I know there are debates on this board about not "owning" names but when it's a close friend or sibling etc I thin...
20 Jul 2012 7:06 PM
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Girl, I have five children and don't even think we even want anymore. When I found out my sister was PG with her third baby last October, I was crazy jealous. I really couldn't even tell you why lol!
I get what your feeling COMPLETELY. Don't feel bad, I think we all get a little jealous sometimes!![/quote] Thanks for this MyTrueLoves!!!!!!! (and thanks for all the other posts to...
20 Jul 2012 6:19 PM
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I'm sorry you didn't hear boy, kitten! (((((HUGS))))) I felt just like you when I found out at 20 weeks I was having DS3... totally devastated. Now he's almost 18 months old and the complete love of my life...there is something SO special about the 3rd boy or 3rd girl, I promise!!! It's always the hardest right after the ultrasound...give yourself some time to get used to and excited about another...
19 Jul 2012 3:35 PM
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Don't forget their last 5 or 6 pregnancies were all girls! So they had 2 same-gender streaks.
19 Jul 2012 3:04 AM
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Omg Halah...I am crying for those girls I just read about in your article, esp Jordan! I am so sickened. No matter how much I read about it, it never stops making me sick to my stomach. [:'(]
18 Jul 2012 3:14 PM
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This absolutely ENRAGES me!!!! WTF! Sorry but if your only reason for wanting to get rid of your baby is his/her gender, you should be flippin STERILIZED!!! There is gender disappointment, sure, but actually disposing of your flesh and blood because of that disappointment is dispicable. DO these "parents" not understand the irreversable damage that does to their family AND that child? Read here, ...
18 Jul 2012 3:02 PM
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I DO remember that post!!!! Does anyone know what happened with that mama?? I hope everything worked out and she was able to keep her baby...do you remember her user name?The bottom line is, adoption was meant to provide homes for children without parents.....NOT to provide children for couples who can't have children. Read the following for a comparison of adoption in the United States, ve...
18 Jul 2012 2:53 PM
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I'm sorry your dad is a crappy father hon...my mom had one of those too. [grouchy] She reunited with him about 9 years ago and their relationship is still rocky, she just decided it's best to not have a lot of contact and she's actually happier.I hope you get your boy- I hope for everyone on here to be able to get rid of this GD monster.
18 Jul 2012 2:25 PM
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This is how I feel about my current niece- and also, she looks NOTHING like my kids (my dh is a different race, and my niece is blond and blue eyed, as will my sister's kids be since her dh is and his 2 kids are). I kinda like being the one in the family with the *exotic* (for lack of a better word!) looking kids...they get so much attention! [H] Thanks for posting this!! Just made me ...
18 Jul 2012 2:19 PM
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Thanks hon! Hate to admit it but, like you, I will feel immense relief if she hears blue!
18 Jul 2012 2:15 PM
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I couldn't read and run, just wanted to give you some BIG (((((((HUGS)))))))! Just tell people they couldn't tell and that baby's legs were crossed...you are not obligated to tell anyone until you feel ready! I know your boys want to know but maybe prep them by talking about how awesome it will be if baby is another boy, etc.You're not a bad mother and it's okay to have all these feelings...in fac...
18 Jul 2012 2:07 PM
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Thanks ladies! I would be so ashamed if my sister knew I wrote this...I'm just admitting to you all what I can't admit to anyone IRL. [:(] And to be completely honest it's not just GD but some PG jealousy as well- even though I have no desire to get PG until DS3 is at least 2 years old!!! Omg I'm so terrible!!!!!
18 Jul 2012 12:00 AM
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What an amazing, awesome idea islandmeadow!!! [:-)] Hey if you ever do that I would love to help!!! Mothers who would otherwise make amazing parents shouldn't be denied their own children because of finances! A lot of these birth moms reliquish due to finances, thinking their child will grow up well taken care of, but adoptive parents are like any other parents- they divorce, go through...
17 Jul 2012 11:06 PM
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This is an awful thing to say, but wish I was happier. She deserves to have a kid of her own (is a stepmom to 2 little boys), she deserves happiness! And part of me is happy for her. I'm just scared of going through the same GD crap I went through when my SIL/brother were PG with my niece. It was brutal. [:(] Now I have no GD towards my niece whatsoever. Maybe it helps that my mom favors my boys (...
17 Jul 2012 11:00 PM
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I caught the very end of this show and couldn't help crying for the birth mothers.... I felt like yelling "Keep your baby!! You can do it!!" Ugh so tragic! I cringed when the adoption agency worker told the one girl "you did it!" like she should be happy she just gave her flesh and blood away. [:(] Yes, agencies pay all of the bills for PG women as a tactic to make the women feel like they ow...
17 Jul 2012 8:17 PM
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Exactly, take it one day at a time. You know GD is always so much harder while still PG...once your little prince is here it will get so much easier! I have some advice for you that has worked MAGIC for me....get off Facebook and any message/birth boards that cause GD or any kind of negative feelings... I stopped posting on FB about a month and a half ago and couldn't be happier! And bonus- I now ...
17 Jul 2012 4:11 AM
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BIG HUGS honey!!!! (((((()))))) I totally understand being sensitive to those kind of comments...my DS2 is special needs (autism... classic autism, not just some "quirky" Aspergers type if you kwim! And it's esp hard b/c boys are much more likely to have ASD.) You and I KNOW how special SN kids are and how much joy they bring- people who don't have a SN child just have no idea. Yes there are a lot...
16 Jul 2012 3:27 PM
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I do agree that boys and girls are *generally* different, esp the older they get. So not arguing with you there. But I think PP parents have a very limited view of both sexes and tend to box in what their boy/girl does as atrributed to their gender. I say "limited" because you have only one example of a boy, and one example of a girl. Try talking to some of us moms of 3+ of the same gender a...
15 Jul 2012 6:37 PM
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OMG congrats on your little man, hon! :))))))))))))
15 Jul 2012 3:57 AM
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We must both have been born around the same time! I'm a Jennifer too and back in the 80's (when I was in grade school) everyone was either Jennifer or Jessica!!! I HATED having a name that sooooo many other girls had, but now you don't hear it much (for babies) and I've grown to like it lol. ETA: OP, Penelope is okay, it's probably not a name I would choose for my dd but I don't hate it! I d...
11 Jul 2012 4:29 AM
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