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Yeah, I read a really great quote that fitted with GD, but then forgot to write it down... so I'll have to paraphrase it, it was along the lines of people's negative comments only hurt you when you agree with them, it isn't really because what they're saying is bad, even tho it is, but it only affects you because its already in your head.
17 Oct 2009 7:16 PM
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Ooer - I don't post anything about DDs on facebook, I wonder if it'dve been different if I'd had 2DS; if I'dve been more show-offy, been a bit annoying obbsesive, or I might have been the same. But I definately wouldn't elevate 1 gender above the other, thats really sad & damaging for those boys, or anyone that gets treated like that, I'd always hide my GD.
17 Oct 2009 6:45 PM
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Maybe she only wanted boys? I think if I'd've got what I 'ordered' -[2 or 3 boys]- then I'd be happy to read about parents doing girly stuff with DDs, taking an interest in my friend's DDs while also happy that I'd never have to actually do that girly stuff myself, maybe?!
17 Oct 2009 6:34 PM
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Drat, I just got in touch with someone I knew via Facebook & I found out he & his wife had a baby & thought 'Oh, nice' but then I found later it was a boy & I felt so envious & a bit angry - but I feel like that with anyone, wether its on facebook or just reading about what gender baby celebrities have had - Like why should that bother me, people I don't eve...
17 Oct 2009 6:26 PM
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GD is so evil, I still resent/ avoid other parents cos I still feel bitter that I've never left a maternity hospital feeling anything but suicidal, people looking at you with your 'new bundle' expecting at least a smile from you when its all you can do not to start crying in public; I'd like to know how it feels to have a baby & have bonded with it, be in that loved up new-parent bubble you r...
17 Oct 2009 6:10 PM
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Those figures are guff; they base them on people with more money than sense who insist on buying everything under the sun for their 'little precious' & have to have it all brand new instead of 2nd hand - Fools!
With DD1 we got given big lists [by shops] of things we 'needed', 1 postive side of my GD was that I hardly bought any of it which was a g...
17 Oct 2009 5:55 PM
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Most things make my GD worse - TV, magazines, families in the street, stupid comments about me having 2 DD[:@] [which only sting because I already have a problem with it]
But I read a comment which surprised me because it wasn't negative - Vernon Kay [UK TV presenter] was being asked how he felt having DD2 & he said that some American basket-ball player? [I wish I'd remem...
14 Oct 2009 5:23 PM
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I agree its damaging, growing up I always hated girly crap yet it was all I was given. I only liked boy stuff & assumed I'd get DS, instead of DD[:O] I still get angry when toy shops have those divided 'girl' & 'boy' sections
Not sure about the abortion thing; before GD I wouldve thought it disgusting & crazy to abort just for gender; but when I found ...
14 Oct 2009 5:03 PM
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He's jealous!! Another closet GD, needing help but instead taking it out on others. Jealous jealous jealous!
14 Oct 2009 4:50 PM
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Whaat?!! If that statistic is true its terrible. Still worth a go tho?!
If I had the £ I'd go HighTech, I wish I'd saved for it instead of stupidly putting too much faith in swaying & getting DD2
14 Oct 2009 4:44 PM
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[Your boys look so cute![+o(]] Maybe this is where I went wrong with my boy-sway; I tried turning off the hot-water so DH couln't boil himself in the bath & sneaking boy-supplements into him under the guise of 'vitamins' but maybe if I'd got him to stay at home?!
DH worked in a pub [bar] with DD1 and an office for DD2.
14 Oct 2009 4:34 PM
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That kind of ick adds to my GD about having DDs, brings up all the reasons I wanted boys[:(]
14 Oct 2009 4:28 PM
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Both my planned kids turned out DD, inc DD2 who was a 6 month 'boy sway'[:O] ; Some people just can't have what they want.
14 Oct 2009 4:25 PM
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Thanks for both replies, its great to have people to discuss this kind've thing with in a 'normal' [unhysterical] way -!
