PeonyPrincess - THAT IS AWESOME! congrats on your baby girl. I must confess...I too brought an envelope to the U/S that I had on Tuesday AM, all set to have them put the gender in it so we could open it at home. But after I saw this baby's face I was so immediately attached that I changed my mind. I kinda thought I might need to know the gender because of prior GD issues. But, after Tuesday AM, and how in love I am right now...I know that I'm not going to have any of those same issues. Like you, if I had that envelope, I would've been too tempted to open it, or try and see the result. And then I'd have to keep this major secret from my entire family, incl. my husband. I can barely keep it a secret from my husband if I buy a new lipstick! But seriously, that's amazing, awesome news. Enjoy shopping.
My husband and I are both Jewish...and I'm very into old wives tales/traditions/superstitions. So, when our son was born (we didn't know his gender either), we had nothing at all in the house for the baby. Only a car seat. Seriously, his furniture was delivered and set up when I was in the hospital. And, where i live, doing something called a Layette is very common...it's essentially all of the baby's first clothes, towels, wash cloths, sheets, etc. There are several stores that specialize in it. But again, because they're familiar with the "superstitions" they keep everything for the baby until the baby is born. So, I did 3 layettes...a girl layette. A boy layette. And a neutral layette with stuff for either gender (like stretchy pants and a basic sweatshirt!). That was one of the most fun days of THAT pregnancy! I'm probably going to do another layette in 10 weeks or so for this baby. But...basically my mom picked it up from the store while I was in the hospital and washed everything. Seriously, when I came home from the hospital it was like the "baby fairy" arrived and sprinkled baby dust all over the room. A previously totally empty room was now all set up for a baby...diapers, bottles, wipes, clothes, bedding, furniture, etc. It was really surreal. Although I joke that if this baby is a girl, we're definitely going to need a bigger house! Just from the clothes that both grandma's are going to buy!
GirlieDreamer - you'd think with my nubsession and biorhythms and everything else I'd be obsessed for a daughter. But I'm truly not (mostly!). I'm just fascinated by the influence of nature on the "world around us". And the development of old wives tales, nub theories, etc. I think it is really our attempt to control the uncontrollable. At the end of the day, I'm sure that there are ways to "sway" gender...and I know the Shettles theory, etc. But I think ultimately...you get what you're supposed to get. Nature finds a way. And women...we kinda have very little to do with it, because ultimately, the man controls the gender. I think in a perfect world, most families would want to experience both genders. Raising a boy has been a really exciting and interesting experience for me...because I'm SO girl. But I love it. I think raising a daughter would be a really interesting experience for my husband. And for his parents as well (because my husband is an only child). I'm kinda excited at the possibility of seeing my FIL hold a baby girl. He literally high fived my MIL when Spencer was born, because he was so happy it was a boy. Don't ask. My husband's family was WAY into the boy. And you're right...there is NOTHING like shopping for a girl. And I have a boy who I absolutely adore. It's just...the accessories, the embellishments, the EVERYTHING. As beautiful as they make boys clothes now...there will never be an oversized flower headband on my newborn son. For me though. If this baby is a boy, I hope to have fabulous daughters-in-law. I have an amazing relationship with my MIL. She's at times more of a mother to me than my own mother. So, I know that it is possible to have a close daughter relationship even when it's not your biological daughter!
UrbanFox - how is your pelvic pain? Isn't this biorhythms thing totally wild?
My last confession - I noticed a thread for JoannaK. Is she not part of our group anymore? I confess to doing a search for her name on here...and I saw that she had a bit of a rough experience regarding some early gender determinations...boy vs. girl and other "stuff". It's a shame that she didn't feel like she was being supported :-(
Okay, I should probably get back to work. Or look at more gender theories online!
I just can't really believe that there is a possibility that this baby might be a girl. I thought my sons nub looked girly too...but he was slightly more angled, and it was done a week earlier. Ironically, the U/S technician said at his U/S that she was making an early determination, and it was listed in my chart. At the 20 week, that technician confirmed that the early guess was in fact correct. But again, I view those nub shots as being a snapshot of a much larger picture! Time will tell though!
Hope everyone else is feeling good!
Baby boy born May 2008 Due with our delivery surprise in November 2012