How many tries/pregnancies are you willing to go thru to get your DG?

 I have always wanted three kids so I never got pregnant just to try for a particular gender.  Now that I am trying for #3 and have two boys already, I'd like a girl this time.  But that said, I'm done after this one no matter what the gender.  We dont' have the money or space for anymore.

CountCatula:

canadian you give me hope, you had 3 boys in a row and then got your girl! maybe I can be as lucky someday and get my boy. I'm 36 though so my age is starting to become an issue, I think. I agree SAHM if I could go back in time I'd have two more than I have now. Do you guys think 38 is too old to try for a fourth? by then I'll have a 13 year-old a 5 year old and a 3 year old, the spacing sounds perfect to me but my age concerns me. Also that pesky Vasectomy my husband is thinking about, I'll resort to beg him not to do it LOL mamai I hope you get your little boy! however your daughter would be so lucky to get a sister too, my two older girls have an incredible bond, they do their nails together and watch movies together, after my oldest is back from school they hang out together the whole afternoon, I didn't expect that since they're 7 years apart but they adore each other and they both adore the baby.

Yes I agree 38 is not too "old" it's not it first. Dh is 39 Friday! We have a 13yo/ 6 Yo / and 4 Yo and we were on the fence for number 4 and so happy we did!! Honestly when u saw 4 of a kind and then the 4th a different gender it gave me hope too!

 My husband and I only wanted 2 kids. After 2 boys and my desire for a girl we tried again and had 3 gorgeous boys. After several talks and alot of research we gave it one final go and I found out that I'm having a girl. When I found out that my 3rd was a boy I really felt devastated and thought I would never put myself through that. However when he was born I fell instantly in love with him and the two of us share a very strong bond. Before I tried for the 4th I had to get myself to a place where I was content with 4 boys and to be honest it took a good year. I'm so happy that my 4th is going to be a girl but know I would have also been content with hearing its a boy. I knew in my heart that I was never going to go again as it wouldn't have been fair on the rest of my family. Only you can decide but you really sound like a wonderful mum. Goodluck

 By the way I'm 38.

my hubby was done after each baby we had...I had was willing to have 5...but my body wasn't doing to well with my last...I swayed for her...the first 3 times I assumed I would have a girl in there somewhere...

I understand the age concern thing as I am going to be 36 in a couple months and my husband is 39 and we had a Downs scare with my youngest daughter- now 2. We decided to go for it and have 2 more after our 2 daughters were ages 9 and 12. We swayed hard using Shettles + supplements for the hope of 2 boys. Well, we got another little girl, who just turned out to be the best thing to happen to us old timers lol. Well, that's how I feel anyway haha. So, in the meanwhile I went to nursing school and now will work full time and was used to staying home with my kiddos. I'm lucky because my in-laws babysit, but I just don't know if I can handle a toddler and newborn/infant. Right now we are trying and putting it in God's hands. Coming on this board gives me baby fever BAD lol. My maternal instincts are working full force right now, but although I have always been a one time attempt and pregnant type (and took it for granted I now realize), I now have had several chemicals and a couple of miscarriages. So, I think God is giving us what we can handle which is what we already have it seems. We only have a window of a couple months left to TTC and then that's it. I don't want too much age between my youngest two. Also, I sadly gave up my own yearning for a boy and am hoping for another girl so my youngest can have the (hopefully) strong sister bond my older two have. They adore my youngest, but the relationship is just no the same and they will be out of the house when she is still so young. So, the short answer is 4, but it's complicated LOL!

MunkyCrazy:

 Possibly one more, but will probably be done after this regardless of gender. Before kids I wanted 4 and DH wanted 2 so we agreed on 3. By the time DS2 turned 2, I wasn't sure I wanted another. I figured we'd wait a few years and see how I felt, but knowing I probably wouldn't want to start over again. Oops, bfp. Now my yearning for a girl is coming back. I don't have the patience for a lot of kids though, a big family just isn't me. DH has said if it's a boy he'd be willing to try again but I would solely be trying in hopes of a girl. Not such a good thing, and HT is out of our price range. I just don't want to be forever angry at having boy #4 and thinking I should have stopped at 3 to save whatever is left of my sanity and not get a girl.

 Plus I don't know if it's because the pregnancy wasn't planned like my boys but I'm not enjoying it like I did with theirs. I was super excited about kicks and the idea that I'd soon have a bitty baby. That excitement still hasn't hit me. Hopefully after the gender scan it will become more real. 

 

 Now knowing for sure that we have another boy coming it does make me want to try again. I'm still thinking probably not although I don't want to say no for sure. (ie no permanent birth control) I didn't really have GD after 1 and 2 because I knew I would have more chances and I thought for sure I would get a girl. After ds2 turned 2 I wasn't sure I even wanted another because of the stress from my boys and the stress from a bad relationship with my DH. In the months before the surprise BFP I was contemplating leaving DH, going back to school and seeing what the future held just seeing if I found someone and we decided to have more kids. Plus I'm turning 30 this year. I know it still gives me plenty of time but I wanted to be done by 30. I'm not a glass half full personality kind of person and it makes my life not turning out anything close to the way I envisioned that much harder. Although I know that realistically, whose does?!

 

 

We were done after ds2.  But my longing to REALLY try for a girl got too strong, so yes, we tried this time because of wanting a girl. But this WILL be the last. As strong as my desire for a girl is, I have NO desire for 4 kids. LOL!!

