Trust?

Is it possible to earn back trust once it has been broken?

Do you ever fully trust that person again?

Can everything be good as new? Can you forgive and forget?

or

Do you forgive but never forget?

I never forgive or forget. I always hold a grudge and no things can never be that same after someone has betrayed me.

Depends what the betrayal is, and in what context.  Sometimes everything is smashed, sometimes it's forgiveable.

I have a long memory, though.

I have a memory like an elephant. I am a grudge holder from way back.

I can forgive, but oh...I never forget!

Depending on the situation... I can forgive but i never forget.

If it is really bad ....then the relationship is over and i cut all ties because i know i won't forgive or forget

I always forgive but, of course, forgetting is like having amnesia.  Of course one would remember, if it was relevant enough.  Maybe it's a weakness, but I can truly forgive just about anything.  I've even forgiven, in my heart, someone who tried to break up my marriage by snooping with my MIL to find something.  They did not succeed and MIL comes over all the time now.  I will never talk to that "friend" again, but I do forgive her, think about her, hope she is doing well.  I find peace in forgiveness.  Jesus always forgives us and is my model for forgiveness of those who have trespassed against me.    FWIW, I do not do this just to "get into heaven".  It's just who I am and I know that Jesus has shaped that in me, which makes me eternally grateful, but there is no alterior motive. 

I have a very difficult time forgiving after trust has been forgotten. I do forget rather easily though... I get over it fast and move on without thinking about it much more. BUT that person who broke my trust... I dont' have anything to do with them again.

I am pretty good about forgiving too....not just saying that to sound good either...LOL.  Now forgeting.....I am not the best about that.  You are right that there is a lot of peace in forgiveness.....I am trying to work on forgeting as if you truly can forget, then you know you have completely forgiven someone.  I don't want to hold grudges as I know when I do it makes ME unhappy.  I also think asking people to forgive my transgressions is just as important ......so I try to be good about apologizing......I am probably not as good at this.....I am definitely a work in progress...LOL.

Life is TOO short to hold grudges.  It takes way too much energy and effort.  Do unto others.... That is my motto.  If that doesn't work for you then, don't worry and be happy.  Life is too short, please don't waste it being a sour puss all the time.

 Is it possible to earn back trust once it has been broken?

I find it extremely hard to trust again once it has been broken, but I do try my hardest (depending on the situation) to give them the benfit of the doubt and move on.

Do you ever fully trust that person again?

No.

Can everything be good as new? Can you forgive and forget?

It can never be as good as new, but there can still be a relationship - even if it means your just tolerating them for the sake of peace.

Do you forgive but never forget?

Depending on the situation again, but yes, I can forgive....but I will NEVER forget.

PrincessPea:

Life is TOO short to hold grudges.  It takes way too much energy and effort.  Do unto others.... That is my motto.  If that doesn't work for you then, don't worry and be happy.  Life is too short, please don't waste it being a sour puss all the time.

I agree that is why I forget quick, because it isn't worth dwelling on. If someone broke my trust where it was enough that I would hold a grudge, then because life is too short, I just dismiss that person from my life. I rather move on without that person in my life than to have them in my life and hold a grudge towards them. And I am always amazed with the person gone, how quickly I forget why I removed them from my life in the first place

Now if this was a child of mine... I would really have to rethink this. I hold my children to different standards to everyone else. They I would have a hard time turning my back on ever... and I hope I don't. I know I don't fully trust my oldest son because he has lied to me over and over again and he needs to regain my trust... but the things he has lied about are not anything out of the norm of teenagers... but I DO Not trust him, because of his lies. That he will have to earn back.

But I know I have been able to walk away from family members who have broken trust and have done it with a clear mind and actually was better for it (no more drama or hurt feelings).

Deena, I do the SAME thing.  I would rather just walk away then to remember their wrong-doings everytime I saw them.  That is too bad about your son, but he is young....Hopefully he will grow out of it.  My kids lie to me all the time and they are just terrible at it.

dream:

I agree that is why I forget quick, because it isn't worth dwelling on. If someone broke my trust where it was enough that I would hold a grudge, then because life is too short, I just dismiss that person from my life. I rather move on without that person in my life than to have them in my life and hold a grudge towards them

This is what i do too. 

I agree, it is so much better to have a clear mind and surround yourself with people you love and trust. I just don't see the point of surrounding myself with people who I do not trust or who bring me down. 

I forgive but dont forget.  It does only yourself harm NOT to forgive, but it is foolish to forget.

Ummm. If it were a situation of abuse, or that sort, I could never trust that person again.  If it's something smaller and simpler, such as your dh saying he was going to the grocery store when he really went to hang our with his guy friends, what is the point of holding onto that?

 If it was an honest mistake, I usually don't have a problem with forgiving. But if it's a blatant betrayal, I really don't think I could ever forgive.