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I agree with what ThreeBoys2love wrote. The dream doesn't match the reality. For example, I tried for 3 years to get pregnant. I thought FINALLY having a baby would be a dream come true. I was not prepared for the reality of a colicky, screaming, high needs baby that I couldn't bond with for MONTHS. I'm sure if I had gotten my DG little brother for my son, I would have had the same shock when I re...
19 Jul 2010 11:46 PM
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[quote user="Meliss1983"]Anastasia, I am so sorry! I see you're due with a DD in Nov. Even though she is not the gender you had hoped for I will still say congratulations! Honestly, I have 2 DD. DD1 is 2 and DD2 is 4 months. This "list of girl joys" is everything that DD1 is not (DD2 is too young to say)! We mold our children into who they are and who they become. They are not born with the ideas ...
19 Jul 2010 11:32 PM
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To the OP, please don't feel bad, but yeah this gave me a GD pang. The girlie "joys" are the reason I never wanted a girl! They seem so superficial. I'm not like that at all and, after reading that list, shudder at the thought that my daughter might be. The boy joys, on the other hand, made me ache for another little boy. Even at less than a year old, my son is already displaying a lot of those tr...
19 Jul 2010 5:59 AM
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Yeah I don't want to get your hopes up, as I know people who have had completely different symptoms even though they were having the same gender, but I had the symptoms you had when pregnant with my son, as well as some other classic "boy" symptoms. And this time, same as you, no hyperemesis. Also, no crazy dreams, and - TMI - less sex drive. And I'm having a girl. BTW, congrats! Your babies will ...
19 Jul 2010 5:36 AM
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Don't be hard on yourself. It's impossible not to end up offending people once in a while, we're all just so different. I've found myself saying the same thing to people even though I never dreamed of a PP myself. It's just the cultural norm and a good bet on what most people want. It's not like I can say what I'm really thinking to those people ("aw, that's too bad, your boy won't have a brother"...
16 Jul 2010 10:49 PM
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It's so nice to read all these replies! I'm not exactly in the same boat as all of you, since I'm only having my second, but I REALLY wanted another boy and just found out a week ago I'm having a girl. I don't think your crazy at all.For me the trick is not trying to deny the pang of not having a second boy, but embracing the fact that I'm having a girl. It's like two different situations. I can a...
16 Jul 2010 6:06 AM
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You have MY dream family. [:(]
13 Jul 2010 8:39 PM
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I'm sorry you had to deal with this. I'm sensitive to comments too. Unfortunately some people don't understand/care that you're sensitive and they just say whatever THEY think is funny, even if the "joke" hurts you. Not the same thing, but just to sympathize, my MIL told DH, right in front of me, that he should have married the neighbor girl that he knew in high school because then he'd be married...
12 Jul 2010 11:07 PM
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Wow. I don't have any advice to give, just want to say I'm sorry you're dealing with this. An inaccurate gender scan is my nightmare! I pray you're getting the girl you were planning for, and if not, that you're given extra strength to adjust to having a boy. Hugs!
12 Jul 2010 10:59 PM
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Wow, Wanting4, I'm exactly in your position! Wanted boys, #2 is a girl, and now I'm trying to get myself psyched through shopping. [HL] Shortstack, I'll tell you what happened with me. I thought I was preggo with a girl, was POSITIVE of it, had a boy, and developed GD (even though he was technically my DG, because I had bonded with the little girl I thought I was having). A friend...
12 Jul 2010 10:48 PM
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Prior to today's ultrasound, I was hoping for another boy so DS would have a brother. DH was leaning toward wanting a girl. It actually made it better knowing that at least one of us would be getting our DG. DH is absolutely thrilled to find out today that we're having a girl (he teared up during the US). It's different for me because DH wants lots of kids so I know I have a chance of having anoth...
09 Jul 2010 9:39 PM
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[quote user="charlottelou"][quote user="x_pinkandblue_x"]
Sorry you didnt hear but its really good how positive you sound! xxxx[/quote] You do sound positive - hey your son won't have a little bro to play with (this time) but he will have a gorgeous little sister to protect. How lovely. x[/quote] Thanks to both of you! When my husband left for work, he told DS "Take good care of...
09 Jul 2010 8:57 PM
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Thanks everyone for the wishes!I updated in my original post.