I think if DD did go with DH, it would only be temporary just 'till I got a new place sorted etc, I don't want her growing up feeling rejected or unwanted. Part of it is that it annoys me that he could waltz off while I'm left struggling with 2 kids, why shouldn't he ...
20 Sep 2009 1:25 PM
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I wanted to give some hope to any1 with 'extreme' GD - [I initially thought all GD was like mine but now I know there's varying degrees of it, tho its all cruel & unwanted of course. Mine seems to be the type that really upsets people, it frightens them, but as its all I've known since I had kids, I can relate to it & it's helped when ...
24 Aug 2009 12:51 PM
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That's true, its all I can think of that's 'positive' about GD, its made me a lot more understanding [but still obsessive!] Even on here, I used to get cross seeing posts about people wanting DDs so they could 'dress them up with bows' etc, I got annoyed cos I hate girly things, but now I understand; we may want different things but its equally painful wether its wanting...
16 Jul 2009 2:36 PM
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I think I mightve been offended, or at least, not-understanding, way back in my pre-GD, blissfully pig-ignorant days but now I've felt the same way; I was totally devastated after the gender scan in 2nd pregnancy, it was the worst day of my life. I investigated late abortion, ringing up etc but I couldn't bring myself to do it. Having to travel away put me off but also I didn't...
16 Jul 2009 2:11 PM
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I so wish I'd found this site sooner!! - The things written here [apart from the occasional preachy judgey post from those well-meaning-ish but without GD] - is the valuable truth that gets hidden from us; I believed all that crap about instant bonding, rush of love blah de blah, its all I heard about. OK it might happen for some but there's also those of us that feel no...
22 Jun 2009 3:42 PM
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I know how you feel, except the other-way-round, it sucks & it's totally unfair that some people just get what they want while some of us get GD instead.
It does get better, I havn't bonded with DD2 yet, but I felt the same GD crap with DD1 & we get on great now; things are how they should be.
22 Jun 2009 3:10 PM
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The negative/stupid comments do make it worse - tho' now it also makes me wonder what theyre hiding; closet GD spilling out. But it doesn't take much to stir my GD because its a big problem for me, always there, lurking. People being sexist makes it worse, or just those stupid male/female generalisations that some heap on kids[:@]
If I didn't have GD, I don't think I'd care what anyone said; if I...
22 Jun 2009 2:58 PM
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I wanted only boys, ho hum, but I didn't grow up with sisters or want any. I did have an older brother, too old to play with but I remember wanting a younger brother. My best friends at primary school were boys; girls were too pansy-ish for me. I think I have some inbuilt life-long aversion to anything girlish, especially grown women acting weak. My mom wanted a girlish girl, not me...
22 Jun 2009 2:42 PM
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GD is a wierd thing, 3 years ago I'd never even heard of it [Really wish I had tho', it would've saved me a lot of grief] then wham it took over my life. Its not as bad now as it was during the last pregnancy, ugh, but it lingers & I havn't really bonded with DD2 yet, which is sad. I think for me it'll only ever really be gone if I got the gender I'd wanted.
Just back from a seside&...
22 Jun 2009 2:30 PM
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I think the GD sufferers who don't find any help are those people we meet who feel the need to make us feel bad with their nasty bizzare comments about our offspring, like my aerobics instructor asking me 'what' I'd had [when I really didn't want to talk about it anyway] then replying [from the front of the class via a micrrophone] "Urgh, 2 girls"!
If...
24 May 2009 5:50 PM
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Why couldn't that have happened to me, why couldn't I have got the US gender mistake; I'dve been ecstatic & that lady couldv'e had the DD she wanted & I didn't. But it rarely happens to anyone who actually wants a 'surprise', only to those who were already happy with the gender they'd been told.
While I was pregnant I enjoyed reading about US mistakes as a flicker of hope ...
24 May 2009 12:21 PM
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Well said!
I've had negative comments for being honest, it bothered me at first but not now. I realise it's because those posters havn't felt like that so they panic, freak out. I can relate to all extreme GD posts so they don't frighten/offend me but it is really helpful to have those posts so that people who do feel the same know they arn't the only ones [de...
22 May 2009 1:04 PM
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