No one is disappointed in having girls?

Sportsfan1 you are not alone. I was feelin the same way about this site. Every woman here want girls and I see none that desperately wants a boy. I have FOUR girls. I only wanted boys b/c I find their less of a headache lol. I jus want a lil mamas boy cuz all my girls love there dad its sickening smh. But somehow still prayn for that lil boy 1 last time.

Hi guys! I am definitely one of those moms who WANTS a boy badly!! I wanted all boys! Well I got all girls, 4 of um. This last pregnancy we actually were trying just for a boy. And at our 16 week ultrasound they told us it was a boy and then at our 32 week one, took it away by saying woops we made a mistake it’s another girl! So now this means if we even want a son were going to have to have a 5^th child, and even then what if it’s a 5^TH girl!!! We just don’t know anymore. It’s lost of pressure on my husband as well because he wants a son to pass his name to. He loves his girls and all but so longs for the son he doesn’t have. Our family can relate!!!

I would spit blood out of my eyes if someone led me to believe for 16 weeks that I was having my boy, just to find out they were wrong.  I'm sorry doll.

I am still trying to come to terms with our girl-on-the-way. After 2 sons, everyone is thrilled with the big news and I'm still mourning the one more boy I'll never get. I adore my boys and being a 'boy mom' and it sucks there are so many moms dying for pink and I can't seem to get over it. :(

 

PuppyDogTailDreams:

I would spit blood out of my eyes if someone led me to believe for 16 weeks that I was having my boy, just to find out they were wrong.  I'm sorry doll.

RIGHT!! It's been a challenge but thank god for this web site!!! i was so confused, until i posted my 16 week "it’s a boy" ultrasounds, i thought how in the H-E-LL could someone get a girl mixed up with a boy. well after posting my shots, all the wemon on this site were able to confirm that the 16 week shots in fact were girl shots! My ultrasound tech was an idiot!! I WAS CRUSHED! i went for 16 weeks thinking i was going to finally have my little boy....what a mess. my GD shoot through the roof! So thank god for this site, and all its support!!!!

This is why, after reading all of these posts, I can't try next for a boy "naturally". I just know it will be another girl with my luck. No offense to you moms out there but I don't want to be a mom to 4 or more girls. I couldn't handle it. i also don't know if I want that many kids. I am so depressed about the 2nd one being a girl that I don't know how I would react if I kept hearing girl with my next pregnancies! GD is a real issue that is not recognized or taken seriously. People always say that once you have your baby it will go away. Unfortunately, that's not true. Yes, you will love your child but you will never get over the fact of not having your DG. GD will always haunt us when we look at the boy sections in the store and meet boy moms. It also doesn't help me that my 4 yo nephew always wants to play baseball with me when he comes by. In some cases (not mine) I feel that GD is in the same class as PPD. You feel you can't connect with your child b/c of the gender and that could lead to neglect. It could be a very serious issue. BTW, I can't get over these ultrasound mistakes that I am hearing. I wish mine were a mistake but I know that's not my luck. Can't these damn doctors be wrong when we want them to be? LOL

sportsfan1:

GD will always haunt us when we look at the boy sections in the store and meet boy moms. It also doesn't help me that my 4 yo nephew always wants to play baseball with me when he comes by. In some cases (not mine) I feel that GD is in the same class as PPD. You feel you can't connect with your child b/c of the gender and that could lead to neglect. It could be a very serious issue.

 

I read a big reason why you wanted boys was because you love sports and stuff. Well, have you ever considered the thought that your daughters may be sports people as well..I mean there are several girls who do like them like football, baseball, basketball. I kind of like some sports myself..so.  Your daughters may be sports fans themselves..and even though they can't really play baseball and such, they may like to try other sports like lacrosse, softball, soccer, field hockey, so you still get to have the chance to root and cheer for them in big tournaments. And I don't know if you like doing girly things, but if they are, it's another interesting thing to get into..so even if you don't have a son, you'll still can enjoy lots of things with your girls to the max  Do hope a little boy for you though :)

exactly right jj89! i just love you by the way. i said that on page 3. if boys can do beauty pagents why can't my girls play football?. i had to play softball which i thought was such a baby sport. a huge soft ball, heck no i wanted to play real baseball with the big boys! and why do i have to play on a girl team? im just as tough as he is!  i am ashamed to say it took me 11 years to realize that not all girls have to do gymnastics and ballet. i should have realized they were like me and wanted to do sports and be tough girls. nothing wrong with that, plus dd2 can do it in heels now!

