it really helped me when my daughter died. my sister had this 4 month old baby boy. while i thought i would be so jealous i made myself go over there because it was better then being alone. omg that little boy cheered me up so much. he was so little and snuggly. and i could just hold him and love him. when they are that small who cares about gender anyway, but gosh he really made me feel better.
my sister and i stopped talking when she found out i was pregnant again, not sure why. i think she thinkis i have too many but recently shes really been helpful. she even offered to take 2 of mine since im in preterm labor. but i think the babys death took alot out of her. i kinda went numb and just cried all day so she took over and planned the funeral and made all the arragments. i don't know what i would have done without her.