Need some support

I need some support and words of advice.  My sister just had her second DD.  I was doing so well...I was even thinking of posting in the Rising Above GD forum.  But...tonight, it has hit me hard, and the tears won't stop flowing.  My sis is an inattentive mother, and the grandparents do more for her kids than she does.  I'm the opposite.  My life revolves around my kids.  I am angry, disappointed, and sad.  I keep telling  myself over and over that I am blessed, but it is not helping this gaping void that I feel for not having a DD.  I don't know if it will ever get better. 

Big hugs to you - I know it can be so tough sometimes, but all we can do is put our heads down and keep walking until we've gone from the dark places into the light.  I wish you all the best for finding peace of mind...

LOL...we're in the same boat.  Except I'm pg (with a boy...that I thought I didn't want) and my sis is 8 weeks behind me.  I just know she's having a girl (she finds out in a few weeks).  It took me about a month, but I'm finally feeling excited about this boy.  I am nervous however about how I'll feel if she really is having a girl. 

My parents tend to lend more help to my other siblings too--but it's because they need it.  Sometimes when I'm feeling jealous I just remind myself that I wouldn't trade my life for theirs for all the help in the world. 

Is there any hope for a DD for you or are you done? I have a DD and wanted another (never even considered wanting a boy).  I don't think I want anymore kids, but I'm wondering if I might always wish for that second DD??

I second what Kristindoggirl said so beautifully. Gentle hugs to you.  I hope the morning finds you in a better place.

amcdonald1125:

Is there any hope for a DD for you or are you done?

There's hope....it's a decision that I struggle with every day, but if I ended up with four boys, it would be so much harder than it is now.

 I'm the same as you. My boys are my world and the mothers of my neices(sils not my sis-my sis is very attentive to hers but that hurts too) are always pawning off their daughters so they can do other things. My brother just this am shows up with his daughter in tow because sil "is tired". I know how hard it can be to watch the ones that got what we want so badly act like they couldn't care less. Hugs. I too try to remind myself that I really wouldn't want their life when I get down. Hang in there

Praying for a Daughter:

There's hope....it's a decision that I struggle with every day, but if I ended up with four boys, it would be so much harder than it is now.

That's exactly how I feel, the other way around. I'm so sorry other people are getting what you wanted. DH is currently on a business trip, and visiting friends along the way . . . who are yep expecting their first child, a DS, what he has been wishing for for years. Don't have any advice, but you're not alone.