 

I'll find out in a month if we got her or another beautiful boy! Either way, I'm done. lol

My DH is a procrastinator and has told me he was going to get a vasectomy since DS3 was born, but never made the appointment.  I am super fertile, so since then we had DS4, lost DS5, had early miscarriage, and we are now preggo with our first DD.  Neither of us planned on biologically having any kids.  They told me I would have trouble conceiving due to PCOS, so I just always figured if we wanted any we'd adopt.  Well, they were wrong because if he looks at me I get pregnant.  We have never planned any of our kids.  With some I was actively using birth control and with others we were just abstaining when we thought I would ovulate.  My DH is an only child, so after DS1 he was pretty much done, but I for sure wanted 2 once we had DS1.  After losing DS5 pregnancy has been really stressful for me.  This is for sure my last.  I have already made the arrangements with my doctor to have a tubal once she is born.

I always imagined having only two kids and foolishly thought I'd effortlessly have my "one of each". Well, since that's not happening, I'm contemplating a third (and last for sure!), but only if I still have my sanity after this next baby AND if we can afford to do HT for a girl (and are willing to go thru it physically and emotionally). Something tells me that won't be the case, but still, the door is not completely shut. Of course, if I were rich that I could really afford a few rounds of HT, having nannies and housekeepers, and not depriving my family of anything because we're stretched too thin (activities, sports, vacations, etc....), then we would try HT without much hesitation. But that's not really the case, plus I am no spring chicken either. When someone goes to college for one, and then doesn't meet their ideal mate until their mid to late 20s, and wants to be married first, then having kids gets inevitably postponed to your 30s! I wasn't ready to be a mom when I was 25 anyway, but you know what I mean!

 Since I'm curious--Is 3 a good number of kids to have? I see a lot of women on here saying "3" not "4" but that is an odd number.........Is one sibling left out? I have in my head right now that I want to try for #3 (although I'm almost positive it won't happen), but I worry about having either a boy or girl and how it would offset the balance I currently have (and 3--regardless of gender--is an ODD number). 

I wanted one child, DH wanted two, so we had the first one and then I was going to sway for the second to get a girl but I got pregnant before I got a chance to do that. It was another boy and I sank like a stone into the depths of GD.

It was my idea to try again and yes we did it to have a girl. If we have another boy, well we were aware of that possibility before we went forward to obviously its not that big of a deal, we are both pretty happy to be having three, sometimes you don't know what you want until you get it.

 Age is going to be the factor that stops us. We started late and are finishing late. No more for us after this.

 I have a friend with three boys and she is the same age as me and currently TTC her fourth. She didn't do anything to sway and I just told her about the sway diet and she's going to try it next month, but she might already be pregnant,

 I swayed this time with supplements and timing. I want to know I did everything I could to get my girl and if its my third boy, well he deserves to be here after all that and I will love him to bits.

 If I was younger then god only knows how many kids we would end up with. Probably just keep going till we felt finished.

When I was younger I imagined having 2 kids, and then after my first son arrived I thought I might like 3. My second child was also a boy, and I am 6 months pregnant with my 3rd boy. DH wasn't as keen as me to have a 3rd, and we decided to go ahead and have a 3rd and it would be our last. All through the morning sickness I was determined this would be my last child. DH had even talked about having a vasectomy. But, then we found out we were expecting another boy and GD set in for me. Despite DH still being sure this is our last, the thought that we could have one more try got me out of that black place. I feel guilty that I was finished having kids until I found out this one is a boy, but the idea has grown and the thought of a larger family than I originally anticipated sounds wonderful! However, DH is not onboard (but then he originally wasn't with the one I am carrying!) and we have no space. We live in a very small 3 bedroom house with my mum. She has a room, DH and I have a room and the boys share a 7ft square bedroom that has low bunk beds in it. It will already be a squeeze when the baby arrives, let alone another after him. If my mum did not occupy the 3rd room i think it would be ok, but she is not in a position to move out, nor do I want her to! Moving is not something we want to do, this house, although small, is lovely and in the catchment area of a great school. We currently rent, and are currently clearing debts so we can save for a deposit to buy a place to paying more rent for a bigger house is going backwards. It's all so tricky, but that yearning is there and all these things could be overcome if we want to.

I always looked at it this way we are adding a child to our family. I have 3 DDs yes I would love for this one to be a boy but I actually didn't get pregnant just to have a boy. I will be sad if its a girl but will love her just as much as the other DDs. This is our last child girl or boy we are done.

Photo-Girl:

I always imagined having only two kids and foolishly thought I'd effortlessly have my "one of each". Well, since that's not happening, I'm contemplating a third (and last for sure!), but only if I still have my sanity after this next baby AND if we can afford to do HT for a girl (and are willing to go thru it physically and emotionally). Something tells me that won't be the case, but still, the door is not completely shut. Of course, if I were rich that I could really afford a few rounds of HT, having nannies and housekeepers, and not depriving my family of anything because we're stretched too thin (activities, sports, vacations, etc....), then we would try HT without much hesitation. But that's not really the case, plus I am no spring chicken either. When someone goes to college for one, and then doesn't meet their ideal mate until their mid to late 20s, and wants to be married first, then having kids gets inevitably postponed to your 30s! I wasn't ready to be a mom when I was 25 anyway, but you know what I mean!

Photo-girl - I thought the same as you - that I would get one of each.  Well - two boys later- I thought wrong.  Now that my DH got his vasectomy- I know that I just have to deal with my reality.  Please don't take this as a brag or anything - but we are millionaires.....and even with all this money - HT isn't an option because my DH was actually done with having just one child with me.  I had to BEG for the second.  It really really bothers me that I could have done HT and that we can afford to have a third and that my DH basically said- you're dreams and wants are not important enough"

Sometimes I would take an understanding husband over money any day!!!