We transferred 2 embryos and 1 split (giving us three girls). For us, this was a one time shot. We probably could have scrapped together the cash for a FET (we froze one) but that would have been tight. We consider ourselves very, very lucky to have come out of this experience with three healthy girls. Raising multiples is amazing!
You are very lucky!!!! I will be happy with twin boys, triplets will mess up my counts, lol.
Jackie is right about researching!!! I had 4 on my own with no help (the last 2 were a miracle, we weren't supposed to have them, I have thyroid issues big time!!!)
My initial knowledge of PGD/Microsort was what I read online 7 years ago when I found out DD#3 was a girl. MAJOR gender disappointment with her, glad I'm not alone!!!! I read everything I could online and at that time only GIVF was our only choice. Their documentation was minimal and hardly what I would consider accurate, but we had very little choice. After getting screwed over by them and HRC for 3 years it was finally brought to our attention Boston IVF here in MA did PGD for gender. We jumped at the chance (no others in our area will do for gender, so we were limited). I figured I had 4 kids and like Jackie, this won't be an issue, it will work first time! WRONG!!! They gave us a 40% chance it would take and 10% for twins to take. Our first shot gave us 1 fetus, lost him at 9 weeks, m/c at 12. Wasn't expecting that at all!!! I attributed it to working a stressful job with a jerk for a boss who made my life a living Hell.
Flash forward to this cycle. Apparently things have changed in 2 years, they now do all chromosomal testing. After much debating (see my other posts) we go again with a 5 panel probe. I did a lot more research on testing and asking around. We got both to take, but both blighted. Now my mission is to do everything under the sun to improve my egg quality, my health, and hubby's health and swimmers.
When I say do your research, I mean to find out what labs are used, what their success rates are, what your RE wants for your protocol then research all of what he tells you. Make sure you know 100% what is going on every step of the way, what every procedure entails, risk, odds, etc... Mostly make sure YOU are ready and healthy!!! NEVER assume anything, be prepared for everything, good and bad!!!
As for me, my own transformation now is taking about 15 different supplements and vitamins from prenatals, folic (took those anyway), adding in CoQ10, Fish oil, Vitamin C, L-Arginine, Royal Jelly/Bee pollen, super greens, super reds, maca root powder, herbal and green teas, more water, and a few others. My diet is VERY HIGH in antioxidant foods, I have a smoothie every morning, I use MyFitnessPal to track everything, I exercise more now, I will be adding in yoga and acupuncture in a few weeks. No more processed foods, very low sugar (I'm hypoglycemic, so I need some sugar), tons of fresh fruits and vegetables, very little meat, more fish. I've put so much into finding out what will potentially increase my egg quality. I will be doing this for 6 months before we try again. Hubby is pretty much on the same regime. Even though my OB says none of this is proven, worst case we've both become very healthy people ;) He's worked with a dietitian for over a year with no result until now. I personally needed to lose 50# before our last cycle but didn't. I am a woman on a mission!!! My "clinical studies" results are contacting and conversing with women who have tried these methods at age 40+ and have gone on to have healthy babies after multiple miscarriages. That is proof enough for me, I don't find it a coincidence at all. Hubby says it's a good thing they haven't determined it works cuz then supplements become "medicine" and they charge through the roof for it and you'd need a prescription. Makes sense to me :) I also take melatonin before sleeping. Antioxidants, antioxidants, antioxidants!!!
I'm journaling it all and could probably write a book on my experience, lol. If I can help someone else with what I find, that would be great! I'm starting with 2 different hospitals to test just about everything we can think of to see what the problem is whether it IS in fact old eggs (so SICK of hearing that!!!), or perhaps a different chromosome abnormality, my thyroid and hormones or maybe if my white blood cells are attacking the embryos the way it did my thyroid.
Good luck in your choice, but before you fork over any money, please know who and what you are dealing with and be very comfortable with your decision. The life you create is your baby! I keep trying to convey this to my oldest who doesn't understand how much we want to add to our family and not just balance out with boys. We have wanted our boys for years now, we've got nothing but a love and a great and crazy family to offer them.