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Was praying for a girl... Found out we are having a boy.

brooke8565

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brooke8565

Hello everyone!

 Mother of a five year old little boy. We are expecting our second and just found out IT'S A BOY.

When I found out our first was a boy, I was somewhat disappointed... Probably more than I should have been. This time around, I thought I would have less trouble dealing it because I have learned how much fun little boys are, and how much they love their mommies.

When we went in for the sono, the tech said "So, we're hoping for a girl." We both said yes and she said okay lets see what we can do here!

I swear, before she even got the jelly rubbed iin all the way, BOOM! There it was. The tech and I both froze and my hubby was startled, not knowing what we were looking at.

"Does this look familiar?" she asked. I nodded yes, and couldn't utter another word while we were in the room. Baby Boy is healthy and perfect, but still by the time we made it from the sono room to the exam room I had broken down into tears. My nurse asked my hubby why I was crying; he explained that it's not because we are having another BOY, but that we will have try again to have a GIRL.

 So here I am, two day post-sono for baby #2, and already trying to plan for a third pregnancy. What is wrong with me?! I feel guilty, shallow, etc. but I'm here to seek answers so I that I can get some idea of our odds for success for a girl in pregnancy number 3 so I can get through this pregnancy and give my baby boy the devotion he deserves!

I'll post my more detailed questions in other areas, but basically I'm wondering if we will have higher odds of getting pregnant through IVF (& PGD for gender selection) since neither of us have ANY fertility issues. (Really, I can't explain HOW fertile we are, haha.) Would love to talk to someone in Texas to get ideas of costs, how hard it is to find a physician willing to do this SOLEY for gender selection.

 Trying to weigh our options... Will we go the scientific route? Or try for adoption. I know both methods are emotional roller coasters. I'm just terrified to try naturally and have boy #3. I figure it is financially less risky to invest in pregnancy #3, rather than waiting for pregnancy #4 and then putting an additional child through college!

Your thoughts, answers, words of encouragment are greatly appreciated!

Best of luck to all of you here!

Brooke, TX

 

Baby Bear Boy Feb 2007  Baby Bear Boy Due Nov 2012   Longing for Baby Bear Girl

 

mestroisfils

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mestroisfils

I so know how you feel, as I'm sure MANY of the other ladies here do. I was sad to find out I was having a boy the second time around and the third time around, a total surprise pregnancy, I was beyond miserable. I remember completely shutting down when the ultrasound tech said it was boy #3. I couldn't even speak and then when I got home I totally broke down and cried. Having a daughter is a life long dream for some us and you can't deny how hard it is to face the fact that it might not happen. And people telling you that you should just be happy that you can get pregnant at all, or have a healthy baby doesen't make those feelings of disappointment go away. Of course I'm extremely greatful to be able to have children, and have them born healthy, but it doesn't change the fact that I've had visions of having a little girl since I was a little girl! :) 

I'm a newbie here myself and finally got the courage to post yesterday! in-gender seems full of supportive ladies with a wealth of information so I'm so happy to have found it!

 Good luck on your journey and try not to feel guilty!!   

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