09 Jul 2010 8:41 PM
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I totally understand! We didn't ttc after getting married for 4 years because my husband said we couldn't afford it. After that it took me 3 YEARS to get pregnant (sorry, hope that doesn't scare you! The good news is I got pregnant first try this time!). So I spent seven years aching for a baby, 3 of those feeling like a failure for not being able to do what so many other women do so easily. My ad...
09 Jul 2010 10:19 AM
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So I have my level 2 ultrasound this morning and hopefully we'll find out the sex of the baby. I'm hoping for a brother for my son and have in the past felt pretty sad that that might not happen, but I've actually been okay the last few days with the possibility of having a girl. I've never ever desired a PP (as a matter of fact, that's what I DON'T want - I've always wanted my first two to be the...
09 Jul 2010 9:45 AM
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I'm the other way. I didn't get a good nub picture so no guesses but it looked girlie to me, and the tech didn't see any boy parts at 16 wks, so I'm trying to prepare myself to hear girl on Friday at my level 2, even though I want another boy. I'll let you know if my guess was right. I know what you mean, I'm nervous too. I think it's better to prepare for the GD gender than to hope for the DG.
07 Jul 2010 4:11 PM
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Absolutely.Everytime someone tells me "oh you need to have a girl now, you'll have the perfect family!" it reminds me that if I am having a girl, it will be EVERYONE ELSE'S "perfect" family, NOT mine....
01 Jul 2010 8:40 PM
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Yes I regret not finding out in advance with my son. I had GD after he was born (I was positive I was pregnant with a girl. I just FELT it was a girl.) and it took me MONTHS to bond with him.This time I'm finding out so I can deal with it now rather than when I have a screaming newborn.Good luck!
29 Jun 2010 9:37 PM
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Back when my husband and I first started ttc I saw two packs of brand new adorable little girlie bibs at a yardsale, bought them, washed them, and packed them away for my first girl. Even though a boy was my DG, I thought that might be a sign I'd have a little girl first and I was actually fine with the idea. 3 years later when I conceived, that may have been one of the things that convinced me I ...
25 Jun 2010 12:10 PM
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I totally, totally get where you're coming from. Unfortunately, this is a form of GD most people with "typical" GD don't get.I have a son and want so badly to give him a little brother. Forget PP, I've never ever wanted one. I will be so thrilled if I get another boy (and so jealous of you if I don't [;)] ) but if I get a girl then I'll feel like I need to give BOTH of them same-sex siblings! I've...
23 Jun 2010 10:37 PM
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I had always wanted an older brother, and I thought that a boy should have a brother of his own so they could be close friends and support one another, so I ended up wanting [XY][XY], preferably twins so I would be certain to have two close-in-age boys. I thought [XY][XY][XX][XX] would be ideal, but the important thing to me was two boys first, then whatever. I was fine with the thougth of al...
18 Jun 2010 12:12 AM
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Yup, me. I really really really want another boy and am trying to think of all the reasons why having a girl would be great too. My previous ultrasounds looked "girlie" which makes dealing with the idea of a girl both better and worse in a strange way. We hopefully find out sometime in the next week or two (not sure yet due to doctor issues) and I'm trying to get my head around hearing "girl...
16 Jun 2010 7:46 PM
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I don't know the gender of my second yet but I am longing for another boy so my son will have a brother. I guess if I'm honest with myself I'd say I'm desperate for him to have a brother. I don't know why it's so important for me but it is. So when I see women on here talking about "I didn't get my girl but at least my sons are SO CLOSE/BEST FRIENDS/CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT EACH OTHER" I am SO jeal...
14 Jun 2010 9:27 PM
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[quote user="AliceB"] [quote user="charlottelou"]
Like anyone would ever say "How lovely you lucky thing, I'd love 3 boys"! [/quote]
Ha ha, I think I might die of shock if someone said that to me, I can't imagine it ever happens! [/quote] I WOULD LOVE 3 BOYS!!!!!!!! No I am not joking, I am completely serious. Don't die of shock, please! [HL] But seriously, ...
14 Jun 2010 9:20 PM
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Before kids: [XY][XY]In addition to DS: [XY][XY] If I have a million boys first: [XY][XY] ... [HL]I've dreamed about having twin boys since I was a teenager. That wouldn't change no matter how many boys I had first. Not that I wouldn't love [XY][XX] or [XX][XX], but they're not my "dream".
13 Jun 2010 2:37 PM
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