Pretty sure...... but too scared to confirm.

Hi everyone, First time posting here. Can;t tell anyone IRL yet so i thought i might come here so that i dont drive myself MAD!!

My DH and I have 2 beautiful daughters, one who is 3 and one who is 9 months- i am currently on mat leave.

After DD 2 we decided that 2 was good for now and that maybe in 4 years if we could financially we would try for a 3rd. My husband is totally happy with just 2  and wanted to go for a vasectomy as soon as DD2 was born- seeing as how i have always wanted a son i asked him to hold off until i was 100% sure i was done too.

I am on the pill and have regular cycles - but this month AF never came - it is a week late and i KNOW i am pregnant...  i am to scared to even take a test, because it will make it real. We are NOT in a financial situtation to have another baby- not to mention the fact that i wanted to get ready at least 6 months before ttc and do all the swaying stuff for a boy. i havent told my husband - or anyone. I know he is going to freak out- just like i am. and to top it off i feel so guilty for feeling scared that it may be another girl-  not to mention that i know so many people who are having trouble trying to conceive and yet here i am worrying about the fact that i did- i feel like a HORRIBLE person.

I know i should just break down and get a test and tell my husband so that we can come up with some sort of plan- but at this point i still feel like pretending im not- (just for the record as soon as i was 3 days late i started taking my prenatal vitamins- just in case.)

I know everyone in my life will be soooo dissapointed with this news - to top everything else off.

My emotions are all over the place- one second happy that maybe i will finally get my lil boy, then scared that it will be another girl- then just hopefull that the baby will be healthy! Then scared for the type of life we will be able to provide for 3 children -

So confused, but feeling a bit better now that i have finally been able to express how i feel- 

Thanks for Reading,

dia

 

 

 

Scary. Hope works out though. GL

Hi there dia!  I got pregnant when my second was 16 months old, and we were in the midst of getting him started with an autism diagnosis.  We did not want three kids!!!  I too wanted my husband to get a vasectomy (he still hasn't), but it was not to be, but a third pregnancy was.  Anyway, I had a termination all set up, bought the pills in order to have the termination and the day before I called to say I would not be in - it felt great to do that. 

Anyway, the earlier you find out the better - then you can both deal with the news together, no matter how horrible it is.  My husband and I fought over my third pregnancy big time, but you know, that all goes out the window when you come to terms with it....it took me a lot of courage to do that pregnancy test I'll tell you!!!  I, like you, knew I was pregnant too, it was just confirmation of what I knew already.

Just wanted to say I know where you are, my oldest was only three and a half when my third was born, so all really close in age, which has been the biggest blessing in disguise!  So get you courage up, pull your pants down (ha ha!!!) and do what you gotta do! (just kidding, I know how very hard this is for you).

Good luck!!!  PS - I'm in BC!!  How're things in TO?  Lots of us northerners on here I think!

 Honestly would test.  You may be worrying for nothing.  as you just had a baby 9 months ago your cycle CAN be off too.  If you are pregnant you have to deal with what is.  Dont worry about what everyone else will think- do the test and go from there.  Your husband will be ok - he will be fine.  Good luck and sorry you are going thru this.  Im also in Canada too (Alberta)

 

mine was only 5 months old when this happened to me. im currently 24 weeks pregnant with our little boy. yes dh flipped at first. yes my family thinks im insane and most still won't speak to me. but dh calmed down. tell him sooner rather then later. yes he will be upset for about a week or so. but in the end he wil come around. mine is super excited now, probably because its finally our boy. but this couldbe your boy too. congrats

First things first, take that test!   I know it's scary but it's probably best to know either way.  For some reason you could have had a wonky cycle and if you are breastfeeding maybe something made it late this month.

I would recommend taking it by yourself in a safe and comfortable place - if it's positive and you feel upset it might be a good time to have a cry over it and come a little more to terms with it.

Good luck, hoping to hear an update.

Yes I would do a test. You could be freaking over nothing. But it will be nice to be sure. I'm sure your DH will be ok sometimes it take a little while but I think it will turn out fine. Plus then you both can decide what is best for your family. Good luck, KUP..

I agree, take a test and find out for sure.  You may be stressing for no reason if your cycles are just goofed up.  Good luck!

Ok. Take a test. Then we can obsess about what it is all you want. But honey, you might just not be pregnant, and what you are feeling now is all in your head. Take the test, we will be here anxiously waiting for your result. To support you all the way! Hugs,

 

 Thank you so much Ladies!!! You are all totally right! To be honest- i never even thought of the possibility that i might NOT be pregnant. The only times i have ever in my life been late or missed a period - i was pregnant, so i just assumed- but there is a chance i might not even be!!

(Sounds stupid when i re-read this sentence- because i should of obviously known there was a chance i might not be-)

You have lifted the fog i was under- i went in and saw my dr at his walk in- on the weekend and he gave me a requisition for blood work and U/S. i am going to do the blood work first thing this morning- then have an apt for U/S tomorrow at 2:30!  

Today i am feeling good that maybe i spent so much energy worrying about a pregnancy that may not even be- and if it is. You are all right, i will get through it, im sure my husband will freak at first but he will come around as he loves kids. But at this point im focussing on not stressing til anything is finally confirmed.

@ All the Ladies from Canada> Here in Toronto things are oddly warm for March- hoping they stay that way! So nice to see so many girls form up north here! Last time i was a regular on here with DD2 there were only a few of us :)

Again  big THANK YOU to all of you that responded and helped kick my lil butt in gear and clear the fog !!

xo

dia

 

I hope you hear good news (whether at this point it's positive or negative). Thanks for updating and we have to have you update again!!!

I live in Iowa and our trees are already budding and my tulips are growing like crazy already!

Make sure u update us!

 Just a quick update !! 

Wont have the results for the blood work til Monday and unfortunatley (i had no idea about this) but apparently the techs cant see anything til you are 6 weeks pregnant- so she could not confirm if i was pregnant or not- BUT i did 2 home pregnancy tests and both were NEG! I was shocked- i thought 100% i was- what a shock to see the neg- Still doesnt explain the dissapearing act my A/F has pulled but between all the blood work and the U/S results that will be all in early next week i will have an answer i'm sure.

Has anyone elses A/F pulled a disapearing act like this? My LMP was Feb 13 and i always have a 30 day cycle - and have never missed a period before other then the times i was prego.

PS- before doing the tests i broke down and told the hubby - he was super supportive and i felt like an ass for beeing so scared to tell him-

Thanks again Ladies for knocking some sense into me!

xo

dia

That's great that your DH is being supportive! I'm happy to hear you are feeling better. Are you BF your little one?I know when I was BFing my period was either not at all or light.

Thanks for the update! I've been checking back in just to see what happened with you. LOL. Totally stalking. :)