My OH is giving me GD!!

We are TTC our 2nd child. We already have a 1yo daughter & my OH is desperate for another girl. He says he never wants boys.. Personally I wouldn't mind either way but if I find out (once I'm pregnant) that I'm having a boy I'll be sooo disappointed because of him. Hate feeling like that! What can I say to him to make him ok with the idea of a boy?

I would just be frank with him and tell him what you have written here.

Good luck

x

Unless he can be ok with a boy I wouldn't be TTC naturally. Hopefully he just has a strong gender preference but would learn to embrace a boy if you had one, but I think you need to talk to him about it before continuing to TTC xxx

Waiting4Daisy:

Unless he can be ok with a boy I wouldn't be TTC naturally. Hopefully he just has a strong gender preference but would learn to embrace a boy if you had one, but I think you need to talk to him about it before continuing to TTC xxx

 

I agree.  Our children gain from us their sense of self confidence based on how we interact with them. If your dh would not be accepting of a son, that could be very detrimental to your son's sense of self worth & happiness.    

 

Maybe have your dh talk to other dads who have all boys and get some input on all the great things about having a son.   It would be nice if you could ask these men to keep their talks positive and not dwell on anything negative (as there are negative aspects to raising both genders if you do go by the gender stereotypes).  

My DH is the same way!!! I know he'd be accepting of a boy, since it's his child, but he truly wants just girls. I'm not pg yet either, but am hoping when I am, it'll be a girl so he gets his wish. FX we both get our girls :)

Ask why him he doesn't want a boy. Like ppl say on here, they want a daughter as a little mini-me, so he can of his own version too . I seriously hope the reason why he is against a son is NOT because of stereotypes!

I would have a serious talk with him to find out to what extent his GD would be if this next baby was a boy.  If your OH is serious when he says he only wants girls, maybe HT or adoption (if you can swing either) might be best.  Or be one and done (?).   The other thing I can think of is how many kids you want.  Would he (and you) be willing to go for three if this baby is a boy, to try for another girl.  It’s a matter of what he wants/doesn’t want.  Does he want 2 girls?  Or does he just not want boys?  This can also help you decide.

Point out cute little boys in the malls, parks, etc.  Point out how they are just as cute as girls.  And caution him that many of the qualities he thinks he doesn't want in a boy (love of sports, roughness, etc) can very well show up in girls.  Find out the root of why he only wants a daughter (relationship with his dad, etc).  Talking about these things may help...

After being on this board over two years, I will say I am genuinely happy for him that he did get at least one of his DG.  I have a good friend who is suffering from GD (and perhaps EGD).  He has two boys, always wanted a daughter, and his wife went out and had Essure done.  He is my daughter’s God Father, and he always says how she is the only thing close to a daughter that he will have.  So again, I am happy for you and OH that you did at least get the DG for one child.

Its tough, I know.  Hang in there, and good luck!