Just curious about the "pigeon pair"

I know not everyone desires a girl and a boy

Personally, I wanted all girls. Maybe a boy later down the road, but girls first.

I had my first girl in 2010 and now I am expecting a boy in October.

I am doing better with the gd and initial shock of a penis bobbing around in my uterus hahaha

Im now looking for the pros to having the coveted "one of each" scenario...what is the draw?

I really am just curious, maybe it will help me be more open to the idea, who knows. haha.

A friend of mine has a daughter that was born in 2010 and she is pregnant right now and PRAYING for a boy in December. I cannot relate to how she feels and that makes me feel like a weirdo lol.

I do think my daughter will get along well with a boy, she is really into trucks right now anyway- lol She does the princess girly girl stuff too but she is more the outdoors, barefoot in the sand type baby! <3 which I ADORE about her!

She HATES having her hair fussed with and mostly goes out with a "surfer boy" style hahaha.... she wont have any ribbons or tutus lol. She does love sundresses though, again due to loving the warm sunny outdoors and being barefoot. She would be happiest in nothing but a diaper though!

Im sure I will be fine in the end. I hope we all will!

You guys have been a wonderful support system!

Thanks for that!

 

 

 I think the reason most of the people I know would prefer a pp is because they only want 2 children and would like the chance to raise both genders. I would have been done and fine with it if we'd had a pp. 

Even if you don't desire a pigeon pair...you still get to see both worlds and get to enjoy them... cherish it. I can tell you are fearing of the unknown, but it'll be fine. Think of having a 1st baby again..all the unknowns and what if's..didn't you feel like that before your daughter? It's the same this time except now you have 2 on your hands. But it'll be fine :)

MunkyCrazy:

 I think the reason most of the people I know would prefer a pp is because they only want 2 children and would like the chance to raise both genders. I would have been done and fine with it if we'd had a pp. 

I can see that!

I always wanted at least 3. I dont remember caring about the gender before I had my first. I think I am just used to being the mother of a girl now lol.

I have wondered if this will be it for us. What with all the gd. But I wonder, is it easier to accept the gender of a 3rd if you already have 1 of each? I will just have to wait and see how I feel after baby boy arrives! If I am set on #3 being another girl....I probably wont have more to avoid the inevitable gd worries. But who knows, maybe I truly and honestly wont care. (that would be my wish)

 

 I agree i think its the opertunity to raise both genders. I always wanted boys so when i got a girl first my heart sank a bit so i was exstatic to get a boy. I really was only having 2 babies! Its great now my daughter mothers my son, she gets him everything and treats him like her baby doll. Its amazing. And he lets her do it. I love the fact that she is a daddy's girl and my son is a huge Mommy's boy. We see it as one each, my DP can take our son fishing and i can take our daughter shopping.

 

I think if we did have another i probably shouldnt care about the gender but im sure i would want a boy again. Although its not really a big issue as i have got to experience one already.

 

GL with your pregnancy i think you will be amazed by the connection of a mother and son.

Hi everyone! I have a PP twins and agree with the posts about raising both genders as you get to see how alike and different they are and with twins I guess they have an extra special bond anyway.

What upsets me is that I want more children but have been advised against it by my doctor and hubby is not up for it anyway. People just say to me all the time how lucky I am and that I dont need to have any more as I have a boy and a girl but the desire for more children is there and people just assume because you have a PP you dont want anymore!

Interesting that before I got pregnant I had a strong girl preference. I found this website because I suffered GD whilst pregnant as everyone kept saying 'i bet you want one girl etc' and it messed with my head. Now, if I found I was pregnant again I would not mind what I had but maybe even prefer a boy as my son is so much easier then my daughter.

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 I personally never wanted a PP.  I mean, don't get me wrong, I would have been happy if I had that, but I always wanted three kids.  I Think the reason is cause I come from a PP family and I wanted something different.  I think some of the reason people want that is that society tends to think that it's the most desirable.  And I guess it's nice to get a chance to raise both genders.  That's why I want this one to be a girl, so i can experience something different.

I have a pigeon pair . Son was born in 2005 and daughter in 2010 . They are 4.5 years apart and adore each other! He did not want a brother and wanted a sister so much. They are so fun together! They always hold hands and run around the house, he makes her race cars out of boxes and pushes her in them, teaches her about bugs and worms and they love to go on bug hunts together. They are opposite genders and still have fun together! It's really neat getting to experience raising both genders and seeing the similarities and differences between them.O

I truly wanted tje experience of raising both. When ds was born, I loved him dearly. But I had GD, which primarily came from my fear of never having a dd. We live in an area where boys noticeably outnumber girls, along with other factors. So I went High Tech. I was lucky and got my dd. Now that I have both ds and dd, I just love how sweet they are with each other. This will continue as they get older, and I look forward to watching the brother-sister relationship I didn't have but secretly always wanted (I have one sister). My mom and best friend are both the "G" in a BG family and both had that brother who looked out for them. I could go on and on, but I personally feel fortunate with my family. Hopefully you will think of this all one day and laugh! Your new ds and dd will be precious together, I promise!

