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My disappointment always left but my gender desire stayed. I fell in complete love as soon as they were born. And I also felt so much pride in them. I hope it's the same for you. Good luck and please update us when the baby comes.
18 Jun 2013 2:23 AM
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IDK, I guess I'd rather have people admit that it boiled down to luck, then to act as if they somehow deserved it more or wanted it more or prayed for it more.
01 Jun 2013 2:02 AM
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When is your CVS? I would hurry and get that done asap so you can have a clearer idea of what your next step will be. I for one have no issue with SR or sex based abortions, especially done this early. But you're putting your body and the other twin at risk by waiting. IMO if you felt this strongly about it you should have skipped the Mat-21 and gone right to CVS. That can be done at 11 weeks with...
01 Jun 2013 1:56 AM
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I am so sorry marmalade. :( I hope things get better for you soon.
04 May 2013 5:10 PM
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This made me tear up. Wonderful news, congrats!!!
12 Apr 2013 1:45 AM
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I know the feeling. All disappointment passed when he was born though (also my 4th boy). He's the apple of my eye now and I wouldn't trade him for any girl. I hope the same happens for you.
30 Mar 2013 6:50 PM
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I don't think so. I never wanted boys. I'm glad I have them now, but before I didn't know how great they were and don't think i would have known what I was missing out on. Maybe if I'd have had 3-4 girls in a row I would have wanted the opposite, but I don't think I would have GD.
23 Mar 2013 11:06 PM
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Didn't sway but based on what I know about swaying I think my diet had a big part in concieving all boys. It's very boy friendly. I tried the girl diet for like 2 days once and couldn't hack it. Blech.I don't believe in timing, at all.
20 Mar 2013 5:29 AM
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Most of my GD stems from negative comments and societal pressure. I do want a daughter, but I also love having sons. My advice is to really grow a thicker skin and try not to take these comments personally. Most people don't mean any harm by them, it's just small talk. There have been a few comments that I've gotten that were more mean spirited, and those ones I have a harder time looking pa...
17 Feb 2013 9:09 PM
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I had a very girly nub at 11 weeks 4 days with my last. It looked a lot like yours actually. It was a boy though.Good luck.
14 Feb 2013 7:08 PM
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Every new baby changes your world. Usually for the better. It can be really hard to imagine that when you're pregnant with the same again though.
13 Feb 2013 7:30 PM
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I thought it was illegal in Canada unless there are genetic disorders to be concerned about? I hope not, but you might want to do some more research starting with the high tech board here. I'm definitely not having more kids without HT. I'll do whatever it takes. How old are you? My only concern is that I don't have age on my side. If I did I wouldn't even be sweating it, I'd just start...
28 Jan 2013 7:25 PM
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A list for people of all one gender would be great! #1 on the list...don't tell someone she is cursed or doomed to only have boys. [:@] As for c-sections, I really don't care how anyone elsen gives birth. I'm 100% prochoice and if you want to have a homebirth with a witch doctor that's your right. Same with a scheduled c-section because you don't want to stretch out your vagina. Yo...
27 Jan 2013 4:56 PM
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You sound a lot like me. I love having boys, just desperately want a daughter too and always have. However, I'm at my limit and won't risk having another boy at this point. Not that I wouldn't adore him, but the societal pressure really gets me down...I feel like a big joke with all these boys. Like I'm defective in some way and can't make girls.If it weren'tfor otherpeople I'd have more boy...
23 Jan 2013 5:43 PM
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My gender disappointment went away once I had my kids, but not my gender desire. It's stronger than ever now.
20 Jan 2013 9:28 PM
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I'm not sure if I'm looking at the right thing, but it looks girly to me.Good luck at your scan. I can tell you I was very disappointed with my first baby being a boy. I naively had never even considered that I wouldn't have a girl first. but the second I ;aid eyes on him I was in love and SO PROUD to have a son. Hopefully if this is a boy the same will happen for you. Also, if you only...
13 Jan 2013 7:15 PM
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Anything is possible if you want it badly enough. Take matters into your own hands and don't leave it to fate. You have options. HT or adoption. I read a blog of a woman who had 2 boys and then adopted 2 beautiful girls. She made no secret of the fact that she wanted girls and she went around the world to get them. I really admire her and others who do whatever it takes to make their dreams ...
12 Jan 2013 8:31 PM
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I like to hear updates. I'm happy to celebrate with people here or comfort them if needed.Just don't be obnoxious about it, lol. (I'm totally kidding!)
11 Jan 2013 6:37 PM
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I'm sorry. My 4th boy was really hard on me.Outwardly I remained positive and no one but my husband knew how I really felt. Which was just like you. Like I was defective or unworthy of having a daughter. It took some time before I was okay with it but I think what helped me was that because I acted positive about it I got (mostly) a positive reaction. You get back what you put out there, you...
10 Jan 2013 5:42 PM
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I really hate the princess thing. As for FB, I started hiding everyone who has a girl or is pregnant with a girl. Well, not everyone but the people who are obnoxious about it. Which is most of them. Esecially those who had boys first or whose daughters are still really young. I'll unblock them when they have teenagers. lol
09 Jan 2013 6:21 PM
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Hey now, Legolas is an elf. The least he could do is get it right. [;)]
08 Jan 2013 6:23 AM
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My mom is like that. Recently she told me she never cared what she got. I said of course not, you got a girl and a boy right off the bat. If you had GG or BB you sure as heck would have cared with the third.She actually paused and thought about that.
07 Jan 2013 8:07 AM
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Congrats on your BFP!My advice is to not tell anyone for as long as possible. You need to protect yourself and the best way to do that is to keep your secret close to you until you're ready to tell people. It's actually kind of fun. Also, telling people that you aren't finding out the sex (even if you do and even if you are having your DG) helps a lot too as far as keeping negative comments ...
06 Jan 2013 11:49 PM
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I agree. I can only imagine how hard it would be to adopt a non-infant. Her feelings seem normal and honest to me. I'm sure the love and bonding will come with time. It's okay for her to admit she's not there yet.
06 Jan 2013 5:45 PM
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Not competitive really, but I do probably place higher expectations on my sons than I think I would if I had never experienced GD. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing.
06 Jan 2013 8:57 AM
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