I really want to experience a relationship with a girl. For the most part, I think girls are closer with their parents than boys are when they move on and get married. I am so afraid that whomever my boys marry, will not want to be "close" to her Inlaws....But you never know, if I am a "good" MIL, maybe I'll have them knocking on my door more!!!

 Quite a few reasons Isuppose - becuase I already have two boys and havent had a girl, becuase me and my mum had a good relationshio until I was 12 then she had an accident and we grew apart so I want that mother daughter relationship, becuase all the men in my life (aside from current OH and my kids) have been awful not the sort of man I wouldbe happy to say I had raised, and I just want some pinkness in my life.

I'm not totally sure, I just wanted DS. I assumed I'd get boys like everyone else I know but I didn't realise that I really really didn't want girls till the first gender scan when I discovered GD. DD2 was a 'failed' sway.

I think a lot of it has to do with sexism; the problems & pressures & wierd attitudes heaped on girls by society, I just didn't want to have to fight all that allover again.. Plus I despise the pink princessy lets-go-clothes-shopping passive barbie-doll guff, which I wouldve very happily avoided if only I'd got my DS

shallow as it sounds, i love little girls clothing, the things you can do with them, their longer hair, their cuter bedrooms, their wider choice of names, the fact that they enjoy more activities i can join in with as opposed to those i don't enjoy as much....and i think women in general are potentially much more powerful than men, particularly with good looks and brains to boot. can't get any of those with a boy which is why i don't want any, but someone doesn't agree as i am having one anyway. already have a daughter and just wanted two girls. sad as it sounds, those are my reasons!!

bulgariafairy:

and i think women in general are potentially much more powerful than men, particularly with good looks and brains to boot. can't get any of those with a boy

Hmmm....

I am not debating what you say Bulgariafairy, but this make me wonder, dont you have a male partner/dear husband?

My question is dont you find him to be at least somewhat attractive and smart?

I want to have a girl that is smart & good-looking too, but in reality she may very well end up to be

with the not so good looks and/or with learning difficulties. But I know that I would want her anyway  

Krissymum

 

bulgariafairy:

shallow as it sounds, i love little girls clothing, the things you can do with them, their longer hair, their cuter bedrooms, their wider choice of names, the fact that they enjoy more activities i can join in with as opposed to those i don't enjoy as much....and i think women in general are potentially much more powerful than men, particularly with good looks and brains to boot. can't get any of those with a boy which is why i don't want any, but someone doesn't agree as i am having one anyway. already have a daughter and just wanted two girls. sad as it sounds, those are my reasons!!

 

To be honest, I am one of those kindly disagree...sorry to say that.  Many of the things you are saying is not literally true. Yes girls can very smart and good looking, but there are many boys I know that are very smart and really really good looking also. Just like girls, boys are also powerful and can be wonderful too. And yet, there are boys AND girls who aren't smart and make unwise decisions that just leads them into trouble. My point is here, it literally depends on how they are raised. I mean, if you think boys aren't smart, have no intelligence, attractivness, good qualities..and have nothing compared to girls, why are many women marrying them and having families with them? Why are they helping women welcome babies in the world and are so caring and supportive during tough times? I agree that you can't do girly things with boys, but there are many other things boys have that will just take your breath away. How a child will be like is based on how they are raised and the love they are given, not on their gender.  Have you ever had any good relationships with men before? Because your attitude towards boys is just over the top and is really making me sad.

I voted for "other"

 I think the reason why I want a girl is because my mother only likes girls. I just remember that from little on with the comments she has made so it brain washed me into thinking that I must have a girl. Even when I found out I was pregnant she would call it a girl. I said "what if it's a boy". She said "I will sh!t a brick". 

Honestly, if it wasn't for her comments over the years, I wouldn't care either way. And deep down I know I shouldn't care. But why does a part of me still want a girl after this baby?

JJ89:

I agree that you can't do girly things with boys,

 

I do think that when your son is young, you CAN do a lot of the "girly" things with him too!

My 4-year old son loves to play with fake jewellery and takes all my necklaces and pearls

and sit and look at them in awe - he also wants to buy all stuff that glitters, and he often talks about

diamonds and has a little box were he keeps his own "treasures".

Both my sons have loved to paint, draw and to make little things out of paper and ribbons and

do decorations for easter holiday, christmas and all the other events.

I just realized the other day that I am BORED of doing all the "girly things" I just described -

they are so time-consuming and my sons are perfecionists like me. so they end up crying

if the outcome is not what they had expected   - go figure...

Krissymum

To lovinhug , I just want to say that your little guy laughing in the picture is

one of the sweetest ones I have seen talk about handsome boys...

And by the way, I am celebrating Christmas at my in-laws, as we do every year

Krissymum

Krissymum:

JJ89:

I agree that you can't do girly things with boys,

I do think that when your son is young, you CAN do a lot of the "girly" things with him too! My 4-year old son loves to play with fake jewellery and takes all my necklaces and pearls and sit and look at them in awe - he also wants to buy all stuff that glitters, and he often talks about diamonds and has a little box were he keeps his own "treasures".

- Like a pirate treasure chest, & that's not considered girly!! But I don't see whats wrong with little boys doing 'girly' stuff [Whatever 'girly' means to different people. To me it only means barbie-pink-princess-guff & I wouldn't be happy with DD playing with that wierd stuff] It means they can develop all of themselves, not be unbalanced. At a young age we shouldn't be so rigid with our stereotypes, toys are toys, what does it matter as long as the kids are happy playing with them? [Apart from the pink guff! No really, I'm seriously allergic to it]

I guess when they get older they start to go more for the traditional gender stuff? altho' I didn't, I went for boys toys, maybe as I wasn't allowed them but probably cos they were a lot more fun than the awful sexist rubbish girls/I got in the '70's, grrr.

Bulgariafairy - I don't think your reasons for wanting girls are sad, or only as sad as my reasons for not wanting them/wanting only DS. What is sad is that we didn't get what we felt we were better suited to; I'm sure I was meant to be a DS mom! So many times I've wished I could swap with the people who really want DDs, I wish I could wave a wand [Girly as that is!] - It seems so stupid I should get DD when I haven't the big enthusiasm or happiness about it that other posters would have. Tho' maybe I am suited to raise DD1 as she seems to be more of a tomboy, like I was. Bit early to tell with DD2, at 3 weeks.

bulgariafairy "and i think women in general are potentially much more powerful than men, particularly with good looks and brains to boot"

I'm liking this 'Girl Power'! - Nice antidote to my pessemistic thinking. But maybe your DS will prove some men can be smart & attractive too?! Thinking about it I don't actually know any smart men but then I don't get out as much as I used to, alas, so I only really have DH to judge things by. 

Krissymum:

And by the way, I am celebrating Christmas at my in-laws, as we do every year

There was something on our Breakfast TV about in-laws, they mustve done an article about how bad MIL are [Yawn] but lots of people had rung in to say 'No actually we love our MIL & are spending Xmas with her' etc. I thought of you as you had a worry that DIL don't like MIL?