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I've read some of your posts & I know you're going through a lot right now...wanted to sent you some hugs-n-kisses!
This whole GD thing, it does feel like we have been "robbed" as you said...whether it's not getting our longed for daughter or not being able to enjoy our pg & esp w/all the disappointment...having to distance ourselves from many family members & friends...it just e...
01 Jul 2010 8:21 PM
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I'm so very, very sorry ...as others have said, there are no words...wishing you much peace & comfort.
There is so much that we don't understand...bless you & your family, your kids are beautiful!
01 Jul 2010 2:55 PM
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Yes, it's actually sad, for them & us...you can w/o a doubt feel the difference...esp in target...walking through the girls dept & then the boys dept has shirts w/the (ugly) hulk & so many shirts w/just like angry & dark characters (no kid needs that)...or of course the monster trucks & cars & sports...it's very hard not to be effected by it...boys don't need to grow u...
30 Jun 2010 4:42 PM
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That is hard...what pisses me off the most, & I truly belive I would feel this way no matter what gender(s) I had, is the gender segregation just all the way around...
I mean, commercials, which can make you sick! & the clothing depts...it's like the media & advertising & clothing depts seem to create the image that... ya know, girls like the sweet stuff & boys like the "dark"...
30 Jun 2010 2:18 PM
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Dino,
You sound aweful! you know I can relate...it's been a while since we've spoken! I'm going to PM you!
Take care & stay strong...xo
28 Jun 2010 2:31 AM
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I agree w/starrynight...that was put so well...
You are experiencing what soooo many of us have & do feel...it is one of the hardest things to deal with & all of your emotions are so natural...{{hugs}}
Take care of yourself...I'm so sorry for the pain...for all of us!
28 Jun 2010 1:34 AM
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That's got to be so hard...just sending you **comfort!**
If you have to be around, which sounds pretty unavoidable...try hard to stay busy or caught up w/other things around the house. Avoid being alone w/them & any conversation that may start...use diversion...kwim?
All the best, I hope it goes quick for you...try to turn the talk about the pg into, how you're feeling...not the gend...
27 Jun 2010 4:35 AM
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You're so insightful A/May...
I grew up hearing that "everything happens for a reason".....b*llsh*t...I don't think so anymore...not so much!
Maybe somethings happen that are meant to be & somethings definitely can happen that are NOT meant to be...maybe also somethings that ARE meant to be... may not happen, even though we feel them so strongly...it boils down to so many different expe...
27 Jun 2010 4:28 AM
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Luvr4boyz***
I just wanted to say that was such a nice post to read...you sound like you have a great outlook!
That was sweet & very supportive!
All the best to us all...
27 Jun 2010 4:16 AM
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It sure can be painful all the way around...the thought of an "alternate universe" is intersesting!
My Dh has always understood & gone to great lengths w/me in all of this...it's been a few yrs now though & I can tell he has come to a place where he really needs me to "accept" fate & life & truly move forward...I seem to be having trouble letting go of that little ray of hope...s...
27 Jun 2010 4:11 AM
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Hey there & welcome! Everything you are feeling is soooo natural & what MANY of us on here struggle with! you are not alone...I do understand how painful it is to hear the other conversations from women talking about their daughters & mothers & sisters...it can really hit us in the core, physically & it's hard to let go of at times, i know...I feel it too....
22 Jun 2010 4:12 AM
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Four amazing sons: I feel so different. I'm dieing to have something a little different in my life. I would love to wrap a baby in PINK. And have to do a daughters hair in the morning or paint some little toes. There are so many times that I actually feel left out in my own family. I'll be sitting at the dinner table and feel lonely. I just don't realate to my bo...
02 Jun 2010 3:50 AM
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OMG, I just read this...what you must be going through right now.
I am so very, very sorry....words could not express what you're feeling, I'm sure.
With GD alone I know we deal w/a lot of guilt on top of so many other emotions!!
God bless you & your family
I wish you so much peace & comfort in all of this...***{{lots of love}}***
02 Jun 2010 3:31 AM
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Hey Pinktastic-
I just wanted to let you know that I just saw your interview about the documentary! I'm in the USA & wasn't able to view the show but, I was able to see you on there...you're beautiful & spoke very eloquently!!
This world that we live in is just unreal....w/our GD...
I'm sure you were chosing your words carefully for the interview, I don't know if I could've h...
31 May 2010 8:26 PM
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That must be hard...no matter what I think there are sooooo many "what if's", either way.
I know when I was told I was having my 3rd boy...I still held out a small "ray of hope" even though I was pretty certain the us was right...it's just so natural for us to still want to believe (that our dreams might come true), kwim!!
Feel well & best of everything...{{hugs}}
31 May 2010 8:13 PM
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BIG TIME!!
On sooo many levels!!!
25 Apr 2010 4:15 AM
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Awesome! Good to see u again April...i haven't been on in a while!
Candy...((xoxo))
23 Feb 2010 5:19 AM
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For some reason, just now...reading your post brought tears to my eyes! It's the one thing I truly want too...to be the mother of a daughter!
Just having a sensitive morning, I guess.....peace to us!!
26 Jan 2010 4:43 PM
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Sadierose-
I just want to add...that was beautifully put!! I especially like where you added (as a former little girl)!! We are, for sure!
22 Jan 2010 8:22 PM
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Hey Kelly,
I agree w/you that the "Oh, congratulations" really pissed me off too...my MIL was actually one of the first...she just giggled & said something like how wonderful, blah, blah...I was deeply hurting...esp b/c my DH (who I adore) does have a DD so...this time it was my turn, for sure!
I do remember telling his Gramndmother on the phone & I was so surprised that she innate...
22 Jan 2010 3:11 PM
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OH YES!! A friend of mine & I talk about this a lot...I have totally noticed this & unfortunately...the little girls in our family, also get WAY more attention than the little boys...it hurts to see!
21 Jan 2010 11:41 PM
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I just want to send you some comfort!! I don't have any great words of wisdom, but...I can completely relate to the pain & emotions you're going through!
I have also, since my failed (full force) attempts at having my daughter, questioned God immensely & my faith has also been shaken...it's impossible to comprehend, for so many of us, how our hearts desire could go so unfulfil...
17 Jan 2010 2:00 AM
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Pinktastic-
He is incredibly beautiful!!
I can only imagine the mixed emotions of it all for you. This GD journey is for the birds!!
Anyway, "Mozal Tov"...as I sometimes say! Much peace & Happiness!
You make beautiful babies!! Candy!
06 Jan 2010 2:47 AM
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I don't really even have the mental energy at the moment to be posting, but...this is a GREAT question/comment that a few of us on here constantly wonder about.
I'm sure you are getting ALL kinds of responses to this post but it raises such a real issue for those who are deeply hurting.
I think what get's me the most is when I see posts from people who are desperately, truly hurting & grievi...
10 Nov 2009 7:47 PM
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All I can say is I'm so sorry that you're hurting! I can truly relate to the pain & frustration & ALL of the other feelings that go along w/this GD...it is an indescribable ache..I understand everything you wrote!
Try to take care of yourself!
((hugs)) peace & comfort!
16 Oct 2009 5:32 AM
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