I wanted 2 girls. I have a 3yr old daughter, and a 4 month old son. I suffered from GD from the moment I fell pregnant because I just *knew* deep down he was a he. I really struggled with that

While pregnant I tried to talk myself into how good it would be to have a boy, what would be great about having a PP, but in the end until he was in my arms nothing really helped. But man, once he was in my arms I finally experienced love at first sight (funnily enough I never got that with my daughter)

Now I can see the pros. I have one of each - that means that my daughter will never have to be "one of the girls". She will always be my best girl, and he will always be my best boy They will still do things together, but will also have things they can do apart, and I hope because of they are of each gender there will be less comparison as they grow.

You will be fine in the end. His bits will cease to matter - except when changing a nappy lol

I am excited about the opportunity to raise both genders.  I really liked the idea of having a girl first and boy second because I liked the idea of the big sister and little brother dynamic.  I'm hoping they will grow up close but it's too early to tell.  My DD has been helping by running over and putting the paci in his mouth when he's crying or by putting blankets over him.  She loves being a big sister!  Either way, they are both very much loved by my DH and I.

AlphaCentauri82:

I am excited about the opportunity to raise both genders.  I really liked the idea of having a girl first and boy second because I liked the idea of the big sister and little brother dynamic.  I'm hoping they will grow up close but it's too early to tell.  My DD has been helping by running over and putting the paci in his mouth when he's crying or by putting blankets over him.  She loves being a big sister!  Either way, they are both very much loved by my DH and I.

Hey!

How are you doing with the age gap? Looks like I will have a few more months between mine (27 month gap)

Lately I have been VERY concerned about the gap. Worried my little girl will get lost :( and resent me or her brother.

I really hope these feelings go away. I cannot even enjoy being pregnant and I have WONDERFUL pregnancies.

Best Wishes!!!

disneybride13:

AlphaCentauri82:

I am excited about the opportunity to raise both genders.  I really liked the idea of having a girl first and boy second because I liked the idea of the big sister and little brother dynamic.  I'm hoping they will grow up close but it's too early to tell.  My DD has been helping by running over and putting the paci in his mouth when he's crying or by putting blankets over him.  She loves being a big sister!  Either way, they are both very much loved by my DH and I.

Hey!

How are you doing with the age gap? Looks like I will have a few more months between mine (27 month gap)

Lately I have been VERY concerned about the gap. Worried my little girl will get lost :( and resent me or her brother.

I really hope these feelings go away. I cannot even enjoy being pregnant and I have WONDERFUL pregnancies.

Best Wishes!!!

I'm not going to lie, the age gap RIGHT NOW is difficult just because it's an adjustment going from1 to 2 kids.  My DD is maturing but she's been acting like the typical toddler right now - she doesn't have her "listening ears" on and she's been wanting all our attention so it's been hard to split it between a toddler and a new baby.  How is your DH with your DD?  The thing is, it works really well when one of us is with Amelia and one of us is with Maddox.  That way both of them get our attention.  We get time to clean, cook, time to ourselves when DD is playing by herself/watching a movie and if Maddox is sleeping.  I don't think your DD will get lost, but it will be exhausting giving your attention to both in the beginning.....do NOT let that get you down!

In my experience, my sister and I are 27 months apart.  I am the older sister and she is the younger sister.  From what my mom tells me, my sister was horrible with colic and had it for 9 months.  My mom told me that my sister got alot of attention due to that.  You know what?  I don't remember at all because I was 2.  My memories start to slowly come in when I'm 3-4 and I have stronger memories going on 5 years old.  From then on, I remember playing with my sister, fighting with my sister, and having a blast!  As your kids age, and they start playing together they will love the close gap between them!!!  I know me and my sister did! 

She will not resent her brother or you.  Siblings fight, but they play and have fun with each other.  Sounds like your girl is a little tomboy and will love a brother!  My DD is the same way and I'm sure her and her brother will get alot well when they get older!

 

Just adding that I'm the older sibling, my brother was born 20 months after me. We are super close, so I think having your kids close in age is amazing, even though it's really difficult for mom at first, but they'll grow up together and have such a tight, wonderful bond!

Its funny, I felt like you after I had my daughter. I wanted her to have a sister as I grew up always longing for one and thought 100% I would have a 2nd daughter when I fell pregnant again as I had an identical pregnancy. It was a huge shock when my son was born, I was happy but struggled a bit to let go of the idea of two little girls growing up so close together. With saying that my PP have such a beautiful little bond and I often will be driving and look back to see them glancing funny looks to eachother and holding hands, they are very close and love eachother so much. Its hard to imagine having a sister for my daughter now.

They are quite different though, my daughter is girly girl and a typical drama queen, favours her daddy and my son is full of beans and bounces off the walls..drives me round the twist but hes sooo funny and cool and like they said boys LOVE their mum's, he can't get enough of me! Its a nice balance really!