Just need to vent....

Hi All,
I have NEVER before posted on any forum, but I have been reading BEAUTIFUL boys ages 3 and 20 months. They are best buddies and very sweet. I am now 36 1/2 weeks pregnant and we chose not to find out the sex. We found out with ds #2 and I struggled for the rest of my pregnancy accepting that I would have 2 boys. (I always thought I would only have girls). When he was born, I fell in love and would not have traded him for a girl...From day one with this pregnancy, I have felt this one is my girl. (We did nothing to sway the odds-I got pregnant right after I stopped nursing and I only had one cycle, so I can't even go back and guess when I ovulated. I just can't shake the feeling this baby is a girl---(am I totally setting myself up for disappointment? Probably so...) no matter how many times I tell myself the odds are against me (everyone tells me that I have over 80% chance of having another boy---my doctor says it could still be a girl, though)I have had some very "spiritual" dreams about a girl-everything from symptoms to heartbeat to the way I am carrying is different. I knew in my gut the first 2 were boys. Anyway, to get to my point. I had my checkup today and I am 2cm dialated and 75% effaced--reality hit me that this baby could come any day now. I don't know if I can handle hearing "it's a boy". I am so scared! I know if it is, I will fall in love once again...and we maybe can try again--but it would take A LOT of convincing my husband!!! I am so sorry to have rambled, and I hope I made some sense...I just needed to vent! Thanks!

I think you were brave to chose NOT the find out the sex of this baby, I have no clue how you are holding up, but soon the wait will be over for you and I believe that all it will take is just one look at your baby (regardless of boy or girl) and you will be so happy that he/she is in your life.  Please keep us posted once you have the baby.

Don't listen to that bull that you have an 80% chance of having another boy.  There is a link on this site that will give you the real statistics on this matter.  What you've heard is an old wives tale and it should be taken with a grain of salt.  Trust me, this will make you feel alot better:

http://www.in-gender.com/Gender/Gender_Odds.aspx

Welcome to the boards and good luck!!

My Mom had all boys until I came around, and I think that is why I still have hope for having a boy, I have 2 girls now. Don't be discouraged and good luck with your pregnancy. We want to try for another baby in the fall and I do not want to know the sex of the baby ahead of time because for me I think I would just be sad the whole pregnancy and when I hold the baby for the first time I love it no matter what it is.I feel like if we did have another girl I would be to tired and happy with her in my arms than to be upset. I am rambling, haha...

Anyway, good luck and let us know what you do have! ;)

Thank you Nicole98 for the link! It gives me some hope that this baby really could be a girl. It is just so hard to believe sometimes when all you hear are people giving you "statistics" and saying things like "kids come in 3's" I wish I had found this site earlier and could have actually tried to sway for a girl! I guess God has his own plan and decided we needed to get pregnant when we did and give us a little surprise! I must say that all of you on this site are so kind and non-judgemental and it is comforting to come here and read all these posts. Congrats to ALL of you who are having healthy babies and especially to those who are having the gender they desire! Maybe all your PINK dust will float my way in the next days and weeks. Thanks again all!

I completely understand what you are feeling. I have 3 boys,when I found out I was pregnant again I cried , just like I did with boy #2and#3. How could I possibly go through this again. Don't get me wrong I can't imagine life without my dream boys but I had always dreamed of having a girl.So I just decided after hearing about the 80% and more chance of having another boy from my doctor I would not find out during my ultrasound and just except that I was having another boy.  Well after my u/s I couldn't take it and went back to find out. This time it was a GIRL!  So my point to you is that it can happen.  Try not to listen to anyone else.You know you will love this child and keep in mind there is always a plan in life. Good luck and keep us updated!

I know many girls born after 2, 3, 4 or even 5 boys.  The older the parents get (according tomany resources) the more the chances for girls grow.  With that said, I think you were very smart not to find out the gender.  If it is another boy, once he comes out healthy and they will put him in your arms, I am posditive that you will be overjoyed.  Every disappointment will disappear behind the happiness.  And if it is a girl...well, needless to say, it will be worth the wait.

 

The loLord Bless you and the baby.  Good luck