Visiting at the hospital...

This is a hard one.....W/ my 3rd I had to tell my mom that I did not want her in the delivery room w/ me just me, dh, and ds3.....I told her that after I had a chance to bond w/ him that I would call her..(I did not even want her waiting in the waiting room)  It was really hard to tell her but after I explained to her that I wanted to bond and BF and rest before people came to snatch my baby she totally understood.  When I have more kids I will be like you and dont want any visitors at the hospital.  w/ ds4 dh's niece 11y/o and nephew 14 y/o and my other kids were out in the hall when the nurse came to check my VJ after delivery all of the kids were acting like they were at a F#CKING circus (screaming jumping running)  I was SOOOOO embarrassed.  I said NEVER again will that happen!!!!

Just tell the nurse that you are NOT accepting visitors and put a note on the door and they should not allow anyone back.

GL

hang in there. i think everyone goes through this too. i suggest you politely ask everyone to wait for you to come home with the baby before they visit. maybe suggest a get together once you're home or something. then, talk to your mom who is your support person, & have her be in charge of making calls about the birth, & again, reminding people to wait until you're home before coming to see the baby. then, i suggest you talk to the nurses once you get to the hospital. they are usually very good about asking you first if people are allowed to come in. they won't feel badly about turning people away. try to relax & enjoy these next couple of days.

I truly believe that this is the one time in life that you are absolutely in charge of these decisions!   Mommy and Baby are the important ones here, if family members can't respect that then yes, tell the nurses and security.  Our hospital has tight Maternity Ward rules and regulations, the ONLY children allowed are siblings to the newborn, no one under 12 years and I believe there is a limit on number of visitors at a time.  Your nurses are your next line of defense.  and of course your husband....he can be as bitchy to your sisters as he wants ~ my husband has gotten very good at it!

I had to hurt my Mom's feelings~ she fully expected to be in the delivery room....but after months of, "my you're gaining so much weight...has your Dr. talked to you about this? I only gained 15-20 pounds when I was pregnant." conversations, she was the LAST person I wanted any where near my big naked ass or thunder thighs.....she got over it.

 Good Luck!!  Happy Baby Day!

So Sorry sweetie...sounds like your hospital will take care of things for you if you're very specific. 

157pounds?!!! Please...That's where I stared with my first and haven't seen it since!  If you're young you'll bounce back fast and the strech marks will fade with every baby smile.

Good Luck!

Yes you are young and that weight will melt off.  I had ds1 when I was 15 I gained 60lbs and at my 6 week check up I was back in my reg clothes!!!  Oh I wish I could do that again.......

Ahh, I forgot to wish you a happy birthday! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

I completely understand. I do apreciate visitors, but after Trent I was so tired that I just wanted to be left alone, and when Aunt Heather came to visit I think I actualy fell asleep while she was talking to me, I felt so bad.

BUt with all those siblings and friends who want to be involved in your case I can 100% understand that it would be way too much!

This being number 3 for us though, I'm not worried about lossing bonding time with Charity, as I know how greatful I will be to get breaks from being the only one who can take care of her, since I have a strict boob feeding only policy. (I tried bottles on and off with Trent and that just helped him get really lazy and quit nursing long before I was ready for him to quit.)

Anyway, you may be in the hosptal as we speak, oh I hope I hope!

But just stay patient with it all, and enjoy Ahyla once she is in your arms.

Oh I'm so gealouse, and happy for you!

And I can't wait to see pictures!

rawrmonster91:

rawrmonster91:

Todays already fucking going wrong, it'll be just my luck I'll find out I haven't made enough progress and I wont be allowed to get induced. :( Im just waiting for it. My day already seems shot to hell. 

 

 

There we go, I guessed it from the beginning. 

Hang in there.  Believe me, if your body is not showing signs of being ready, it's sooo much better not to be induced.  I went over with both my boys and with ds #1 I was showing NO progress at all...then 3 days past due I lost my mucus plug (bloddy show) and contractions slowly started coming that evening; the next morning I woke up to more regular contractions that started to hurt and he was born that afternoon (4 days late).  I had to be induced at 5 days past due with ds #2 because my water broke (24 hours before) and I never went into labor.  But he was born about 6 hours after the pitocin started.  My sister was preg with her first and her OB allowed any of his patients the choice to be induced at 38 weeks, and she took him up on the offer.  He body was showing no signs of being ready and she had the worst labor/delivery.  It was aweful, just one complication after another.  Believe me, your baby can't be in there forever, she'll have to come out real soon.  And as far as hospital visitors, I have no helpful advise, because I LOVED visits as long as they were short lived.    

I am hoping that you have already gone into labour by the time I post this. If not hang in there. She has to come out soon. With regards to the visitors I was the opposite. I actually found that I dealt better with visitors in hospital than at home. There are strict rules about how many visitors you can have and what times they can come and visit here.

You mum sounds so great and loving. If you explain to her that you don't want visitors then I am sure she can take care of it - especially with your siblings.

I think the suggestion of having a party or a gathering when you come home from hospital is a good idea. Maybe afternoon tea so they don't stay for a long time and then everyone can see the baby at the same time and no-one feels left out. But stick to your guns and if you are tired or need to feed the baby just take her and go into your room with the door shut (even if you don't need too but just want to get away for a minute). 

I hope she comes out real soon for you and you have the labour and birth you want. Good luck  and Happy Birthday

I understand that you want alone time with your baby.  You will get plenty of that.  I think there's an unsaid rule that hospital visits are free-for-alls.  People just show up out of the blue.  They don't announce they're coming or call ahead.  I think it will be really hard keeping people away and if someone comes and are turned away at the door they will be hurt.  People don't usually "like" to hang out in hospital rooms.  They'd probably stay for 10-15 minutes, give you a gift, hold the baby and leave.  You're mom can be the buffer and say "she's really tired, etc." 

My hospital hours are 12 to 6 so you have the entire morning and entire evening alone with the baby.  You might want to check to see what the visiting hours are there.  Obviously, it's your decision in the end, but it seems like an uphill battle with your family for basically a one-two day period.  

Plus, don't you want to show her off just a bit? 

Just wanted to wish you a very smooth delivery - you're almost there sweetie!  Can't wait to hear your news that your little one has been born!  Hang in there - you're very brave!