 I have 2 boys and would love for this baby to be a girl. My idea of my complete family was at least just 1 boy and 1 girl and if we were meant to have more than great.

JJ89 - the reason I want boys is not necessarily just about sports. It's also about the connection I had/have with men and the lack of connection i have had with women in my life. I always had way more guy friends then girl friends because I just understood men more and they seem simpler. Even within my family I had more of a connection with the men. A lot of the women in my life are so dramatic and analyze everything. It was just more difficult. When I was telling my husband about my GD, I told him that I was so afraid of not connecting with my daughters. But, he did say that these girls aren't just anybody...they are my children. I should have a connection no matter what. I have to convince myself of that.

sportsfan1 I was so grateful to read your post.  I am in the same position as you.  I already have one girl and am due in October with my second girl.  I remember telling my husband before we started having kids that I would hate to have all girls.  I think I jinxed myself! I just found out last week about baby girl #2 and am still pretty disappointed, but am really trying to get over it.  I think I want a boy moreso than my husband even does.  I don't know if I want to keep trying because I am scared that baby #3 will also be a girl and I didn't want that many kids!  I think I am going to take some time off from thinking about it at least until we get settled with baby #2 and see how we feel after that.  Anyway - thanks for your post - it helped me to read through all of the replies and know that you are not alone!

Hi ladies, i think girls are adorable, sweet, and gentle,  not all though, but girls are cute and cudly. I think u ladies are lucky to have them.

I have a boy and girl, and now expecting third. I desperately wanted another boy. Somehow it was easy for me to raise a boy than a girl plus I am from asia where boys are preferred. My DH is so happy having another girl but i had severe GD after the 20th week scan and even though I would love her, somehow I know I won't have as much fun. I think it's because I personally don't enjoy girly things so find it hard to connect with my daughter who is into makeup, clothes, etc. Every child is precious, but yeah...I think I would have been happy 3 boys. So you are not alone. I think it's ok to feel a certain way as long as you don't transfer the feelings to your child. My daughter loves being a girl, and she is confident, smart and happy. I know I will do a good job raising another daughter also...but yeah, my preference would have been a boy.

  I want a son so badly that many times when I look at lil boys I can't help but cry !!!  This site has a mix of people wanting both genders...they just hang out in different groups ............

 

Mama.mancusi..I would have been crushed if that happened to me ! have decided when we are pg with next we are going to assume its a girl..even if the tech tells us boy lolz! coz thats the only way I can protect myself .......

Attitude in Asia sucks!!! I know coz I am from there...they want a Boy for all the wrong reasons ........I want a son coz I want to change the attitude people back in Asia have towards raising boys and girls...there are so many rituals/customs only for boys ..sucks sucks!  

Hi,

I haven't posted on here for some time, but this topic is highly relevant to my situation.

I have to admit that when my two eldest daughters were born, it was a very dark time for me. Having always pictured myself as the quintessential "boy" dad, I was completely unprepared for the arrival of two girls in quick succession...and it was a situation I didn't enjoy finding myself in at all! For probably two or three years, I was in an intermittent state of black depression, made worse by the feelings of guilt I experienced for feeling the way I did about something I was supposed to be happy about. Although I loved, quite unconditionally, my two girls (and the third one who arrived a few years later), the horrible, nagging, dull ache of GD definitely affected the way I felt about being a parent at all. It also affected my feelings toward my wife, especially when she made absolutely no effort to understand or empathise with my feelings...and in fact would become hysterical and abusive at any mention of GD or me wanting a boy, before closing down the conversation and refusing to talk about it at all, opting for protracted silences and/or exaggerated shaming tactics to try and prevent the subject from being discussed. This only made matters worse.

Now, some 10 years on from our last child, this elephant in the room is not even acknowledged by my wife any more. As far as she is concerned, the whole issue of children and my desire for a son is over and done with, a closed book, filed away and forgotten. But for me, it remains an unresolved issue...a wound that has never healed. My relationship with my wife has never really recovered from the damage caused by this issue and her attitude towards it. But I love my kids more than anything in the world, and couldn't be without them, so if I am honest I guess that is why I allow myself to remain in this situation, when part of me says that I should have packed my bags and left years ago. But the price I have paid for sticking by my kids is a permanent feeling of ambivalence, of things not really being as they should be, of my family not being complete, and now almost certainly never being complete.